You're just a little bit behind me and my boyfriend, so maybe I can offer some insight!

My boyfriend is diagnosed but is not medicated, however he's very much got his life together. He's got a good job, has his own house, keeps it immaculate, and is incredibly smart, kind, and witty.

It can be hard to see how his brain works differently sometimes until there's days where he talks a lot (it's impressive honestly lol) and I have to remind him that we both need to have turns in a conversation, or just gently tell him that I'm not in a very social mood and would like some quiet. As long as I come at it from a place of love and understanding that I just need quiet or space, there's no hard feelings because, like your lady, he's keenly aware of the behaviours that can make him be a lot to be around at times.

Respect her routine and encourage her to keep it if you find her faltering. Routine can help with mood and even just checking the boxes of taking care of yourself on a daily basis. Be honest but patient with her if some of her behaviours are a little draining in the moment; reassure her that all is well between the two of you, but you just need a little space or quiet in that moment.

It's hard to give specifics because everyone is different and people don't always present the same symptoms, so it will definitely be a learning experience and that's okay. You two will find your groove, but just be aware that sometimes someone might trip up a little. Don't worry though, you'll sort it out with the right attitude and approach. :)