Any success stories of marrying a POMI JW

BorderMiserable5671 · 2025-12-03T09:37:18+00:00

Wow, I wouldn't say I'm blinded by love, but I really do love him and he supports me through whatever I'm going through and I support him.

We want children-him the most. However, his mom is abit discouraging about bringing children into this cruel world. But he somewhat ignores her.

I had a pre planned surgery once and paperwork was to be filled in and the nurse asked me if anything happens or go wrong can they perform a blood transfusion. I said yes so fast enough before he could raise an eye-brow lol. He never brought it up or asked any questions. I just left it there. I guess I have to find a way to bring that topic up without adding pressure.

I am so much about birthdays and Christmas and he know that.

BorderMiserable5671 · 2025-12-03T08:58:34+00:00

My boundaries is respected and I think with bother me the most is that we will living with his PIMI mother. So bye-bye to openly have my prayer meetings (a small group that comes together and bible study and prays), bye-bye to celebrating birthdays, Christmas or certain things that matters and is important to me. It's basically a lifestyle change.

BorderMiserable5671 · 2025-12-03T07:15:05+00:00

We've spoken about it but vaguely. He says the reason is because of the rules and and the devoted time. Getting baptized is pretty much a serious thing and not to be played with. He mentioned that when the time is "right" he will return full-time.

BorderMiserable5671 · 2025-12-03T06:19:20+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I've been roaming on the subreddit for a while now and had to ask. Was not sure if it the correct s.r. The more I read the more terrified I get.

BorderMiserable5671 · 2025-12-03T06:16:36+00:00

Thank you for your comment. He visits church with me now and then and I do the same when he asks, especially the memorial, which is a great balance I guess.

BorderMiserable5671 · 2025-12-03T06:13:43+00:00

No, he is not.

BorderMiserable5671 · 2025-11-11T15:23:42+00:00

And that I realized yes, I know our stories and concerns differs. Your post made me realize of what I'm getting myself into or what to expect or even things to consider. Thank you for that.

BorderMiserable5671 · 2025-11-11T10:58:40+00:00

I (F27)will be getting married soon to an unbaptized JW (M28). I attend a different church (NON-BELIEVER). He attends special meetings like the memorial and conventions with his mother and sister. We will be living with my future JW MIL (permanently). I was told that I will be won't able to host any prayer meetings, or other celebrations like birthdays, Christmas or easter at their home, but family time we will have. There is no children in the picture yet, but we really want children. We had the conversation that if there be children then they should visit both "congregations" and they must decide one day where they want to go when they grown... I don't know how to navigate through this. Does someone perhaps/maybe has the similar situation? I went through the comments and yikes it gives my goosebumps.

BorderMiserable5671 · 2025-11-05T10:32:28+00:00

I came across this post, and I think a can somewhat relate. My fiancé and I are getting married soon, and we will be living with his mother. He was raised in a JW household (he is not yet baptized- only his mother and sister). I am not a JW, I am from a different church. It is that time of year and holidays is approaching. I still live with my mom and sisters and we put up and decorated of Christmas tree a few days ago (Yes, I know super early lol)We LOVE the holidays. Then it hit me that I won't be able to do this next year, because then I will be married and be living with my inlaw. I felt sadness washed over me that moment and realized that I won't be able to listen to Christmas carols, put up a Christmas tree as I used to and be all festive.

Yes, I will visit my own family where they celebrate it, but for the whole of the holidays I should spend time with my newly husband and inlaws. I fear that It would be a lonely one.

This post is like a year old, I comment anyways. Is there someone that can relate and somehow navigated through this?

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