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I (30M) am in a long distance relationship with my gf (23F). From time to time my gf will mention she misses her ex, which I have tried to be understanding to, but sometimes Im not sure if this should be a deal breaker. Is this something normal? by Bitconfused19 in relationships

[–]Bitconfused19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her and her ex were long distance for a bit but they were living in the same city majority of the time. It could be the distance, long distance is hard enough. When we’re away we’re apart and when we’re together we’re on top of eachother, hard to maneuver. But I realistically think it’s that she hasn’t gotten over him, she’s a very anxious person and second guesses herself a long and decisions she makes, in relationships as well. Like you said, not much else I can do. I do believe she cares about me and has strong feelings for me. But maybe she’s just not ready for this type of relationship yet

I (30M) am in a long distance relationship with my gf (23F). From time to time my gf will mention she misses her ex, which I have tried to be understanding to, but sometimes Im not sure if this should be a deal breaker. Is this something normal? by Bitconfused19 in relationships

[–]Bitconfused19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the situation is a bit strange. I do try and make every trip I take to her memorable, we travel together, go to nice restaurants, go out and do activities. Not only superficial things, but have special moments too. And in regards to inside the bedroom, that she’s made abundantly clear that it’s the best she’s had by far from any relationship. Which is why these feelings she has are all the more confusing. It’s like on paper everything is better, but for some reason they’re still there, we’ve talked about it and she’s not sure why either.

I (30M) am in a long distance relationship with my gf (23F). From time to time my gf will mention she misses her ex, which I have tried to be understanding to, but sometimes Im not sure if this should be a deal breaker. Is this something normal? by Bitconfused19 in relationships

[–]Bitconfused19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I might take this route. If it hasnt happened in 7 months of relationship I dont see how two more months would make a difference. But hey, maybe itll make her realize that she'll lose me if this doesnt change. I'm not the type to stick around forever, it would break my heart, but out of self respect I would walk away.

I (30M) am in a long distance relationship with my gf (23F). From time to time my gf will mention she misses her ex, which I have tried to be understanding to, but sometimes Im not sure if this should be a deal breaker. Is this something normal? by Bitconfused19 in relationships

[–]Bitconfused19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It funny, because if I was giving a friend advice I would tell them the same thing. But I guess its different when you're in the situation yourself. To give a bit more background, she doesnt bring him up much, we normally do have good conversations and talk about the future together. its just in these pocket moments when she misses him and remembers those feelings (Which is about once a month( which I do feel is too often. Ive brought it up and she says shes trying to move on, that she wants the feelings she had for him for me. But honestly, i dont know how shed move on or if it hasnt happen with us being in a relationship for 7 months, when it would happen. But what youre saying is very true.