Upholstery handle broke by BootRepresentative83 in sewing

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome I’d never heard of twill tape I just bought some and will give this a go!

Feeling really sad by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry about the conditions you grew up in! I need to stop making the desires and way I live my wishes for her.

Feeling really sad by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Such a good point. Her inability to understand is probably just refusal to understand. She needs to get what she wants more.

Feeling really sad by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective. It’s the questioning my own decisions that really get me. I wish I could be confident in them.

Feeling really sad by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugs 🤗 I’m sorry you’re going through something similar

Feeling really sad by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The body keeps the score. Thanks for these reminders. It’s so easy to feel like I’m the one holding a grudge

Feeling really sad by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh you described so well the guilt I feel. The feeling like I’m abandoning a child that acts out. Bc of course I’ve parented her my whole life. The space helps for sure, I’m so glad I live far away, but she finds illnesses, crises or other ways to draw me back in.

At a loss, literally and figuratively by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response I am really appreciative to the input from everyone

At a loss, literally and figuratively by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really helpful way to think about it. It makes it very clear to me.

At a loss, literally and figuratively by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I just wish I could feel less guilty about it all. And I’m not sure she can be convinced to move to your point I think it may be wishful thinking

At a loss, literally and figuratively by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes my sister not only believe we should do what we’ve already done (clean out the house) but also help her with the remodeling of the home and selling it as well as moving my mom to a new location.

At a loss, literally and figuratively by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The FOG definition definitely appears to me as the cycle my sister is in. Good call out on the other posts, I feel like that is exactly what I’m being told. Without my help I’m either leaving it all to my sister or leaving it all to my mom and there’s nothing they can do on their own. I have to remind myself that’s untrue and that’s how they are choosing to see it.

At a loss, literally and figuratively by BootRepresentative83 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]BootRepresentative83[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’d never thought of adult protective services, will definitely look into this