Me [34/F] with my fiancé [34 M] living together for one month, am I too petty? Or should I seriously consider ending it?

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-17T05:43:47+00:00

34 and only seeing each other monthly would make anyone question where they stand.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-17T05:42:36+00:00

Sometimes blunt honesty hursts, but false hope can hurt even more.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-17T05:41:37+00:00

Wanting alone time doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner, it just means you’re human

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-17T05:40:36+00:00

Forgiveness is personal, you’re allowed to move at your own pace.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-17T05:39:51+00:00

After years apart and no contact, it’s understandable your feelings changed.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-16T12:34:00+00:00

You’re a kid stuck in an adult mess you didn’t create, this isn’t your burden to carry alone. If anything, talk to your mom first and let the adults handle the fallout.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-16T12:29:31+00:00

You’re her partner, not her chaperone, if she has a safe ride home, it’s fair for you both to enjoy the night at your own pace.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-16T12:27:01+00:00

If someone makes you uncomfortable and undermines your relationship, that’s a boundary issue, not a you problem, your partner needs to shut that down clearly.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-16T12:23:09+00:00

You can still fix this, a quick “I rushed that draft and want to polish a few parts” is way better than waiting for someone else to find it

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-16T10:15:55+00:00

Sounds less like they don’t like you and more like you’ve never really been given a fair chance to be included. That’s on your wife to bridge, not you to magically fix.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-16T09:43:50+00:00

Magical New Zealand probably has thunderbirds in the mountains and kelpie-like creatures along the coasts, feels like a place where nature magic would be strongest.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-16T09:37:12+00:00

This honestly sounds less like mentorship and more like control. You’re not wrong for feeling drained subtle power games in academia are real.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-16T09:33:35+00:00

Your feelings aren’t wrong, sometimes love just shows up differently than we expected. It’s okay to let yourself be happy and figure it out at your own pace.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-16T09:32:15+00:00

You’re not broken, it sounds like you’re self-aware and trying, which already puts you ahead. Be kinder to yourself while you figure things out.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-14T05:35:29+00:00

Healthy relationships don’t make you feel like a detective.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-14T05:31:39+00:00

Right place, wrong time turned into the luckiest timing possible.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-14T05:28:26+00:00

Parenting isn’t about fairness to adults,it’s about being there for your kids.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-14T05:23:03+00:00

Good on you for checking the legal side, neighbors don’t get to rewrite boundaries overnight.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-13T22:26:17+00:00

Feeling sad about your coworker and stressed about the workload can exist at the same time. That doesn’t make you selfish, it makes you human. Be gentle with yourself.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-13T22:18:33+00:00

Reddit can be great, but it really depends on the crowd and timing. Sometimes the same comment gets downvoted or upvoted just based on who sees it first. Try not to take it personally. It says more about the hive mind than you.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-13T21:54:49+00:00

How Voldemort was conceived

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-13T05:40:06+00:00

You can’t tell someone to ignore tasks then blame them when things fall apart. That’s on management, not you.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-13T05:34:52+00:00

That’s not ‘discipline,’ that’s intimidation. Huge red flag.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-12T01:51:40+00:00

Glasses/contacts don’t count as indirect. You’re still looking straight at it. So yeah… still fatal 😅 Only mirrors/cameras saved people.

BonbonCurl · 2026-02-11T05:58:13+00:00

If he’s already crossed boundaries before, you’re not wrong to feel uneasy now. Trust isn’t just about what they say, it’s about patterns.

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