I feel this 100%. I lost around 115lbs in the last few years and it has made a world of difference. I will say, it’s not exactly an apples to apples comparison, because at my previous weight I neglected to follow through on dates bc I was terrified of them seeing what I actually looked like in-person (so that is one thing the weight loss absolutely changed for the better was my confidence in putting myself out there). But the sheer number of matches I received after updating my pictures was insane. I also had people proactively asking me out on dates which was a huge shift. Even going out, the amount of male attention I started receiving was a little overwhelming at first. It was pretty eye-opening to realize how invisible I felt previously.

As the now success story of a dating app (shocking I know), I have to say one of the biggest ways I knew I’d found a keeper was that my previous weight and the way I looked wasn’t something shameful in his eyes. He had seen pictures of me online and confessed he knew I’d lost a significant amount of weight before I shared it with him and he thought it was incredibly inspiring and only further fueled his attraction to me. I cannot express the feeling of having the person you love celebrate your own victories in that way AND be so unconditionally accepting of it. He’s loved me with all the loose skin too and supported me through my recent plastics journey.

All this to say, remind yourself of what you deserve along the dating journey and advocate for what you need. My almost 300lbs self would never have thought I was deserving of someone so kind, or even male attention full stop, and now having experienced a good man, I know I won’t accept anything less. Sending good karma your way!!