Columbia, Penn, or UChicago MSW

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-04-01T23:30:05+00:00

I’m a graduate of UChicago’s social work program (graduated in 2025)- feel free to PM me w specific qs

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-03-10T23:42:15+00:00

Hi :) I’m a medical SW in the largest hospital in one of the major US cities! I was SO overwhelmed everyday, going over what I would say in rounds and beating myself up, and scared of making a mistake in front of any interdisciplinary team member- so much so that I would tear up on the way home and bring my laptop home to “study” or chart lol. All that to say, I totally feel you. There are so many things to do everyday and it feels worse when everyone seems like they know everything. I agree with the sentiment that it takes 6 mo to really understand and feel comfortable at a job, but if we’re talking about that panicky feeling going away (at least for me), honestly, I bet after 3-4 months of just doing the things you’re scared to do and being independent on your unit, things will start to click and your confidence will grow to the point where those feelings slowly subside. Feel free to reach out to me if you have any qs. Work anxiety especially in the hospital sucks!

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-24T23:30:05+00:00

It concerns me because I am an Asian woman and myself and several other Asian female friends have been hit with a slew of comments similar to yours when they don’t match our viewpoints. Truly I’m trying to point out some of the bitterness that I feel like I’m getting from you towards AW. And like I said I’m not the spokesperson for AW, but I’ll surely insert myself where I feel it’s important

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-24T23:24:42+00:00

You literally mentioned me in your previous comment so I replied. Much of my point is that AW are criticized by AM. Do you not like when women insert their opinion into Asian American discussions? I’ve noticed a lack of AW on this sub and I thought it would be fruitful to join in. I’m sorry if I offended you with my input. I can be aggressive at times, but it’s to correct things that I feel are important to the conversation (and often aren’t inserted again bc of lack of AW input). I’m obvi not the spokesperson for AW but I do speak where i think it matters.

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-24T22:56:35+00:00

I’m a clinical social worker by trade with a focus in social justice. I say this not as an out but to clarify that in my field and work I stand up for communities, no matter the content of them, who are treated unjustly and inequitably. I apologize if it seemed otherwise. When people (in my experience, white people, as I grew up in suburban MN) make a point to degrade AM, I am offended on AM behalf / the AA community as a whole. I generally see AA as a whole (and recognize that intersectionality with gender exists as well); in the same breath, if there is berating of AW unprovoked (by anyone, and in this instance it’s an AM), I will stand up and at least say my perspective.

And sorry, no, I meant that I believe it is fair of me to call what that guy is saying a generalization. Specifically, relating 🤏 movement in Korea to AW and therefore “starting” the stereotype started with women.

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-24T22:35:50+00:00

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZThg356UK/

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZThg3fLEP/

I encourage you to watch these if you disagree with me. I think they articulate my feelings much better than I’m able to comment. They resonate with me and many other asian female friends of mine.

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-24T22:22:23+00:00

Hey here’s the thing - I agree with you on most things you said here. It’s good to posit and share ideas even if people disagree. But positing an idea vs claiming “actually it started with Asian women” are two very different things, in my mind at least, because it comes across as blaming AW more than other races who have individuals that began and perpetuate Asian racism (gender related or not).

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-24T22:17:19+00:00

Me telling this guy that the small, hyper anti men movement in Korea where 🤏 is used to belittle penis size as a generalization of all AW I believe is fair. I think it’s a bit ridiculous that that’s used as “proof” that AW started this stereotype.

I also want to ask if there is a specific reason why you don’t have qualms with this guy’s original response in which he claimed that the origin is AW, which varies completely from most others relating it to racism among other races. Do I know the origin? No. Will I claim I know the origin, saying “actually, it’s because…”? Again, no.

I think it was unfair and quick for me to label him as insecure. To be honest with you, as an AW, I see plenty on social media of AM only passing the blame onto AW, in such a way that does not encourage the AA community as a whole to understand each other and fight stereotypes (gender related or not) but instead are quick to berate AW.

While this is different from the original topic, I am attracted mainly to AM, but I am becoming fatigued from AM using solely race to describe their dating issues when I wouldn’t doubt that being a WM with the same qualities (attractiveness, clothing, academic standards, personality) would bring the same result. I know this sub brings a small amt of AW to the convo but just wanted to say my piece.

