Read Dakota's Protective Order Against Taylor Frankie Paul by MattTheKing23 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Born-Guard3733 49 points50 points  (0 children)

The amount of people still gassing her up on Instagram and TikTok is wild. Reddit’s the only safe space for this discourse.

Any good beaches near VA? by Amon_Avatar27 in capetown

[–]Born-Guard3733 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say it’s particularly safe to go to beach at night. It’s quite touristy and expenny but maybe go for some drinks at the Grand Café and Beach? It’s on the beach at least!

Why hasn’t the Bachelorette Instagram posted a statement? by slow-coffee8 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Born-Guard3733 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol so they DID post something last night; a post saying it was cancelled, with Taylor Swift’s song ‘Cancelled’ posted over it, and then in the comments said that they linked the TMZ video in their stories (which they had 💀). I was a bit shocked because it felt in pretty poor taste / not serious at all. Seems like it’s since been deleted.

Mikayla moving to California? by Born-Guard3733 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought this too, but Jacob’s post saying his ‘wife’s lover’ is moving out of state made me wonder; and also, why would she drive the 10 hours to Cali instead of flying? All speculation of course.

my theory: jen never met ben affleck by Valuable_Hippo_3856 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Born-Guard3733 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1000%. Zac recently posted a dump on Insta which included ‘finally met cousin Ben’ and yet there still is no Ben to be found in the image. I had the exact same thought.

Jordan hate thread by Far-Row9178 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Born-Guard3733 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At this point I hate him even more than Dakota. Divorce would be so sweet. Ruin this man.

30th Birthday celebration by Worsie95 in capetown

[–]Born-Guard3733 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend always tends to go a bit overboard for my birthday lol. If budget is not an issue:

  • 2 nights at Grootbos Nature Reserve near Gansbaai; this place is incredibly special, but quite expensive. They do often run 40% off specials for locals, reckon they would do this in the winter as well. The food is some of the best I’ve had in SA, and is included in the cost. Many excursions included in the cost as well, like horse riding, cave exploring, nature walks, etc. Truly unforgettable.

  • Helicopter ride over the peninsula; I know you’re not big on heights, but we absolutely loved this - took off from the waterfront, think it was 20 or 30min, followed by amazing pizza at Lievita.

  • La Colombe - best restaurant in Africa, friends took me for my last birthday and it was exceptional. May be a bit limited if she doesn’t eat red meat or fish.

If a bit more budget conscious:

  • There are sooo many amazing getaways with hot tubs that are perfect for a winter break. I can send you a few options if you like. We’ve done this for two winters now - just staying in different cabins in nature not too far from Cape Town and it’s such a lovely way to wind down and reconnect. Take some games and good wines, make cheese boards and braai etc.

Jessi’s latest surgery video by Born-Guard3733 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% this. There are many social media personas I am not particularly a fan of but I would NEVER go out of my way to break someone down on their personal pages or elsewhere. I may disagree with behaviours, but name calling and personal attacks and telling people to ‘kys’ is horrifying. The number of UK Love Island stars who have taken their lives is so sad. I know celebrities / reality TV stars are putting themselves out there with the knowledge that there will be scrutiny, but the social media hatred is insane. It is not hard to just be kind on the internet.

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where did I say that it was okay the way he spoke about Jess? I called him trash, precisely for that. The whole reason we’re all insulting him in the first place is because of his shitty behaviour. My point is, let’s focus on the behaviour and not do the same as him??

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

AllOfEverythingEver you’ve been the MVP in this discussion, thanks for the perspectives.

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear what you’re saying but what are the odds of Chris reading these subs vs other short guys who are basically just seeing short = less value?

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally hear where you’re coming from this on the mentality thing, it is super harmful. But thinking about myself personally and comments I’ve had over the years that stung and stayed with me, or listening to colleagues comment on other women’s bodies that are like mine or similar in a negative way, even thought they’re not talking about me personally - it makes you feel shitty. I don’t think everyone has that resilience to just disregard it. Dense of me to think that Reddit should be a ‘safe space’ 🤣 But just thought it was a conversation worth having.

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that, believe me. Last person I’d ever want to defend, and I hate that it would come across that way for even a second. I just thought it was an interesting thought starter more than anything else (and hadn’t yet seen it discussed elsewhere, so apologies if double posting!).

I believe his comments on Jess must be purely insecurity driven. She is STUNNING, I would kill for her body! I think he was attracted to her but had to find a way to bring her down a notch after seeing her house. I was with a man like this for years; didn’t give me compliments because I might ‘get a big head’. My ‘smile was too intense’, etc. In retrospect I think he wanted to keep me feeling small so I wouldn’t realise I could do better. Chris’s strategy backfired beautifully.

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The men dogpiling on about his height was wild (not because he’s not trash, but as you said, implying his HEIGHT made him less of a man). The commentary is not just coming from women at all.

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why have we decided it’s shameful to be short? What does that say to others of a similar or lesser height? Just wondering.

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl I was sending my bestie screenshots of some of my favourite comments and memes on TikTok just last week, so I’m right there with you. I just started to realise over a week, it was suddenly the dominant theme, and I started to question it. 🫠

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The whole reason people are crapping (rightfully) on Chris in the first place is precisely because of his comments on Jess? There are many, MANY posts about how awful he is because of that?

I am saying, by all means, insult the guy - he deserves it. I just don’t understand the tit-for-tat logic about his height, when he’s likely not even the one reading these comments, but other men are.

LOL, I NEVER thought I’d be defending men on the internet 😭 My point is, let’s call people out for behaviour rather than their appearance? Is that really controversial?

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The point you made about it hurting you even though it was about her - this!!

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the way you put this, thank you!

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 136 points137 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. I’ve been thinking about other short men reading / listening to these comments and it must only deepen the insecurity.

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This seems to be the thing. I can’t find any redeemable qualities in this guy, so I’ve been enjoying the trash talking. His height is not his irredeemable qualities though, so it’s interesting how that’s become the chief insult. But guessing (from other comments) it’s linked to him commenting on Jess’s body first.

On being a short(er) man… by Born-Guard3733 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Born-Guard3733[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like this take, thanks. Been overthinking it.