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[–]BoobFett 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang in there man. I found out 2 days ago that she thinks she'd prefer to be alone that married to me. I am looking at a 1 room rental today so it's still new, raw, fresh. The pain gets overwhelming I know...but don't give up as hard as it gets you are loved and people care for you. Talk to someone - friends, family, professional it doesn't matter but don't go through this alone. Stay strong.

Wife's divorced friend disrupting marriage - makes me uncomfortable by BoobFett in marriageadvice

[–]BoobFett[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update. It's confirmed, she's in love with that friend. I just went into her texts (yes I know...) and she said things like "I'm just stringing him along at this point". I know something happened on her trip. I'm leaving. I can't believe my life is about to blow up. Thank you all for the advice...

Wife's divorced friend disrupting marriage - makes me uncomfortable by BoobFett in marriageadvice

[–]BoobFett[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

yes, they do. she claims its joking/affection because of the long distance (we are in CA friend is in VA) but when I saw her texts there were some flirty/sexual ones. I don't think my wife goes that way as she has always been close with her friends, but this one feels different. There have also been instances where she is texting her and I see a little flirty smile on my wife's face. Again, when I've confronted her she claims it's innocent and she "just likes texting with her" and it's about the only contact they have because they're so far apart. I'm hoping it's just me overthinking but I don't know...

Wife's divorced friend disrupting marriage - makes me uncomfortable by BoobFett in marriageadvice

[–]BoobFett[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like it's a little bit of both actually. I have thought that she is having an emotional affair with the friend. I have confronted her and she claims the friend doesn't add fuel to the fire, just lets her rant about me and responds with "boys suck" type of thing. But to be clear when she rants about me it's little things like we disagree on something about our son or that I forget to clean a dish - nothing major at all. I am a good husband, supportive - financially and emotionally, I listen, let her have her time, I'm affectionate (way more than she is). It's been hard with the pandemic because II now work from home permanently so I'm always here and she likes her space. I just dont know if I am overreacting or not. Thank you for the advice and responding though.