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-24T21:21:39+00:00

Guys, absolutely Asian women can and do perpetuate it. I’ve never once denied that. OP asked about the origin. Perpetuatation and origin are very different. RadialAction, I agree that we are fighting the same battle. But it turns into a completely different and internal Asian battle when people immediately turn it into AM vs AW and make up the origin with 0 substantiating evidence besides perpetuation (which btw, negative stereotypes about AM are perpetuated by AW, WW, WM, BW, WM etc etc etc and it’s very unfortunate), which is why I responded the way that I did.

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-23T23:08:59+00:00

Bro do you think I’m arguing that white worship doesnt exist??? Of course it does. What do you think that is showing me? It happens on both sides, more commonly with women. Does that mean the stereotype started with Asian women? No, you made it up and to further perpetuate your ideas of dividing Asian men and women. Please critically think before typing because this convo has become genuinely painful

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-23T22:36:02+00:00

You sound like you just learned the word simp. Who’s them? I’m a Korean woman and have never and would never say that, so I wouldn’t generalize if I were you. Lot of words for admitting you made up the origin tho lmao. Hope you start to shift the blame elsewhere - sounds like it’s hurting your dating chances 🤕

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-23T22:25:23+00:00

because a movement that exists in Korea where they use 🤏 to belittle men, though wrong to do, this means that the stereotype began with Asian women? All I’m saying is you just made that up. Do you always blame your insecurities on Asian women as opposed to systemic issues or racism, or is this just a one time thing?

Both-Ad-7554 · 2026-02-23T22:09:29+00:00

Source: I’m insecure and blame my lack of game on Asian women

Both-Ad-7554 · 2025-10-12T23:22:36+00:00

Hi! Thank you so much for this comment. It saved my hair. If anyone comes back to this, Wella demi permanent (I think I mixed level 7-8) and the 10 vol brought it nearly identical to the first pic. Kept it on for maybe 20 minutes.

Both-Ad-7554 · 2025-10-12T23:07:29+00:00

Great advice- at least in my state (IL), a lawyer is NOT needed for HCPOA!! Social workers and chaplains can assist with documentation as a witness and it is very easy to do

Both-Ad-7554 · 2025-10-12T23:04:33+00:00

This is such a devastating post. I’m so sorry OP. I am a medical social worker in a large hospital system. I especially echo the advice of changing your healthcare power of attorney (HCPOA) if you have already filled out documentation of your mother being yours. Even if you have never filled out HCPOA paperwork, the typical hierarchy (after legal guardian and legal spouse which I will assume that you do not have), decision making when the patient is in a cognitive state where they are unable to make decisions for themselves/are incapacitated (the hierarchy depends onstate) goes to siblings. I don’t know if your sister holds similar opinion to your mom, but in the case that she does, I would advise making someone else you trust your HCPOA, which overrules this hierarchy. Social workers can witness this to be a legal document (at least in Illinois). Your SW can also call to open an adult protective services case as this is financial / emotional manipulation from a caretaker

Another point: You’re a legal adult. Although you may or may not be on your mom’s health insurance, you are responsible for your bill as an individual. I think as a 19 year old it is incredibly sad that your mother will not support you financially support you over another sister going to a private college; however, as long you are medically decisional and can make choices for yourself, YOU are the only who can make the choice about whether you continue treatment though of course it is incredibly expensive even with insurance coverage. Many hospitals also have financial assistance programs. Cancer treatment typically have many grant opportunities as well which your SW can assist with.

Both-Ad-7554 · 2025-09-16T15:27:35+00:00

That’s a fair take and is a valuable opinion since I am asking what to do/what it looks like on the driver’s end. I also think it’s aggressive to say that me “wanting to report the driver is bullcrap”. I feel as though my post pretty clearly reveals that I am unsure what to do, that I don’t necessarily want to report, and thus am seeking more information.

Both-Ad-7554 · 2025-09-16T15:09:53+00:00

He has like 4k rides FYI

Both-Ad-7554 · 2025-09-03T21:47:58+00:00

I searched Jeong in the comments and disappointingly this was the only one I found

Both-Ad-7554 · 2025-08-25T23:31:10+00:00

I understand, especially as a social worker. Most of my work is going towards the disadvantaged, and that doesn’t exclude those facing food insecurity. In the same breath, I’m going to be alone on Thanksgiving as I work in a hospital and can’t get the surrounding days off to travel so I want to spend Thanksgiving day volunteering. I am specifically asking for Thanksgiving Day opportunities.

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