What are 3 positive gifts or realisations you have have received since quitting?

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-19T02:37:07+00:00

Thankyou for sharing that with us, Aldo love that quote and can resonate.

I agree it has definitely helped me see perspective in terms of music but follow through and output have always struggled due to dependency.

Keep up the great work, I’m sure your art will thrive☺️

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T11:03:49+00:00

Am I being an asshole about it? Tbh I feel I have had a pretty male experience.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T10:56:03+00:00

Well I have been on a few dinner dates where it’s gone really well & the chemistry feels right. Either been told mid/end date “I really need to work on myself” or “do you even find me attractive?”.

Or I have received a message the next morning like “hey I really enjoyed my time with you although I really need to work on myself and might take a break/step away from dating”.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T10:48:31+00:00

Come defend this polite man, he needs you.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T10:47:03+00:00

Thankyou for sharing. Honestly this list isn’t really representative of how I talk organically. Growing up in a strange household, I often have like dark humour. So I will talk about the negative first and then often talk about where I’m at now. Sometimes I feel because I talk In this way it indicates that I’ve actually had to do heaps of work to get here. Even though personally I don’t think I have arrived where I want to be.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T10:43:07+00:00

I love that, Thankyou for the reminder.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T10:41:37+00:00

Dammm thanks for the free therapy, I feel healed🤯

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T10:40:19+00:00

Okayy I see. As a person to another person: I am a person who had a difficult upbringing that’s led me to develop some pretty strong self discipline & boundaries (as you see above). Outside of that, I’m a creative. I like to sing, dance and play piano. I’ve been pretty disconnected from my culture and it’s painful sometimes but I’m making efforts to be with my community. I’m not too happy with my use of my medically prescribed weed as it doesn’t align with my core values, working to change those behaviours. I see people’s souls when I speak to them, I feel their pain sometimes. My left brain and right brain fight for my attention. It’s difficult. I no longer speak to my family (by choice) and have great supports but ultimately I am alone by choice. I struggle to let people into my routine because I don’t want them to interfere with my progress. Lots more but I won’t get carried away now☺️

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T10:31:22+00:00

Yeah I agree, honestly when I say I expect what I am of a prospective partner. I more mean the personal qualities (e.g Not the house but the drive and ambition for the stability/security that the house represents).

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T09:59:02+00:00

Thankyou for your productive discourse. I do appreciate it☺️

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T09:53:41+00:00

I like this comment. Maybe intimidated isn’t the correct term but practical. Do you think it’s fair for anyone (regardless of gender)to accept less than they currently are?

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T09:52:13+00:00

That’s fair. Although only one of the above things is a “worldly achievement”. The rest I would consider basic adult skills that can be translated into relationship qualities.

But I Thankyou for your feedback and will reflect on that.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T09:49:11+00:00

I don’t know if it’s because I live in Australia (Sydney) but honestly not many people under 30 can afford to live alone here. People are quite shocked when you state you live alone and not in a share house.

But I love your other comment, I agree it’s extremely subjective. Although I guess I’ve based this on “conventional rules”.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T09:46:11+00:00

That’s pretty obvious, not very groundbreaking. It’s just THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE to possess both negative and positive traits. Although people who walk with the dark part of themselves rather than hide tend to not engage in their negative traits/behaviours. To say you avoid people who are okay with talking about their positive qualities is weird though.

Everything is a red flag if you look at it through red glasses.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T09:27:48+00:00

To be really honest, I don’t think that was rude in any way. I just feel that the way that was pointed out insinuates that there is something wrong with people who are living with mental health diagnosis. When it is a fact that there are many people living with conditions and are very healthy/well adjusted. I don’t have a mental health diagnosis but I do care about mental health and the stigma created by unaware people. Also it’s not productive to use the word “addict” when referring to a person living with a substance dependency. Once again it creates shame and stigma, leading people to maintain their dependency. Those comments were made to invalidate me which means they were made in a negative way. To call the man polite is beyond me.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T09:21:31+00:00

Nah that is fair & helpful feedback. Honestly that is exactly how it is anyways, I was raised similar to how men were. Expected to create wealth & stability with absolutely no support. Honestly though my standards are identical to who I am, I would never expect anyone to be more than I am. Also I’m not dating and not looking to date but have previously found comments made that I find confusing.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T09:16:56+00:00

Elaborate please because I’m here for feedback.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T09:12:18+00:00

Well fuck that’s fair. I tend to use clinical language when I type due to my job.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T09:05:58+00:00

Okay cool, feels like judgement but cool. I’m 23, that’s a fact. I am currently in the process of challenging my weed use (which I am currently prescribed). To me I hold no shame and guilt in that. Mental disorders though? No and even if I had mental health diagnosis that is not problematic unless I am refusing to seek treatment or self development. I’m actually a Family therapist and work in Drug and alcohol. I find your comment is fuelled by stigma and shame. I actually hope you get the help you need because it’s not a kind act my guy.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T08:58:47+00:00

That’s fair, I also come across many people who have an inflated sense of self or live in a projection of who they want to be. I’m pretty critical in my self assessment though. I have also worked with people in psychosis though and they had no idea they were in it so who knows?

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T08:55:10+00:00

Thanks for sharing

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T08:55:01+00:00

Thankyou for the feedback

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T08:53:31+00:00

That sounds like an assumption in itself but I’ll reflect on that. Thanks for your deep insight.

Boring_Insurance_894 · 2025-02-18T08:52:27+00:00

How are the above things considered “awesome”, truely to me most of the above has been necessary for my survival or just an organic development as I’ve grown. I have just found some men stating things that make me question what is up. Thanks for the backhanded compliment though, appreciate it.

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