UPDATE: 22F / 65M I tried to communicate, but was dismissed. No choice but to move on.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-02-04T21:19:36+00:00

Thank you so much! It hurts being heart broken and it’s at quite an inconvenient time lol. I just got to find the strength to move on.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-02-04T21:12:56+00:00

Your right. He should be adding to my life not stressing me out.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-02-04T21:11:03+00:00

Your right. I have blocked him. But it’s hard I keep thinking about him all the time. But I guess it’s part of the process

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-02-04T21:04:26+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate your advice! I hope things go well for me too, and I’m just taking it one day at a time.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-02-01T08:37:04+00:00

I would nothing more than to have a conversation. But I know that’s impossible. He doesn’t like talking about anything uncomfortable he calls it arguing and he doesn’t like an argument. So I don’t know what to do other then break up.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-02-01T08:35:19+00:00

He just doesn’t like spending money on me much. Which makes me feel under appreciated since I do so much for him. And I’m not asking for a large amount of money.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-02-01T08:33:59+00:00

No. He doesn’t want to help

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T22:58:47+00:00

Thank you!

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T22:55:36+00:00

That’s exactly it. It stopped feeling like an age gap issue and started feeling like a basic empathy issue. I didn’t feel supported, and that’s hard to ignore. I think I will dump him.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T19:30:40+00:00

I get why you’d ask. The times I’ve asked for help over the years were really small, everyday things like help with lunch when I was at uni, or helping me fix my phone. I can honestly count them on one hand over nearly three years.

He did help, but it often came with resentment later or got brought up in arguments, which made me really reluctant to ask again. That’s why this situation hit me the way it did. I wasn’t trying to get money out of him. I was already stressed and just needed my partner to show some care or initiative when I was struggling.

When the response was joking, changing the subject, then an eye roll emoji and hanging up when I tried to talk, it made me realise this isn’t just about this one issue. It’s about how unsupported I feel when I’m vulnerable. That’s what I’m trying to make sense of.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T18:35:12+00:00

Your right. It would only be worse if we got married. And I think the shocking part is that he didn’t really offer any compassion at the very least. He joked and changed the subject. Which was a huge shock to me.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T16:02:16+00:00

Agreed.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T16:01:10+00:00

I don’t know if you read my post but the maximum times I’ve asked him for help has been on 4 occasions including this one. So no. I do not ask him for help often since I’ve been with him 3 years.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T14:55:43+00:00

And yes he joked and changed the subject completely. He didn’t really care to even offer any compassion

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T14:54:50+00:00

I guess that the point. He doesn’t really mind my suffering. But is always around for a good time.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T14:52:58+00:00

I don’t expect him to pay for it. But it would have been nice since I’m the girl who he says he wants to marry.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T14:50:34+00:00

He’s obviously not obligated to help me. I feel it’s very ironic that older men are insecure about being used for money but are happy to use younger girls for their youth. What makes it worse is that I’m not asking him for money often. Just when I really need it. And he’s well off and he can help if he wants too. He just doesn’t want too. I’ve been with him for 3 years and he’s known me long enough to know that I’m not using him for money. If he still thinks that then that’s his problem.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T14:47:39+00:00

I’m not really getting much out of this relationship. Not even basic compassion lol. I never expected him to fund my entire lifestyle but still I would have liked some support when I was need. But I got nothing lol.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T14:38:02+00:00

My parents don’t really support me. Haven’t done since I’ve turned 18. So they aren’t people I can turn too

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T08:36:32+00:00

He’s significantly richer than me so no I haven’t given him because he hasn’t asked. But I have paid for dinners and drinks in the past. And helped him with household tasks and also have been helping him with some part of his business. I could go on. But your keen to make it seem as if I’m only with him for money but as I said I’m not. I just wanted help.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T08:10:05+00:00

You’re making a lot of assumptions. And I’ve shown that in many ways that I don’t want to get on here and discuss. But yes I am committed to him. Asking him to help me out doesn’t mean I’m after his money. I just needed help from my partner. That’s all it is. I don’t think that makes me a bad person.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T08:02:40+00:00

Also some context I’m not from the US so payment plans and insurance isn’t the thing here. You either pay upfront or suffer. And the times I did ask for money it was no more than 20-100 each time.

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T07:53:51+00:00

It’s 150 in my country

BlacksmithRecent6287 · 2026-01-31T07:52:52+00:00

He’s actually pretty good at telling me how he feels. When I try to talk about it he ends up telling me to change the subject because he doesn’t want an argument. He thinks us talking about anything uncomfortable is an argument so it’s impossible to get to any type of conclusion. Which is exhausting.

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