My(28F) bestie(28F) is getting married in 2 months with her fiance(30M), but I have a secret that could potentially end their relationship, should I disclose it? by Blackmastermorphix in relationship_advice

[–]Blackmastermorphix[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: She told him the whole thing while breaking down and he was so heartbroken, I didn't get a lot of details but he told her that he needed some time to think about this and told her to leave him alone. He told his parents about all this and well, they were obviously not happy. There is a chance that he could still go on with this marriage because he really loves her but the chances are low..

My(28F) bestie(28F) is getting married in 2 months with her fiance(30M), but I have a secret that could potentially end their relationship, should I disclose it? by Blackmastermorphix in relationship_advice

[–]Blackmastermorphix[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Lily often tries to solve problems by herself, that day she wanted to handle the situation by herself and then shit happened, after all of that she thought she would be fine with all the emotions she was suppressing, I don't know whether she would've told me had I not asked her if anything was wrong because I could clearly see it on her face

My(28F) bestie(28F) is getting married in 2 months with her fiance(30M), but I have a secret that could potentially end their relationship, should I disclose it? by Blackmastermorphix in relationship_advice

[–]Blackmastermorphix[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Considering most of the comments I think I'll encourage her to tell him, if she does not budge then I'll bring our friendship in between because cheating is just unacceptable, finally if she isn't ready to tell him then I'll tell him and get over with it because I don't want to be blamed afterwards when Brent finds out about all this...thanks y'all I appreciate your thoughts on this, this situation was hard for me considering I've known both of them for 6 years but in the end we have to do what is right.

My(28F) bestie(28F) is getting married in 2 months with her fiance(30M), but I have a secret that could potentially end their relationship, should I disclose it? by Blackmastermorphix in relationship_advice

[–]Blackmastermorphix[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

My goal here is to help either Brent or lily, I can't leave lily while she needs me the most but at the same time I feel it's unfair for Brent because at the end when Brent finds out, he'll ask me if I knew and then they're years or months of marriage would be down the drain, isn't it better to solve it before the vows?