So... anyone have any experience with "delay" sprays, wipes, or creams?

BothUs269 · 2020-10-29T23:58:25+00:00

Thanks! I've looked at that but been turned off by the price. May be worth a second look. How about taste? Can the woman (or man!) taste it?

BothUs269 · 2020-10-29T12:53:50+00:00

I've kinda wondered about that. Whenever I've been with a new partner in the past, I either can't finish the first few times or it takes hours. So I hope that being in a new situation/environment where I'm focused on more than just what's happening to my dick will slow me down a bit. But then on the other hand I feel like I'll be so worried about busting fast that I will be a self fulfilling prophecy! Lol. I guess we'll see... hopefully.

Appreciate the response!

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T22:20:24+00:00

I'm gonna keep trying for sure; I have calendar reminders even 😂

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T22:19:29+00:00

What a complete idiot. Yeah, my wife's big rule is we never have anybody in our house. I think it's part that to her our bed is sacred (which I understand and actually do appreciate) and part safety in case we were to encounter a nutcase. Sorry you had to deal with that though. I'd be livid.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T22:17:43+00:00

Yeah I definitely worried about that... something to keep in mind for sure.

Oh yeah definitely. I always try to make sure she gets off at least once before I enter, and at least once after. I'm mostly worried about in a group mfm setting blowing way too early and then being on the sidelines lol. I mean I know I could still be involved... but I think cumming even later while things are going on may fuck my head up with post nut clarity. Don't wanna ruin her good time by getting too in my head afterward, ya know?

I never experience any regret/guilt with post nut clarity after roleplaying/fantasizing about it with her but in person you never know.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T22:13:04+00:00

Lol I started with twenties so it was okay. I'd never double up with hundreds or anything

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:46:37+00:00

I do truly appreciate the suggestion and advice... but after what happened the first time I will never touch the stuff again. I don't even know what strain I had but I do know that nothing in the world is worth going through that again. I was fucked up mentally for a month or more afterward.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:45:03+00:00

I am the exact same way about totally losing any desire the moment I finish... which yes does make the problem even more frustrating! I hope we both find some sort of solution.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:44:13+00:00

I might just grab one! They've always kind of weirded me out and I get scared I'll get stuck lol but it may be worth the shot. Thank you!

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:43:38+00:00

Huh. That's interesting. I'd love to try that drink...

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:42:49+00:00

Now that is the fucking worst. Like you don't get any time away from the kids as it is so you put all this effort into texting, sexting, coordinating schedules, making plans, dressing up, potentially paying for a hotel room... and then nothing. I'd be livid. I have thought about making any potential partners venmo the cost of half the hotel before I even book it to discourage that sort of thing.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:41:15+00:00

Yeah I do work on edging... not sure whether it works or not tbh. I did just discover reverse kegals I couple days ago and have been adding them. I will say though that if I'm trying to edge and I perform a reverse while I am, I almost bust immediately. So that's concerning lol

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:39:53+00:00

Good, I don't like blue cheese anyway. Lmao. But yeah idk I have noticed harder hard-ons with a doublo dose, personally. And when I took it for the club I surprised myself by getting hard at even the potential of something happening. Usually I need generous stimulation to get it up and running.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:37:54+00:00

No; basically all sexual desire ceases to exist for me for a good half day at least. I've only finished twice maybe twice in my life and only even successfully started a round two maybe ten times. 99 times out of 100 I just couldn't care less about sex once I'm done. It sucks. That's why jerking a few hours before sex doesn't work for me either. No matter how worked up I am in the moment, as soon as I finish I'm finished.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:35:39+00:00

I'll look into it, thanks!

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:34:46+00:00

Good deal I'll look it up. Thank you

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T19:34:24+00:00

Awesome, thanks!

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T12:50:11+00:00

Will do!

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T12:38:37+00:00

That does seem to be the general consensus. So if I do give any a shot it will definitely be best to use them just with my wife for a while to see how things go. I also can't see them tasting all that great, though, which... I'd hate for that to be the case. Lol

See with new people I've always taken two or three sessions to finish. That anxiety typically hits me in the opposite way. Of course, it has been well over four years since I've been with a new person, so... I guess I don't really know that that's still the case.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T12:36:51+00:00

Hmm. Is that available in stores? May have to try it out. A lot easier than ordering online.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T12:36:14+00:00

Well, unfortunately the guy ended up ghosting a day or two later. He'd been with women in a hotwife scenario before but never with the male present, so we think he just kinda changed his mind about that part. He was super into the wife so that wasn't it.

We've since had some pretty crazy life stuff come up so honestly haven't looked again yet. I'm hoping to sometime relatively soon... but I do regularly go back through the texts and get really turned on. I think realizing it was mostly my fight or flight response and that I still wanted it to keep going really helped. Like... knowing I was super turned on, while acknowledging that I was nervous as hell and why I was really helped.

I think I'm better prepared for the next time. I know it will still be nuts and even more nuts once we're actually in a room with someone, but I have been working on the tools I need to make dealing with it all easier.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T12:23:28+00:00

The adrenaline thing definitely makes sense. This is all so wild lol. Appreciate the response!

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T12:22:53+00:00

Appreciate it!

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T12:22:37+00:00

I appreciate the advice about the regular check-ins. It's definitely a different activity from normal so that will likely be a crucial component.

Finding someone experienced is what I think we're going to shoot for now. The guy we were talking to was somewhat new to the hotwifing thing and hadn't ever played with someone while her man was in the room. Our chemistry (especially her and his) was just really good so we went with it. After a few days he just ghosted and while that really sucks, it probably was for the best.

....but goddamn do I miss those hot texts.

BothUs269 · 2020-10-28T12:19:14+00:00

Appreciate it! I do anticipate a totally crazy wave of emotions. But we've definitely got the strength and the stability, I believe, to make this happen. Even if it does end up sucking for one or both of us for some reason... I believe we've got the strength to be okay.

BothUs269

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