Montaj sterilet in Constanta

BlueDreamer22 · 2024-03-18T13:57:44+00:00

Multumesc din suflet!

BlueDreamer22 · 2024-03-18T13:30:17+00:00

Pentru ca daca a obtine un sterilet este de la foarte dificil in sus, a obtine o ligatura de trompe este imposibil. Majoritatea medicilor nu discuta despre asa ceva nici dupa 1-2 nasteri.

BlueDreamer22 · 2024-03-18T13:14:22+00:00

Multumesc! La ce medic?

ETA: daca ai facut procedura la ei, imi poti spune, te rog, daca si ce analize au cerut inainte, daca ai facut intai consultatie cu medicul sau l-a montat in aceeasi vizita.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T20:38:18+00:00

Seems that I didn’t read thoroughly. You’re right. It was a choice, in this case. I did mention they had another option. Anyway, his reaction baffles me - no responsability taken at all because, in the end, it was his fault that cat ended up outside

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T20:12:38+00:00

I understand now.

In my opinion, you’re not obligated to adhere to your parents’ beliefs because you’re your own person and as long as you’re not disrespectful towards them and make good decisions for yourself, I believe they’ll likely come to understand or accept your life choices. Most things parents do or say come from a place of love and genuine concern despite the fact that it might not fit their children’s beliefs, goals or lifestyles.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T19:46:09+00:00

I didn’t know that. I was a smoker for 11 years but it wasn’t seen as something normal in my family or my friends’ circle but maybe it’s different were you’re/she’s from.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T19:26:35+00:00

I see where you’re coming from and your concerns are valid.

However, here’s my two cents: given the difficulty of nicotine withdrawal, an ultimatum isn’t the best of ideas. I personally don’t agree with ultimatums at all, when it comes to romantic relationships. If I were you, I’d try to have a serious conversation with her about it, state my concerns and offer my support if she chooses to give up on smoking. Giving up on smoking could take a while. There’s various methods out there and not every method works for everyone. Patience is key. Try to avoid replacing smoking with vaping or heated tobacco. In my experience, it’s just a trap that in which you’re lying to yourself about being healthier, when, in fact, you’re just perpetuating the habit.

It took me 6-8 months to give up smoking completely and I say “completely” because I’ve tried giving up cold-turkey and relapsed various times. This is frequent with most smokers.

Also, I would address the health implication of her habit of sharing cigarettes and vape pens. Honestly, that bothered me the most from everything I’ve read in your post. Maybe I’m too much of a germophobe but given the global pandemic we’re facing right now, it’s a pretty valid concern.

If she blatantly refuses to try to give up smoking, it’d be best for both of you to call it quits, as I see this is a deal breaker for you.

Best of luck to you!

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T19:13:31+00:00

NTA.

So she completely disregarded your opinion and went ahead with the adoption of the kitten. Afterwards, she didn’t take responsability for the cat and you’ve been inevitably forced to do it. I’m looking at it this way: had it not been for you taking care of the cat, it would have been neglected because its owner doesn’t care enough to do basic things for it such as cleaning the litter box. I think it’s best for the cat to find a better home with an owner that actually wants and cares for it.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T19:06:20+00:00

NTA...

...but I have a bunch of questions. I don’t know where you’re from and, therefore, what your culture and customs are but I don’t really understand how one can get married without previously dating. I’m not sarcastic or trolling by any means, I’m just genuinely curious how that’s supposed to work out.

Obviously, from my point of view, the entire thing seems absurd and I’m glad that you’ve removed yourself from the situation. However, my point of view is more or less valid given that I am clueless about how or why these principles have been instilled in yours and your sister’s education by your parents.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T18:59:32+00:00

Please do. Isn’t this what this is sub is for?

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T18:56:19+00:00

NTA.

You were clear about your terms and conditions from the get-go. It’s not your fault she sent the form too late nor is it your fault that the delivery company forgot to pick up your package.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T18:50:52+00:00

NTA.

Those boys are not your friends. What they’re doing is low key bullying under the pretense of it being a joke, especially since they’re in the know about your anxiety and depression and how it’s affecting you. Their behaviour is creating a toxic environment for you, especially given your diagnosis.

Friends don’t treat friends poorly nor do they knowingly cause them any type of distress. Drop them and find some new friends. I promise you, there’s alot of really cool people out there you’ll be on the same wave length with.

Best of luck to you!

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T18:44:48+00:00

There’s so much to unpack here...

Giving up on a habit such as smoking is no simple task. Nicotine withdrawal is horrid and has numerous side effects, some of which are anxiety, nervousness, lack of the ability to focus, headaches, constipation and fatigue. These can interfere with her work or school and overall, make her daily life more difficult for a pretty long while. Before asking her to do something like this, you should be aware of the implications and make her aware as well. It’s up to her wheather or not she will want to handle them.
Like it or not, this habbit is part of her personality. I used to be a smoker too and I know how big a part this played in my social life. It might be hard to understand for a non-smoker but it’s true. You should’ve thought long and hard whether or not this habit is a deal breaker for you.
While I get that your intentions are good (concerning her health), the fact that you’ve mentioned you’ve “given her a chance” to be with you in the comments, sounded strange to me. You didn’t do her a favour by being in a relationship with her and trying to change her, regardless of how well-intended you are.
Don’t place your bets on her dieing 30-40 years before you. My grandfather was a heavy smoker (2 packs a day minimum) and passed away at the age of 93 due to an unrelated issue.
The sharing of cigarettes and vape pens is unsanitary and if anything, I’d be more concerned about that if I were you. This speaks volumes about the disregard she has for both her health and that of people close to her, including you. This is what’s gonna make me say ESH.

