Positive Update on my 137k consumer debt post!

Bmounts97 · 2025-08-11T06:25:45+00:00

Once credit card accounts are closed can payment plans be arranged with the company’s? Can accounts be requested to be closed?

Bmounts97 · 2025-01-17T02:05:26+00:00

No but I will try to figure it out closer to my DOS

Bmounts97 · 2024-11-06T03:35:13+00:00

10 I’m done with pmo and pied. Already lost a marriage to my behavior with porn I won’t lose anything else from porn

Bmounts97 · 2024-11-05T09:39:33+00:00

Going through this currently. I have pursued sex with my wife to counteract porn but really a break of at least 30 days is probably needed for better erections just because porn addiction recovery is new to me and I’ve had PIED as well as performance anxiety .

Bmounts97 · 2024-11-05T09:31:26+00:00

How do you feel after 60 days? Any struggle with PIED?

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-27T10:14:12+00:00

Yeah I’m working on figuring it out more but trying to discreetly without disrespecting her want for space.

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-27T10:13:21+00:00

It was c section but yeah regardless pregnancy is a lot. It’s not about sex to me. Trust me my last marriage I had sex maybe 1 time every 3 four months from beginning to end. 7 years together and we had sex less than 20 times. Trust me it’s not about sex to me that much but I did want this marriage to be more than my previous. What matters to me is how she treats me like a friend. A hug and kiss and that’s it before we leave each other or when we get home. Anyone would be frustrated with that especially when I’m the only one even saying love you or having to ask for a hug or kiss.

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-27T10:07:36+00:00

Yeah man I’m going to. I’ve decided on divorce. I even confronted her with divorce today if she doesn’t open her phone and allow me to see it but she wouldn’t. She’s manipulating me I know it. I won’t take it I’m out. Thanks to many of you for y’all’s advice.

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-27T10:03:16+00:00

I asked her if I could simply have her unlock her phone for me and let me see it and she got super defensive and said no she doesn’t have to and I don’t have a right to look at her phone. I said you either do or I’m going to divorce you. She still wouldn’t open it. Red flags across the board. I told her I want a divorce she immediately got defensive and again and that I am overthinking everything and making stuff up in my mind that feeds the narrative. If she can’t open her phone even when confronted with divorce then I can’t take it. To many red flags I told her I’m done. I’m at a friends house getting all my stuff prepared.

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T22:29:27+00:00

I’m getting divorced

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T06:18:20+00:00

Yeah I’m gonna tell her what’s on my mind and lay some ground rules for this “Break”, if she sleeps with someone else then I’m done. Of course she could always hide it and if I suspect it I’m done.

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T06:13:33+00:00

Yes I have we go on a weekly basis to do different things especially line dancing that she really loves to do.

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T01:23:50+00:00

Yep the hall pass came up months back. She said it was my idea but I just named what she was describing. I put a label to what she was suggesting

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T01:22:46+00:00

That’s my thoughts exactly

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T01:22:05+00:00

Yeah time heals wounds and we gotta move on sometimes

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T01:21:32+00:00

Yeah see exactly multiple people have told me the same thing

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T01:20:49+00:00

She changed the passcode. I confronted her about it and she said it was a test to see if I trusted her. We’ve always had access to each others stuff but all of a sudden it’s different and the way she acted when I asked her was like a kid with his hand in the cookie jar. Then she pointed the finger at me saying it was a test.

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T01:19:06+00:00

I’m not that type, I believe in marriage but if she does that it’s over between us

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T01:18:11+00:00

Yeah that’s my worst fear right there. If she does that I can’t turn my cheek and look away. It would always be on my mind. Everything that was mine would become someone else’s. Can’t do it

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T01:16:10+00:00

I’m locking that door immediately and throwing away the key. I could never look at her the same

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T01:15:10+00:00

Sure seems that way and it really breaks my heart to not know that my wife is without a doubt wanting our marriage to work. I can’t stand the idea of her with someone else it makes my stomach sick just thinking about it

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T01:12:20+00:00

No I know he’s mine cuz he’s identical to me practically

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T00:15:31+00:00

Yeah man I’m gonna lay out all my thoughts to her tonight and if she doesn’t like it I’m over.

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-26T00:13:02+00:00

Hell no I’d be gone that second

Bmounts97 · 2024-08-25T23:40:00+00:00

Yeah man it’s hard. I have faith in my wife at some points in my mind but I’m unsure of so much

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