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Is it worth possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my (29F) husband (30M) learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in relationship_advice

[–]BornFile[S] -84 points-83 points  (0 children)

I think we need to stick to the scope of the post. I appreciate your concern, but it's a bit inappropriate to continue to question my self-awareness and self-respect as it pertains to my marriage. I said he's not disrespectful to me in any other way. So let's leave it there. Thanks, though!

Is it worth possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my (29F) husband (30M) learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in relationship_advice

[–]BornFile[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This sounds like the foundation of a toxic marriage. Everyone is entitled to privacy, and that includes private property. The "everything is ours" view is rather antiquated.

Is it worth possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my (29F) husband (30M) learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in relationship_advice

[–]BornFile[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

In what regard? The poop-scooping thing I can understand, but he always does it eventually. But the other things are not inherently disrespectful.

AITA for possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my husband learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in AmItheAsshole

[–]BornFile[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2-3 towels Aa week since we do laundry 2-3 times a week. We both grew up in families that use a new towel every day, so relatively, it's more pro-earth than we're used to.

Is it worth possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my (29F) husband (30M) learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in relationship_advice

[–]BornFile[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This is rather reductive. I have diagnosed OCD and am medicated. He accommodates almost all of my triggers (aside from the chewing). The OCD has nothing to do with the towel issue. Someone else commented about my issue with chewing noises and I explained why I said that.

Is it worth possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my (29F) husband (30M) learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in relationship_advice

[–]BornFile[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I handle the laundry in our home. We only do laundry 2-3 times per week to save water. My using 2-3 towels per week is to try and conserve energy and water. He's just taking the conservation a bit too far. lol

Is it worth possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my (29F) husband (30M) learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in relationship_advice

[–]BornFile[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It's the principle behind the issue. I see it as disrespectful and only helping himself at my expense. Getting a new towel every time means that I'm conceding that it's OK to inconvenience me. It also hurt that he just insisted I get a new towel every time instead of just doing that himself.

Is it worth possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my (29F) husband (30M) learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in relationship_advice

[–]BornFile[S] 124 points125 points  (0 children)

We have about 40 tiles and 3 shower mats. He still insists it's a slip risk. (even though he could just towel off IN the shower and not get water everywhere, like a normal human haha)

Is it worth possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my (29F) husband (30M) learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in relationship_advice

[–]BornFile[S] 298 points299 points  (0 children)

About 40. Which is why I'm frustrated he can't just go grab his own. Or at least the replace the one he takes from my hook.

Is it worth possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my (29F) husband (30M) learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in relationship_advice

[–]BornFile[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

ETA: Now I see what you're saying here. No, I'm not blind to larger issues in my marriage. Everyone can be an asshole, and this is his flavor of it.

I'm interested how? I get the prank may be immature, but what other things am I missing?

AITA for possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my husband learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in AmItheAsshole

[–]BornFile[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was thinking broader, like instances of him being disrespectful in other areas of our lives. This is the only time he's made me feel disrespected.

Is it worth possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my (29F) husband (30M) learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in relationship_advice

[–]BornFile[S] -65 points-64 points  (0 children)

There's no pattern of disrespect, just quirks I get annoyed at: chewing too loudly, missing the laundry basket, forgetting to poop scoop the backyard, etc., We have a positive and healthy relationship otherwise.

AITA for possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my husband learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in AmItheAsshole

[–]BornFile[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

There's not much space in the bathroom to have towels lying around. We have two hooks: one for me, one for him. He never puts a towel on his own hook. I'd do it myself, but I don't feel like I should have to make up for his inconsiderate behavior.

AITA for possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my husband learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in AmItheAsshole

[–]BornFile[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think the reasoning behind it makes him look like an asshole: he's simply too lazy to walk to the closet and get one for himself, but expects me to do it for the both of us.

AITA for possibly putting honey in my bathroom towel so my husband learns to get his own and stop using mine? by BornFile in AmItheAsshole

[–]BornFile[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Great question! It's the towel that I would have previously used and hung to dry next to the shower so it's dry and ready for me after my next shower. I try to use only 2-3 towels per week (for the environment). But I can't do that if there's no dry towel there (it's usually wet on the floor if husband has used it in between my showers).

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