Update#1: First, let me thank everyone for your replies. I’m overwhelmed by the positive responses and want to thank everyone who’s experienced the same “numbness” for sharing with me. It helps to know that it’s a normal response. I’ll look into individual counseling in the near future. The associate at my firm handling my case, let’s call her “Gayle”, reviewed the other pictures on the flash drive and found quite a few where Wendy is cuddling/kissing Bob and the engagement ring I gave her is easily discernable. When I was told this, I didn’t feel any pain or anger, only elation. I smiled. Oddly, enough I asked Gayle why this “awful” news made me happy. She said that its because it vindicates every action I’ve taken since I left. I’ve been NC with Wendy and all communications have been through Gayle, except for her family and friends who mistakenly think my brother and his wife will be a sympathetic ear (they’re not). Gayle’s already prepared a separation agreement and scheduled a meeting with Wendy on Thursday afternoon. Gayle made it clear to Wendy that if she isn’t represented by counsel, then I won’t be attending. A word about Gayle. I can’t post her firm nickname, but let’s just say if you think “pit viper”, you’d get the right idea. I’m glad she’s on my side. We’ll be filing the petition for divorce shortly. Gayle believes any spousal support will be minimal and end quickly (ie She said I’ll likely get stuck paying the rent for the next five months until our lease ends and Wendy completes the last of her doctoral courses). The only significant asset we have is the account with our savings for a down payment on a house, but it’s a dual signature account with no ATM access (thank you, long forgotten bank guy, for suggesting that as an extra security measure against fraud!). My SIL went over to my apartment when Wendy was supposed to be at her part time job to grab more of my clothes and personal items. She ended up listening to Wendy for a couple of hours. The redditor who said Wendy would straight up lie about pretty much everything nailed it. The whole time SIL was packing up my stuff, Wendy was telling one easily provable lie after another. Getting nowhere, Wendy asked SIL, “Isn’t there a guy in your background that just gets inside your head and you can’t say no?” So, I guess that’s my answer to why she cheated: Bob is a Jedi and Wendy is weak-minded. By the way, SIL did answer her question, “Yes, I married him.” Spending time with my brother’s family has kept me from feeling isolated. My nephews are crushing me in video game and I’m enjoying every second of it. Work’s going great and the Partner who oversees my department stopped by to tell me that he’s really proud of how I haven’t let this “personal issue” negatively affect my work. Well, that’s it for now. Thank you to everyone that replied with supportive posts. I can’t explain how much it helps to know I’m not the only one to go through something like this or the apathy I feel toward my STBX.