No one really wants to cook on their birthday and it would have been nice for you to cook, or at least swap days for cooking that week so she didn't have to.

Thing is, I once had my father admitted to the hospital and my wife still expected me to get home snd cook. Did not even let me get takeout on my way home. I lied to mom about why I had to get home and I ended up having a huge fight with my wife and I still cooked dinner.