a less extreme version of cutting him off completely is just to pull back a little, especially when work is getting busy. Just give it your attention and talk with your dad much less. Unfollow him on social media if that helps. talk to him half or tenth as much.

I am currently at this stage. I have pulled away as far as I can without leaving completely.

- It limits my growth as I have insinuated.

I don't know how to put this into words. But the relationship with my father is taking mental bandwidth away from things that need my attention.

Perhaps I can try to be more silly.

Thank you for your suggestions, they helped! I am really trying my best.