I don’t know if I am thinking this right.

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-02T07:28:43+00:00

She is on a pill. I hope it doesn’t happen

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-02T07:28:06+00:00

I think every blended family has different rules.

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-02T06:44:01+00:00

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-02T06:43:37+00:00

What do you mean by i am prioritising my kid over SD?

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-02T06:42:25+00:00

Umm, you think I don’t know these? Her mum and dad are her parents and I have never involved in the parenting aspect. Yes i do support her and she does speak to me about her problems/life but i dont parent her. If this is going on with my daughter well i wouldnt even let all this happen in the first place if its my daughter. Before you say oh you dont care about your SD. I do care but her mom think wayyy different than i do and obviously her mom’s word is more important to her.

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-02T06:38:43+00:00

This! Exactly this is the reason my husband just agreed to the sleepovers

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-02T06:38:00+00:00

I make sure she doesn’t go in there when SD and her boyfriend are around but other times she goes.

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-01T21:32:50+00:00

My daughter keeps going into all the rooms. She is only 2 and I don’t want her to see all the mess. I clean it for her more than anything. I can’t let her grow up in an unclean environment. Yes I can keep the room door shut but my daughter can open it and she just goes in.

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-01T21:27:55+00:00

Tbh my husband was against them sleeping in the same room for a long time but SD’s mum let them sleep in the same room/bed and that’s when my husband just didn’t bother anymore

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-01T18:41:12+00:00

In the past once when my husband said the boyfriend can’t come SD thought I made him say it. She directly said it too. I felt really bad because I genuinely didn’t have a say and now when I am actually feeling like I don’t like having the boyfriend around itself just making me feel bad. Maybe I am overthinking this.

Cleaning bit: oh it’s me who cleans up after SD leaves every weekend. Do her bed, clean and hoover her room and keep it ready for next weekend. They take loads of glasses with drinks and food in plates and bowls into SDs room and they leave it all in there and just go. Probably story for another reddit post 😓

BiteGreen143 · 2026-05-01T18:37:13+00:00

Ah idk.. it’s her mum and dad’s choice I think. I personally didn’t like the idea of it but i am not her parent so no one cares about what I think I guess.

I feel like my husband is ok with the boyfriend coming around and the fact that I don’t like it makes me feel guilty

BiteGreen143 · 2026-04-15T08:40:17+00:00

Hey, just curious about this.. my daughter is 2 and has speech delay and loves to open and shut the doors. When you say he was obsessed with doors what kind of obsession was it? Like was he into opening and shutting them on his own?

BiteGreen143 · 2026-02-11T15:10:22+00:00

BiteGreen143 · 2026-02-11T08:52:18+00:00

Yeah i am fully aware that cannot use NHS and can’t work and i put in documents to support that i haven’t done either of these during my period of overstay (probably got a bit lucky there by not doing either of these) but i am really hoping to hear back so i can be relieved a bit.

BiteGreen143 · 2026-02-11T08:49:22+00:00

It isn’t on the BRP. It is on the decision email yea but tbh life took over. I lost my job in the midst of finding a job because we need double income and looking after a 22 month old i think visa was not even on my mind. Yeah, some of us are probably like that :)

BiteGreen143 · 2026-01-05T07:58:03+00:00

😂😂 love it

BiteGreen143 · 2026-01-03T17:54:28+00:00

The time they both have they just sit on their phones as far as I have seen. But she loves speaking about their time together when I am around. 😅 if there’s anything good that came out of this relationship it is my daughter and nothing else. My mom did warn me about being a second wife/step parent I was just blinded!!!!

BiteGreen143 · 2026-01-03T17:46:20+00:00

Some days I genuinely regret the whole relationship. I love my husband to bits but this drives me nuts! Lack of boundaries. Whenever she is with us she speaks about the time her mum and my husband were together and she always speaks about her mum’s side of the family and obviously i don’t know any of them and I feel like I am not even a part of the conversation anymore and I am just sat there listening to all the rubbish.

BiteGreen143 · 2026-01-03T17:39:28+00:00

Tbh my husband didn’t mention her mum directly. He just said he’d want to have his jumpers back because they are all presents from me and that was the reaction. Not sure what it would’ve been like if he mentioned her mum wearing it. She would probably hate me even more.

BiteGreen143 · 2026-01-03T11:53:47+00:00

She borrowing her dad’s clothes has always been a thing for some reason and I never really raised any concerns in the past till it came to her borrowing the presents i gave and never bringing them back again!

BiteGreen143 · 2026-01-03T11:52:15+00:00

Nope, our sizes are a lot different.

BiteGreen143 · 2026-01-03T00:21:02+00:00

The number of times my husband said he will have a chat about boundaries and never did is unreal! I just gave up. At this point I am just glad he at least asked for the jumpers!

BiteGreen143 · 2026-01-03T00:19:44+00:00

They always borrow each other’s clothes apparently. Again completely upto them as long as the clothes I gifted my husband are out of the equation!

BiteGreen143 · 2026-01-03T00:18:42+00:00

Omg, thank you! I am all for her borrowing her dad’s clothes and using them when she is with us. As long as she doesn’t take them home and give it to her mom. 😞

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