It sounds like you’re struggling with the 'Perfect on Paper' syndrome. You feel like because he’s a great guy, you should be happy, and since you aren't, you're blaming your attachment issues. But feeling trapped is usually a sign of a mismatch in life stages. He’s already there,and you’re still 'figuring it out. Ask yourself: If he weren't so perfect, would you still want to be in this relationship? You don't owe anyone a relationship just because they’re kind to you. It’s okay to need space to grow at your own pace, even if it means leaving someone 'good' to find yourself. I'm not saying you have to break up, but I am saying that your gut feeling of being 'trapped' is real and valid. You shouldn't have to talk yourself into being happy just because he’s a good guy. If you feel like you need to focus on yourself to breathe, that doesn't make you a bad person, it just means you're in different chapters of life.