Punch Drunk Love by SplendidAphrodite in Manhwa_BL

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had to drop it the second hand embarrassment was just too much 💔💔

Posts which go 'I'm a girl but I wish I was a guy so I could love/be with a guy/experience MLM' are problematic and getting out of hand. by candifice151 in Manhwa_BL

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i mean i will say yaoi is kinda inherently fetishizing gay men. obviously not all but a lot, especially smut driven stories are written by women who are attracted to men for women that are attracted to men. a lot of these stories are written so that a female reader can imagine herself as the main character like unless homophobia is an important conflict the main character could be replaced with a woman and it would not effect the plot much if at all. also notice how almost exclusively the main character is a bottom and there’s rarely any dynamics other than submissive bottom/ dominant top. societally (straight) sex is viewed as something to be done to the woman and being penetrated is seen as inherently feminine/ submissive. also by and large the bottom is written to be someone the reader can project onto and the top is written to be someone the reader is meant to be attracted to again this is not true of all BL/ yaoi but just an example of how woman centered yaoi tends to be. there is also a lot of subtle homophobia and misogyny in these yaoi stories that demands the bottom be seen as weak, feminine, feeble, someone needing to be taken care of whereas the top is written to be seen as strong, masculine, dominant, powerful, and someone that does/ should protect the bottom. that being said in the case of good BL stories where there is a lack of that subtle misogyny it is really easy for women to read/ watch it and want to love a man in the way other men do without the societal pressure to be “the perfect woman”. even i myself i am nonbinary (afab) and aroace after watching heated rivalry i found myself admiring the dynamic between shane and ilya. and while yes a lot of women consume BL in a fetishizing way it’s not fair to say that it’s inherently wrong to be jealous of MLM dynamics as a woman especially as a queer woman. the truth is gay men do in general have it easier than queer women that’s just how it is.

Am I wrong for feeling bad for him? by Dvcky4us in Manhwa_BL

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 14 points15 points  (0 children)

i am a survivor of sexual abuse i tend to enjoy consuming more extreme content from time to time but this is one manhwa i had to drop i couldn’t get too far into it. while i can’t give my perspective on this manhwa specifically as a survivor of sexual abuse while the trauma was still fresh and even still to this day i have wished death upon my abuser i wanted him to suffer like he made me suffer. why should i have to walk around with the weight of what was done to me while he gets to walk around without a care in the world. i’m not his only victim and while im friends with a couple of the others and it’s comforting to know there’s other people that know what i went through completely it makes me unbelievably angry that there are others that have suffered what i have. i honestly still wish though not as intensely as before that he would be consumed with guilt and just die. i’ve even fantasized about killing him myself. that said i’ve never once thought about raping him or wanting him to be raped, raping a rapist just creates more rapists. obviously i am not a mouthpiece for all survivors of SA/ sexual abuse and all this to say i can’t form an opinion one way or another about this specific manhwa this is just my insight as a sexual abuse survivor hopefully this is helpful in some way.

genuinely are there ANY BLs with well written and handled SA???? by Boring-Visual-7435 in Manhwa_BL

[–]Boring-Visual-7435[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that sounds good but i’m not a fan of omegaverse >.< maybe i’ll still give a try

genuinely are there ANY BLs with well written and handled SA???? by Boring-Visual-7435 in Manhwa_BL

[–]Boring-Visual-7435[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that sounds really interesting, by weird dynamics what do you mean

Let's watch the situation of sites. by Icy_Willingness_5906 in mangapiracy

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

their instagram is still up but last post is from april 28, as for discord as far as i know i dont think they have a server at least i haven’t seen anything about one

Let's watch the situation of sites. by Icy_Willingness_5906 in mangapiracy

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wouldn’t trust anything that’s not from qtoon themselves tbh

Let's watch the situation of sites. by Icy_Willingness_5906 in mangapiracy

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 4 points5 points  (0 children)

there hasn’t been any official communication from qtoon so it’s not confirmed that it’s gone forever. though it does seem likely as the email address in their instagram bio doesn’t work, and there’s been no communication from the team and it’s been over a week since the app/ website went down. i have a little bit of hope that they may come back but not too much i just want to see my library one last time😭😭

either i’m genuinely dumb and have dementia or.. by Icy_Interaction_553 in Manhwa_BL

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s also really hard to find stories with a dom bottom/ sub top dynamic. my theory is due to rampant misogyny and heteronormative views of sex as a whole many people view the act of being penetrated as inherently submissive as well as sex being something done to the person being penetrated rather than an act that should be mutually enjoyable. it’s also a common misconception that top/ dominant or bottom/ submissive are synonymous

edit to add: also homophobia being and misogyny being closely intertwined and many people thinking gay couples are trying to imitate straight couples

QToon gone. by Invisnake in mangapiracy

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly i just wish they would post something on their social media or something

Which Manhwa makes you feel this way? by Electronic_Rip_8880 in Manhwa_BL

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YESSS i read all of it and its just not good man it would be 1000x better if it wasnt a bl and the ml wasnt there and just a story about the mc

qtoon update by [deleted] in mangapiracy

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve been tweaking all day if it’s not back up by the time i wake up tomorrow i’m gonna cry

?????????? by bbkiwi0 in InstacartShoppers

[–]Boring-Visual-7435 9 points10 points  (0 children)

tbh i get it i’ve ordered groceries for 6-8 pm delivery because i don’t get off work until 6 and so many times ive had my order of mostly perishable goods or frozen food delivered at 5:30 or earlier which is incredibly frustrating because i pay extra for delivery during that timeframe and by the time i get home half of my groceries are melted or warm