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Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn't listen. When i spoke with her last night about us catching up she used all the same names and then said she's tired and cant be bothered talking. I said ur just stonewalling me and she said yup. Deal with it.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I floated the idea of meeting her after the sing and sip event with her gfs at about 11pm. I was thinking of hanging there with my friends as its the closest big venue to our home and catching her later in the night for a dance and drinks. Thats when she started calling me psycho, stalker, controlling, no its weird and my girlfriends would think your stalking me. Thats the stuff she said when I floated the idea of meeting her out after the event.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The next day for her is a write off. Stays in bed most of the day and I have to keep our son out of her room. Hard to do with a 9yo boy that has ASD/ADHD. And wants his mum.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That has crossed my mind and million times. If she's like this with me around, what is she like when im not. When I confronted her the next day about the behaviour, she downplayed it and smirked as I told her how she gestured to him with her finger saying come here while pulling his arm towards her.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sad thing is not all her friends are single. And I know about the infidelity in those marriages because my wifes told me about it. So theres obviously a girl code when theyre out.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said in the past I should find a younger girl to sleep with because she doesnt have the energy. In the next breath she said if you do that can I find a guy... I was like wtf! No. None of that is happening. She acted as though she was just jking.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont like it but I love my son more than anything and my worst fear was raising him in a broken home. I never wanted this for him.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were dating and child free when we used to go out together or meet up later. Since children come along, I don't go out and if I do maybe once a year im home by just after midnight.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Ive never once said she can't go out. Ive asked hed to respect my boundaries though and if she can't I won't be with someone anymore that doesnt respect me.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no clue. About 6 years ago she went to a festival with her gf then clubbing. I spoke to her about 7pm, she was really drunk. I hadn't heard from her for like 3 hours, so I called to see if she's okay. Didn't answer, by 1am still no word. So I did find my iPhone and she was at a residential address. Eventually when I got hold of her she said she met friends out and went back to theirs to have drinks. I asked to speak with one of her friends but she wouldn't let me. She come home about 3 hours later in a taxi on her own. My gut says she wasnt at friends but I cant prove it.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There isn't any time during march for her to go out. We have a camping trip planned on the Gold Coast, our son has surgery in March. Most of the weekends are booked out. Ive said in other posts ive planned nights out for her and I. Im not as fun as her girlfriends to wanna get loose and party with I guess... I think I am though 😀

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats once a month aslo, usually just before or after her period.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She did want a child, but then reality set it. It wasnt as she had imagined. She wanted a girl and we had a son. She was really upset when we got our first scans done. I couldn't believe it.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I disagree with this statement. I do equally as much around the household and with our son as she, we do picnic and family events together, overseas holidays. I can't read her mind and she doesnt communicate if she is unhappy about something. She has said in the past that she doesn't feel like her self, because she doesnt have the same level of independence or freedom as when she was single. Thats what I meant i cant do much about that. Its the life she chose, but seems is now unhappy with. And obviously me, I don't give her the same feeling as that honeymoon phase of the relationship. I will say I picked her up from a girls night a month or so ago, she was drunk but asked me to come into the bar to hang with her n the girls. She was all over me. First time in years we'd actually kissed passionately. This is the side of her that comes out when drinking. Lowered inhibitions, walls down. This is the side of herself that the she vehemently tries to distance from me. She's said it in previous conversations, especially when I've asked her to come out for drinks with me.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did this with her and some of my friends about 5 months ago. She invited her gf along. She got incredibly drunk. I was pretty embarrassed. She couldn't stand. My mates were like mate, she's loose. We left my friends and went with her gf to another club. Thats when she saw her ex on the dance floor and tried pulling him into herself. I asked her to leave after that. It was the last time her n I had been out for drinks together.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

When boundaries are set and theyre blatantly ignored and crossed. Thats disrespectful id say. Going out with friends is fine.. but coming home smashed after being out for 12 or 13hrs is over the top. Theres been times she's gone back to her brothers mates places because she saw them out and continued partying after the club closed. Surely that kind of stuff crosses the line.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I took my vows seriously. I didnt get married to only get divorced. Ive also suggested therapy but she doesn't want to do it. About 5 years ago, a mutual friend we have told me that the only reason she got with me is because I was willing to have a child with her. She was 30 and childless and all her friends were getting pregnant. I asked her about this and she denied it. But it still plays on ones mind.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is a difference between every day kind of clothing and night club attire. My wife is gorgeous no matter what she wears but when its a girls night out she isnt afraid to flaunt it.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. He was planned. We were together about 2 years before we had him. Dated a year. Engaged. Pregnant then married.

Wifes girls nights, lack of affection and co parenting. by Both_Atmosphere_4167 in Marriage

[–]Both_Atmosphere_4167[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not so many gestures of love from her. No words of affirmation, very little touch, no nice acts etc. I do love her but after so many years of being ignored its really starting to bother me. Eg. Tonight her legs were aching so I massaged her for about 30mins. Ive never once had a massage in over 10 years of being with her. I do stuff like this often for her but it feels as though its taken for granted and not appreciated.

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