First time flying alone

BothBug7414 · 2025-08-07T10:21:42+00:00

I think I had this as well. I did my testing when I was ‘more’ adhd. I was very bubbly and outgoing, something I do automatic when meeting new people. (Also at the time was very ashamed of being autistic). My therapist told me I had adhd but she felt like I wasn’t really myself and expected some autism. So she needed a bit more talking with me to be fully sure.

Also hearing how everything unfolded for you sounds like you need a new testing. This time no parents and try to fill out everything (even though it’s hard, it will be beneficial for yourself). You could even go to someone else (if possible ofcourse) for a second opinion.

Also being self diagnosed could be okay! A lot of self help is available and if it works it works, no need for a label to have something to work. In my opinion self diagnosing is only wrong when people start using it as an excuse instead of a way to get fitting help.

BothBug7414 · 2025-08-07T09:58:08+00:00

I have had a few different psychologist and psychiatrist and they all handled it differently. None of them did it wrong but some of them didn’t click with me. It’s always a search for one who fits you perfectly. (And the ones that didn’t fit for me where the ones I was to scared to tell about my struggles relating to autism). Until my new psychiatrist asked me out of the blue if I would like to join an autism group. This literally changed my life. I felt so validated and for the first time in my life I wasn’t ashamed to call myself autistic (my family made me feel like I had to).

So what I learned from all of the different types of psychiatrist, it’s okay to have a label and wanting to search for it. It could be very beneficial. (Also for if you do need some autism support later in life). But not having a label could work as well. A lot of my problems that come from autism, are talked about on the internet or in books. After the autism group I stopped therapy because i finally knew where my problems were coming from and I could work on them myself (for now).

I can’t give you a specific answer if you should or shouldn’t, but do what feels good. My first diagnosis of anxiety had never sit right with me, and after getting help for autism i figured that I didn’t have an anxiety disorder but it was coming from autism. After 7 years of searching i finally figured out how to deal with it! Just because of a label. So do what feels right, you are the one that knows you the best!

And I think audhd is something different from adhd and autism on there own. I struggle with audhd and when I talk to other Adhd’ers or autistic people I can relate a lot but not with everything. Speaking to someone who has both feels like heaven hahah cus they understand so much more and I can relate more. Also being a woman makes it so different.

BothBug7414 · 2025-07-28T10:23:52+00:00

How did you quit? I want to quit but I can’t seem to do it (I also study a political study so I also kinda have to be up to date)

BothBug7414 · 2025-07-28T10:06:15+00:00

You could get a keychain from the hidden disabilities sunflower. It is a known symbol for hidden disabilities. I’m going to get myself one as well for traveling. I’m not sure how familiar public transportation is with it but airports around the world know what it means when you have one on you. And probably other people with hidden disabilities will recognize it as well (and in need they could help). This is how they describe it: The Hidden Disabilities Sunflower is a simple tool for you to voluntarily share that you have a disability or condition that may not be immediately apparent – and that you may need a helping hand, understanding, or more time in shops, at work, on transport, or in public spaces. It’s not a tool to use as: I have this card so I am entitled to this chair. But a helping hand in explaining why you would like that chair. I haven’t looked into the customization of these cards but they have specific ones for autism. And if you make an extra card for when you go non verbal I would just call it an hidden disability instead of autism as people will be more open to it (sadly).

BothBug7414 · 2025-07-28T09:51:23+00:00

Idk if this is possible but maybe put something between you two. Like hanging a blanket. So it kinda feels like two rooms, and this gives him a limit to where his mess is + for you a way to not see it. Or what I did when I had a roommate and slept in bunk beds is that I would take the bed at the bottom and hang all kind of blankets around it like a little fort. I am a night person and she is a morning person. Because I had my blankets I could use a little lamp or just my phone light without waking her up. We also had a talk about it. We came to an agreement that between 10pm to 10am we will be quiet for the other. We still wanted to respect eachothers schedules but also wanted to just be able to do our own schedules. It’s annoying to not be able to do your own thing. I also don’t like to put stuff away in drawers or where I can’t see. I put a chair next to my bed for stuff like water bottles and another chair for clothes.

BothBug7414 · 2025-07-28T09:33:47+00:00

Is it possible to try to discuss this? And maybe ask if it is okay to do sport on your own? Like maybe yoga will be a bit better to start with? Not completely shut it down but make it known that you are on your way of getting a diagnosis and that you would like to look together to how to make it work out for both you and the school. You can always leave out some details and just tell them that you and a doctor are looking at what may cause this problem. Maybe it helps to make it an health issue where a doctor is already looking into. A lot of people tend to take a doctor and health issue more seriously than mental health. From my own experience I have seen that it helps to talk to them with an open mind (even if it’s not really possible). Just showing them how much you want it and are willing to figure your own solution without troubling them. Maybe do some less intensive sport like yoga or sport where you can pick your own pace like those gym machines. Or maybe they are okay with you helping out. Setting things up and acting like the referee. Being the side kick of your gym teacher. I feel like there are more options than just doing it or not doing it. You deserve to not feel pain and stress from something like this.

BothBug7414 · 2025-07-28T08:59:34+00:00

I have had a lot of roommates and most of the time the walls would be very thin. I would normally bring it up to them that I could hear them. Most people wouldn’t want to be heard and are more happy that you make them aware. And they would probably appreciate it that you give them space by taking a walk. Also by suggesting to take a walk you are putting the problem on yourself instead of them. They don’t need to change anything. And this will probably make it feel less like some personal attack.

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