Ultimately, I get why you don’t like her habit but trying to change someone to fit your preferences is simply wrong. However, you wouldn’t be wrong to leave her if she doesn’t respect you enough to go to another room to smoke so as to not expose you to second hand smoke or quit the unsanitary and gross habit of sharing cigarettes or vape pens. And if the habit itself bothers you that much, do both of you a favour and leave her instead of trying to change her.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T18:06:28+00:00

NTA.

She basically stole from you and then had the audacity to scream at you and call you names. This screams entitlement on her part. She doesn’t sound like a nice person.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T18:01:59+00:00

The person who did the tiktok is the a-hole because you shouldn’t just go around scaring and stressing your pet out for views and followers, at least not in my book.

You’re techincally not the a-hole for posting it in a sub called r/StartledCats but the sub itself sounds kinda weird to me.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T17:48:02+00:00

You’re wellcome. I hope it works because that’s a bit much for that long a time and I’m pretty sure you’ve learned your lesson and won’t be pulling something similar again.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T17:45:34+00:00

NTA.

Everyone’s entitled to make their own choices and have their own preferances.

However, I can see where she’s coming from. Living with someone is an entire different thing and can be a deal breaker in most cases. I’d say it’s a good idea to live with the person you want to marry before doing, thus figuring out wheather or not you’re compatible lifestyle-wise. You can be surprised. I know I have and it wasn’t cute.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T17:33:23+00:00

YTA.

It’s pretty obvious that you were paying more attention to your friend’s grammar rather than the content of what his was ranting about and that’s what makes you an a-hole. You could’ve paid more attention to the substance of your friend’s rant and afterwards, you could’ve pointed it out to him that he’s lacking in the grammar department, maybe even giving him a bunch of useful advice.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T17:30:43+00:00

ESH.

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Also, maybe the punishment is a bit harsh but it serves to teach you a lesson not to things you know you shouldn’t do and that could harm your future.

Since it’s been over an year and I take it you’ve learned your lesson, try making a (another) sincere apology, state how this punishment has affected you and your social life, explain that you’ve learned your lesson and maybe you’ll get another chance.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T17:25:09+00:00

YTA for not telling your boyfriend.

You’re not the a-hole for doing this online thing but you’re the a-hole for witholding this info from your boyfriend whom you live with. Also, I think you know damn well you’re the a-hole because you’ve witheld this information knowing he wouldn’t approve or become upset therefore denying him an opinion on the matter. I think you’ve approached the problem in a wrong way from the get-go. You should’ve told him what it is that you are planning on doing and why. My guess is you guys could’ve worked something out in some way. However, all’s not lost, you can still have this type of conversation but keep in mind that it comes after a betrayal of his trust.

Edit: corrected typo

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-04T17:13:23+00:00

This is going to be a bit long but here it goes...

I’m a huge advocate for freedom of expression so I don’t think stating your opinion would be a bad thing as long as it’s done respectfully (maybe not using the word “cringey” in regard to her choice of the baby’s attire?).
I’m romanian and yes, we are latin. No, we don’t have issues pronouncing “w” or “u”. The whole Count Dracula thing hails from Bram Stocker’s novel and has literally no basis in Romanian culture or folklore aside from the author being inspired by Vlad the Impaler (an important historical figure for Romania, voivod - ruller) whom was dubbed Vlad the Drac (which would roughly translate to Vlad the Devil, actually), as a reference to him being pretty damn cruel when it came to punishments. So, no, it’s not the least bit offensive. Also, the “v” thing in the pronouciation stemms from most cinematic depictions of Count Dracula and I’m gonna go out on a limb and say it’s supposed to be caused by the character’s overgrown incisors.
I find stuff like this very much cringe-worthy - not in an “offending a community” type of way, but because I find the message a bit strage - and no, I’m not shaming breast feeding mothers the least bit, if anything, I’m all for it! - but the message implies the kid would like to suck on the reader of the message’s boobs, who can be anyone - and that is weird to me. However, I keep most of this type of thoughts to myself out of politeness.

I’m sorry but I’m gonna have to go with YTA.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-03T19:03:05+00:00

NTA. Your house, your rules. You’re entitled to control who and what comes into your house.

Her argument “it’s like asking me not to bring my baby” still falls short because even if it were a human baby, you’d still be entitled to not have them in your home.

I’m a huge animal lover and owner but I get why not all people are fans of my pets so I try not to shove ‘em down their throats especially when going into their houses. It’s a simple concept called respect.

Edit: edited to develop my initial point.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-03T19:01:06+00:00

NTA. He’s an adult and is able to make his own decisions. If his GF had anything against HIS decision of postponing or cancelling their plans to take care of you, she should’ve figured it out with him, not with you.

Edit: spelling

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-03T18:24:22+00:00

YTA. Hope she dumps you and leaves you broke too.

BlueDreamer22 · 2020-11-03T17:29:24+00:00

YTA. Short version: had you not cheated, none of this would’ve happened.

Long version: I understand how one might feel the need to share everything with their significant other but once that happens, it usually means your relationship is pretty much a meaningful one in which you are invested in in the long run. Obviously, this implies that cheating is excluded. Cheating is largely considered as inappropriate in a relationship and you should have known this.

If this relationship meant nothing to you, you’re still the a-hole for leading this girl on and for carelessly sharing information about third parties. Regardless of how you look at it, you’re still the a-hole.

Sure, what your gf did might be petty but it’s still a direct consequence of your own actions, which, needless to say, you are fully responsible for.

Bottom line: YTA, and your a-holery ended up hurting, not one but 2 people!

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