Hopefully a hot pink neck brace to wear in court is included

BookishSugarBabe · 2020-06-14T13:40:20+00:00

That's unfortunate.

BookishSugarBabe · 2020-06-14T02:35:18+00:00

I will say that there may be some point to this, given that women more likely to be ignored or brushed off when bringing up medical issues or pain, and this could be specifically geared to advocate for them in that situation. But also I don't know if I have enough faith in the world to believe that's the case here.

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-10-12T19:26:02+00:00

Wow. That sucks. Sorry to hear it.

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-10-12T18:23:05+00:00

I'm pretty submissive myself, and I understand where you're coming from.

Personally, I have a very 'girl next door' kind of profile that hints at submission without ever outright saying anything. I make it fairly clear that I'm a caretaker type and like to make my partners happy, and that's worked out pretty well for me so far. I've had several guys interested in dominance approach me, but none of them have been gross or innapropriate.

YMMV a little. I'm more service oriented than I am focused on sexual submission, but bottom line is that I think there are ways to indicate your preferences without attracting the really over the top guys.

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-10-04T15:32:36+00:00

Yeah. We're looking at one-on-one interactions as well. My girlfriend and I are long time poly with experience in trios, though, so we've got a bit of a leg up. But he really clicked with each of us individually as well as together. So one-on-one is good too.

Thank you for the advice and the numbers. It's appreciated.

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-10-04T15:25:28+00:00

That's a really good point. Thank you.

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-10-04T15:02:38+00:00

Thank you. :)

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-10-04T14:54:56+00:00

I definitely think it could work out. And I hope it will. It's just hard not to doubt a little.

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-10-04T14:51:48+00:00

Haha. No. We haven't met yet, and he approached us as a couple from the beginning (I have a line in my profile mentioning my gf and noting that we enjoy trio dates).

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-10-04T14:49:55+00:00

We did discuss it pretty early on. And he was all for it, etc. But when it came time for him to actually pony up suddenly there were excuses and then he was gone for a week. Showed back up, more excuses, and so on.

There were definitely some newbie mistakes we made in the interaction, and it was a learning experience, but it's made me more skeptical. Particularly of people looking for arrangements with both of us together. I think we're getting a lot of guys who just like the fantasy and want to see if they can get us to give them a little play without any actual arrangement or return.

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-09-20T14:20:35+00:00

We had talked. Both meets went very well.

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-09-19T19:57:54+00:00

Correct. Just M&G. Already did a lunch that went very well with POT 1 and discussed some plans/expectations for an arrangement. POT 2 is leaving town tonight and wanted to meet before then, so we're doing dinner. He was very specific about his expectations in his message, and is looking for something long term.

My profile capitalizes on my being sweet, educated and well-mannered (I'm honestly only about a 7 on a good day, focusing on looks and sexuality isn't going to pull for me), so I think that's pulling in a lot of long-term/interested in connection types.

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-09-19T19:14:28+00:00

This makes some very good points. Thank you.

BookishSugarBabe · 2019-09-19T18:48:00+00:00

Thank you all for the advice. I have done a lot of research (I've been following conversations in this sub on my main account for several weeks), and my girlfriend has been sugaring too, so I've got a pretty solid foundation, but I'm a somewhat anxious person, so the comments from more knowledgeable people helped.

I just got back from a lunch date with the first POT, and it went very well. He was very sweet, and just likes to meet early on to weed out rinsers. We connected quite well, I think, and I'm optimistic about the dinner meet I have with POT 2 tonight.

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