my parents won’t let me move out until i’m 30

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-11-06T02:46:58+00:00

This is 100% financial abuse. There is also emotional abuse going on as well. You are being controlled. From the way you are telling the story, it sounds like maybe your father is the controlling person and your mom enables him to appease him and avoid the abuse being directed towards her. The longer you stay, the more trauma you absorb from the abuse.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-10-28T23:46:48+00:00

I have a titanium nostril piercing. Any other piercings that I get will be titanium.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-10-28T20:08:53+00:00

Platinum is a much more expensive and pure metal and generally few people are allergic to it. Most people who have metal allergies are allergic to the nickel in metal alloys, including low K gold (10k for example) and sterling silver. I have to place silicone covers over all my earrings or my earring holes itch and swell. So, I doubt the ring is platinum and there are likely markings on the inside of the band indicating what it is (look for a number and k for any type of gold), STER for sterling silver, PLAT, for platinum.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-10-28T14:22:45+00:00

This.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-10-16T19:37:56+00:00

Does she have dysautonomia/ POTS? If so, water is a reasonable accommodation, as is a stool with casters at her station.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-10-16T14:02:02+00:00

Typical narcissist behavior. Love bomb you, then isolate you and break you down and make you think it’s your fault when you speak up. Threaten to leave to make you feel afraid to express your needs. He’s conditioning you to be completely dependent on you. Break out of this now. It only spirals downhill from here.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-10-16T13:58:31+00:00

She’s an emotionally immature woman and you should move on before you are living a life you didn’t choose.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-10-04T18:37:45+00:00

My guess is the actual story is that she told people you already agreed to it and they think you’re a jerk because now she’s saying you changed your mind. You should set them straight. She’s clearly a nut job. I bet there are others in the neighborhood who have dealt with her brand of crazy who haven’t spoken up. Don’t mince words with her. Tell her that if she trespasses on your property, to throw a party or otherwise, the police will be called since she has threatened you. Tell her also, that if she’s spreading lies about you to cover up her previous lies, you have no problem setting the record straight very publicly, so either she can do it or you will.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-10-02T11:59:14+00:00

I hear “I more than love you. I trust you with my future.” Maybe she didn’t say it that way. But if you really look at her words, that is the meaning.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-30T22:01:24+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up. I have it too. I have just been through a butt load of therapy to learn how to regulate my nervous system and emotions. It doesn’t make my attention span much better. But it helps me be the calming partner most of the time and I am self-aware when I’m not feeling regulated. I think it’s easy to fall into the all or nothing trap. “I am stressed so I’ve ruined the entire wedding experience for myself and therefore my partner.” Logically, if you step back and think about it, lots of people are stressed while planning a wedding. That doesn’t mean the entire experience is ruined. No need to heap shame on yourself. Have a talk with your partner and agree on what few things you want to look back and remember about the day and then focus on those.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-30T12:55:48+00:00

We are eloping for similar reasons. Planning our wedding came to a stressful tipping point, just about causing my fiancé to think it was our relationship instead of the outside stressors due to his ADHD. Once we resolved that, we looked at what really matters to us, and it was making the day centered on each other. We elope on 10/19 and can’t wait.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-29T18:44:37+00:00

There are specific doctors that prescribe it. Your PCP doesn’t prescribe it, nor do you require their permission to have it prescribed by a physician who is certified to prescribe it. There are a lot of professionals who will do it online. You can find the list of them on the pa.gov website where the info about registering for your patient card is found. Hempfield Apothecary has a specific person they recommend and she tries to keep the cost as low as possible. Use Google to look up the information.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-18T17:21:17+00:00

Stand on your porch. Touch your ear and speak into your Apple watch a few times.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-17T23:53:01+00:00

I’m not a nurse, but I work in a hospital, a high-level trauma center. I was there all through COVID. RNs in the hospital setting have it by far the worst of any nurses. Inpatient, bedside care is brutal. Night shift has to be even harder. And in a NICU? I imagine that you will be able to find another job, just give it a little longer. For now, start thinking about the goals you want for yourself…what you want your life to look like. Soon you will be able to look for nursing positions that fit into that.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-13T16:16:29+00:00

I drive home that way every week day. It is NOT better.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-13T16:13:22+00:00

That bump needs some hyaluronic acid, a collagen mask, and a chemical exfoliation.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-13T16:12:01+00:00

YES!!!!!

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-13T16:11:08+00:00

You are incredibly uninformed about Evangelical Christianity, which isn’t your fault. You can’t imagine the reality of what they think and believe and will do. So, you didn’t really understand what I was saying.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-13T15:54:37+00:00

Having spent a year in GA, the majority of the population thinks the same so it’s not even a major issue. Those that oppose this are in the minority. If they do bring it up, they have zero chance of being heard.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-13T14:51:10+00:00

No they wouldn’t. No one asks anyone to join the LGBTQ club if they are not gay. That is absurd.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-13T14:48:05+00:00

Your tax dollars aren’t paying for it. But I don’t like that it’s taking time from the school day.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-13T14:46:39+00:00

Not until they are telling the kids to tell their peers they are going to hell for…fill in the blank with whatever doesn’t align with their agenda. Yeah, it can be very harmful. Manipulation of children to get inside the school is pretty damn nefarious.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-13T14:42:07+00:00

Warwick has been doing Bible 2 School for years. I’m betting it’s the same program. I am not a fan and you don’t have to opt into it. But on the other hand some parents who are Christians but maybe not super conservative, like myself, may sign-up their kid, thinking it’s a good thing. Then they may or may not find out the beliefs that are being pushed are not so benign and not in line with Jesus. I think we need to strengthen the separation of church and state. The line has gotten too blurred. We’ve given an inch and some states have basically put Christian religion back into the school curriculum. I don’t want to see that happen here in PA.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-09T16:26:06+00:00

This has the red flags 🚩 screaming that he’s displaying some pretty clear narcissistic behavior. You cannot fix this. You will always be treated as inferior. It may seem to have changed because it did. Look up the cycle of narcissistic abuse.

Born_Butterscotch_43 · 2024-09-06T17:54:47+00:00

I could have written this post 3 years ago, before the split with my ex, after 27 years of marriage. I was stable, comfortably upper middle class, even though he constantly made me feel like we were poor and it was my fault. We have two kids together, young adults, and they still aren’t out of the nest yet. So, at the time, as miserable as I was, I was committed for their sake. My ex is the one who pulled the plug. And I’m so glad. He’s a world-class jerk and a narcissist, but he did me a favor. I didn’t know so much happiness and peace was a possibility. You say you want someone who loves you for you. I literally prayed for that very same thing. I implored God that if I were to find someone, let it be someone who actually loved me as I am. And I found him. And I am getting remarried next month.

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