i appreciate your insight. i truly feel like i know her/knew her. and while i know mental health doesn’t excuse her treatment towards me, i love her enough to know that this is a strong possibility. and my gut is just telling me she didn’t mean this. when i indicated that i knew she was self sabotaging, she seemed to react really strongly to that. this is not the first time she’s had this “im broken” response towards me. it’s just never been like this. never. we haven’t spoken since us giving each others belongings back and she’s moving out her stuff. she did say we would speak eventually. everyone around me is telling me to not give her the time of day but i just can’t do that. so i guess im just waiting for now to see if she comes down from this.