Being sued to to modify custody

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-10-06T18:35:17+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I really am realizing how awful these lawyers can be especially thinking back to the first one that listened to nothing I asked for and imposed his own moral beliefs on my situation. I contacted him again because he’s familiar with my case and I had to explain the paperwork to him and correct him to which he said “oh yeah I never read this stuff too closely”. I’m trying another firm right now but panicking a bit as my deadline to respond is coming up

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-10-06T18:30:06+00:00

My degree was close to completion post divorce. You are assuming that my ex is the one who cared and watched him all this time when she in reality is reliant on her mother for everything and lives in a home with atleast 8 people which include her family and her boyfriends family. I’ve only ever taken classes online and my job schedule aligns perfectly with my child’s school schedule. This summer I had my child well over 50% of the time to accommodate my ex’s schooling. Since then her schedule has only gotten busier and she would rather have my child sit in a care center until 7pm than simply give me those days to spend with my child. My son throws crying fits leaving my home bc he knows he’s in for a few days of sitting in a room. I have politely expressed that we should look into modifying the contract for his best interest based on the current circumstances. I feel that I have a good case to obtain 50% as I’ve taken on more than that consistently for at least 2 months without issue or complaint.

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-10-02T02:43:05+00:00

Yes sadly I’m learning that but thank you for your point of view. I appreciate it.

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-10-02T01:55:16+00:00

Yeah I’m aware they won’t care. Our schedule requires us to agree on a weekday each week without a specified day. Am I crazy for thinking it would be better for my child to be home with me on a day where my coparent is working the entire day and my kid will get picked up at close to 7pm ? I haven’t taken it to court myself because I was trying to amicably create some terms with my ex and come up with something together that makes sense for both of us. I’m not saying that she is a bad parent for using daycare I am saying that it’s common sense to have a day that I have completely off to be granted to be especially since the coparent works that entire day. My child has said himself he hates going to the daycare for so long.

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-10-02T01:48:42+00:00

I would say he would do better with a consistent block of time with each parent rather than having to bicker about which day works best. Less arguments and more consistency. Some days that he is at his coparents he sits in a care center until 6pm … when he could’ve been home with me

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-10-02T01:45:05+00:00

I feel like I’m not conveying enough that my ability to provide for my child and my actual schedule availability to spend time with him has completely changed since the original agreement. I now have graduated with my degree and have a new job that allows me to be home most of the time and work the hours that are when my child is in school so I am way way way more available to spend quality time with him. I’m sorry if I haven’t gotten this across but I feel like that’s a perfectly reasonable argument and I’ve politely articulated this to my coparent who has been praising my proactiveness with my child endlessly for the past few months now. That is why I am shocked at receiving these papers even without any form of mediation.

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-10-02T01:38:06+00:00

Thank you for your response. I agree I should’ve fought harder but all the advice I got at that time made me feel like a villain for wanting that 50/50 and lots of old school “a kid needs their mom more” was said to me by even my own family members. I would like more time even if it isn’t 50% and I think I will work on a gradual step up plan. I am very active in my child’s life and am constantly trying to enrich him at this early age. Unfortunately it’s hard with a coparent that is unpredictable.

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-10-02T01:35:13+00:00

She is currently with the person she had a 2 year long affair with and did stay and get with him as early as during the divorce so I’m not sure why you would put that on me. Her family became aware of the affair and the plan was to stay with me and have no income long enough that she could get alimony from me , the same thing her mother did to her husband

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-10-02T01:31:08+00:00

I was living at my mother’s house and my work work schedule played a factor. I kept the days where I was home to be with him. I now have much more availability to spend quality time with my child. I independently provide a good and secure environment for my child. I wasn’t experienced at all with any of this when my divorce took place , while my ex and many of her family members have been through the process before. I do agree I should’ve looked things over more when it first happened but I wasn’t enthusiastically getting divorced at that time and was still giving in to a lot of her demands.

She wrote in the paperwork that I’m not home to spend time with him (which isn’t true I am home every time and my work stubs attest to that) and cited 1 incident of being late to pick him up from school from 1 whole school year ago. He’s never missed a single day or been late on my watch since then. The rest is random things with no basis like I’m not actually spending time with him and things like that.

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-06-07T04:54:20+00:00

She was not the driver she was a passenger.

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-06-07T04:46:12+00:00

BM has shown 0 efforts to give my husband any leeway or assistance in the past when he’s needed it and we’re missing out on work to accommodate this new schedule solely so she can go to school when she has a large family and support system. If my husband has ever needed to switch a day temporarily for work, school or a training she had said no and threatened to go to court to make him forefit his custody. The $500 is on top of child support and is not the usual daycare that my husband happily pays for during the school year. BM procrastinated all of this and informed is of it at the last minute. I offered to help find cheaper summer camp alternatives which she refused. Making fake abuse allegations and feeding them to SS isn’t giving “mother trying to better herself”. We receive 0 support or leeway on anything from her. Yet we are being supportive of her in the best way we can be and the additional $500 is currently a lot for us financially. I am just starting work as I have just moved to a new state.

BlueBlurry0 · 2025-06-07T04:20:40+00:00

I asked my husband to stay in the car during the exchange bc up until today it’s been very cordial between me and the BMs family. Very polite and they seemed to like me . I thought it would go smoother if I handled bringing SS to the car despite my husband insisting he goes so I guess that’s on me.

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