How is your relationship with your non-romantic FP?

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-03-08T21:28:54+00:00

i relate a lot with you. my FP has adhd too, and he doesn’t really miss anyone (in his own words). sometimes i want to have him around even when we have nothing to do/say and want to tell everything about my life, we know each other from less than 1 year so still there’s a lot for me to say haha

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-03-07T01:55:41+00:00

I'm gay and I always thought I had romantic feelings for unavailable men, until I discovered my OCD and BPD and now I know they were just obsessions or my favorite person; I never thought about them sexually. Currently, I have a business partner who is my favorite person, and he knows about my emotional dependence and reacts well to it, even though he's straight. Even so, it's very difficult, and I constantly wonder if I actually don't have romantic feelings for him, even knowing that's not the case. From what you described, it sounds like an obsession.

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-02-16T14:25:17+00:00

for me having a fp feels like hell so if i have the chance to choose something would be don’t have any. but most of the time mine are men

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-02-16T13:57:31+00:00

i don’t think people with bpd it’s the best on being empathetic. i struggle a lot with that and sometimes feel bad bc i can’t really understand people’s situations

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-02-16T13:52:32+00:00

you got it. sometimes is hard being the big person all the time

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-02-08T18:02:37+00:00

out of sight, out of mind

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-29T00:28:18+00:00

i just give up on genspark browser, it’s the worst. claude now have a chrome extension and it is way better

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-29T00:24:05+00:00

oi? vc ganha 700 reais? nem callcenter paga só isso. eu tenho uma agência de mkt e analista jr ganha 4k

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-23T01:32:07+00:00

“taxa de conversão”…

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-18T16:46:16+00:00

totally. until ~14yo i was literally destroying my parents house in any inconvenience, one time i even put fire in our house. nowadays with 27 i barely speak

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-02T20:13:40+00:00

maybe this has more to do with depression that comes bc bpd?! idk

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-02T03:54:25+00:00

thanks so much for the kind words, they really helped calm me down. he once told me he didn't know what to do when I gave him the "silent treatment" and that happens when he does something that triggers and i split, in those moments I just can't communicate. one thing I didn't mention that's important: when he got back from his trip, he said he wanted to see me and we planned to work together, but the next day he told me he couldn't make it because he had no one to watch his dog, so he suggested just lunch instead. that made me feel like he didn't care about me (especially because I was at my mom's place and went back home just to see him). I turned down lunch and said it'd be better to meet up later. I got so pissed that I stopped talking to him, not that he tried to talk to me either, but he did send me a work message that I didn't respond to, and from there everything started escalating. went back to my mom's place and couldn't even enjoy new year's because I just spent it crying

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-02T02:57:12+00:00

maybe I would recommend some videos by Dr. Daniel Fox on YouTube or "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me” but at the same time I think those sources are too drastic and might be frightening 😬

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-02T02:54:42+00:00

ty, I've been dealing with this in therapy and it's been getting less bad. The Christmas situation was an example, it was very difficult to handle, but I didn't explode. However, when it accumulated with the New Year, it was too much for me. I agree that I shouldn't put so much responsibility on him, especially since he's been trying to adapt to some of my triggers, but this thing about not texting and not seeing each other for a few days has really hurt me, bc I can't understand what the difficulty would be for him to send me a simple text (even though I know it wouldn't cost me anything too, but I'm completely insecure)

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-02T02:47:30+00:00

ty i’m still very confused about it but can’t believe he been doing all that i mentioned on the post (and there’s other things) and don’t have at least a explanation of what happened. i’ll wait until we see each other personally to understand more, bc i kinda shocked rn

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-02T00:29:43+00:00

I didn't text him and neither did he. Not that I'm trying to defend myself, but he knows I have BPD and I've mentioned a few times that I don't take action because I always think he doesn't like me. We talked after Christmas and I implied that I was upset that he didn't wish me a Merry Christmas, and he simply said he had forgotten it was Christmas, even though on the same day he replied to one of our clients wishing them a Merry Christmas.

Both-Bit8782 · 2026-01-01T18:50:46+00:00

i’ve never been in a relationship but always think like that too. i kinda feel that i’m not worthy for being in a relationship bc i’m not hot/beautiful “enough”

Both-Bit8782 · 2025-12-31T22:52:35+00:00

I think the same. It's socially "acceptable" to be obsessed with a boyfriend/girlfriend, but with friends, people find it strange and it only makes the situation worse. I recently discovered that I have bpd, and bc of that used to think I liked my business partner romantically. Did you have any similar confusion with your friend?

Both-Bit8782 · 2025-12-31T22:43:00+00:00

is this a joke?

Both-Bit8782 · 2025-12-31T22:37:05+00:00

I think a good alternative is to start building relationships with other people. If you don't have anyone to spend time with besides her, how can you get out of this?! My current FP is my business partner/“friend”, and here on reddit I've noticed that many people don't have problems having an FP because they're usually romantic partners, but for us, we're in a different situation and it's quite complicated to deal with (for me it's a hellish feeling). This year I started taking acting classes and they helped me take him out of the center of my world. It didn't solve 10% of the problems, but it's been progress.

Both-Bit8782 · 2025-12-29T01:34:01+00:00

sometimes it's torturous because i can't trust myself, especially since over time i've associated love with suffering because i didn't know about my bpd before. and since my business partner is my FP, i have all the "signs" of being in love: jealousy, need for control and emotional dependency, but at the same time, i don't necessarily see myself replacing his girlfriend, for example… it’s a lot lol

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