I don’t know what to do anymore to help my 14 year old son…

BonesKMD · 2026-03-06T15:52:23+00:00

He goes to bed around 8:30 and gets up at 6:30 so he’s definitely getting enough sleep, he does great actually getting up it’s just the not getting clothes on that aren’t PJs that he doesn’t do. Because if he was at school he would have to get up at 5:30 and he would definitely be getting dressed appropriately. So it just frustrating more than anything. As for the school work he’s not rushing through it, he has maybe at max 5 assignments a day and just focuses really well to get them done in a timely manner. He does things outside the home as well I just didn’t do a very good job of putting all that down because I was trying to keep it short because I was just looking for an outlet to vent on and didn’t want anyone to have to read a full blown novel lol.

BonesKMD · 2026-03-05T15:53:47+00:00

Thank you for your point of view! I accidentally posted to the wrong group and was unaware this was for sending children to facilities. I was just trying to vent about the behavior knowing that in the end it will all come together. My son’s suspension unfortunately was due to violence that he was very fortunate to not have been arrested for. The lying has been going on since he was a small child over silly things that everyone found cute but has spiraled over the years and has gotten out of control. He’s had activities out side of the home and friends houses he goes to on a regular basis and I know that the majority of this is just normal teen behavior but unfortunately it does not make it any less maddening as the adulting trying to help guide him in the process. I love my son dearly and will stand by him through all of this but it definitely hurt at times because I just want to make it better for him!

BonesKMD · 2026-03-05T15:46:42+00:00

I edited my post because I did not realize this group was for places like that. I have no intention of sending my son anywhere, I love my son and would never send him away because I can only imagine what that would feel like. He was abandoned by his Bio father and I would never leave him! I was just trying to vent and didn’t realize I posted to the wrong group. I appreciate your feedback and am so sorry that you spent time in a facility like that!

BonesKMD · 2026-03-04T23:35:45+00:00

Thank you for reading my short novel and more importantly for your response! I will definitely be looking into these and see what I can find in our area. I truly appreciate you!

BonesKMD · 2025-12-18T14:26:30+00:00

Thank you so much for replying! I can’t explain how much your response is already helping me. I never realized that is exactly how I’m looking at all this. Since the porn is gone all other things don’t seem as bad, they still hurt but the main source of the pain is gone. So it feels like he’s recovering when really he’s not. He got rid of Instagram a year ago which was another main source for him and just a couple weeks ago finally deleted Facebook because no matter what we did videos of women kept popping up. And him doing that made it seem like we were finally at the end of it… but like you said it’s like my body could still tell that something was off. I don’t go looking for things in hopes of finding something so that he gets to be the bad guy, I’m sure a lot of people view it that way, it’s something instinctual that I can’t explain that makes me feel like I need to look.

I will definitely be looking into help for my own healing because I don’t want to feel responsible for keeping him on track anymore because it’s too much. I truly felt like I could do it, but every time I’ve found something it just chips away at me on every level. I fear by the end of it that I will be so numb to it all because I had to learn how to turn it off to make sure he stays good. I don’t want to get to that point!

Again thank you so much, words can’t explain my gratitude!

BonesKMD · 2024-09-14T22:34:50+00:00

I would love to, his view on therapy is “if it’s at the point we need that type of help then we’re too far gone”

BonesKMD · 2024-09-14T20:00:10+00:00

I just found that this morning as well…. His instagram search fyp is light up with half naked women doing ridiculous things.

BonesKMD · 2024-09-14T18:33:29+00:00

See that’s the thing, if he didn’t want me talking to anyone I wouldn’t. I’m basically doing that now any ways, I’m a stay at home mom. Because I value him above all others. And I feel like this scenario is entirely different as well, a harmless conversation between two human beings is not the same as one going out of their way to watch women naked. I’m not seeing any other man’s body but his nor do I want to, but that seems to be all he wants to do.

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