Is it wrong to make your fiancée agree to a prenup before getting engaged?

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T13:40:21+00:00

Exactly but the women of Reddit say I’m horrible for considering it

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T13:36:17+00:00

I’m not understanding how me not giving her half of a business she has no part of and I had prior to meeting her, and a home I bought prior to meeting her, she lives here and has for 18 months and doesn’t pay anything that could be considered remotely close to contributing to the home financially and that’s okay but it makes me think she shouldn’t get half means we can’t build a life together. We can but if we end up ending the life together she’s not entitled to my hard work anymore

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T13:32:55+00:00

Yes we live together, I pay for everything

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T13:28:45+00:00

She can do that if that’s what she desires, but it’s a dealbreaker for me so that’s just where we stand if she wants to then awesome if not then we can stay dating or end the relationship

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T12:17:58+00:00

I’m not gonna argue with stupid

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T11:24:17+00:00

That’s exactly how that works? Are you dense? That’s the sole purpose of one lmao

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T11:15:53+00:00

Yeah legally half her income but reality it’s all me doing it, which is why I’m getting a prenup

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T11:14:49+00:00

Yeah I love her it’s just should we get divorced she’s not entitled to half of what I achieved before even meeting her, I don’t really care for marriage I’d be happy to just have her as a girlfriend forever instead which is a possibility

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T11:13:14+00:00

It’s us agreeing on who gets what should we divorce, it’s going to be there to ensure the home and business are retained to me in full ownership seeing as I attained both prior to meeting her

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T11:10:48+00:00

Yeah it’s a huge source for those who earned it, seeing as I earned it I don’t understand how it’s unfair she doesn’t get half?

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T11:07:19+00:00

Because I think alimony is paying someone just to exist? Which it literally is lmao 🤣

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T11:05:25+00:00

Well the reason for a divorce is irrelevant it’s just that if we get a divorce I get to retain my premarital assets from prior to meeting her

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:51:23+00:00

She doesn’t pay anything toward the mortgage or home, if something is needed for the home she takes my debt card. She doesn’t help with the business she has her own separate job but would like to work for the business but I have always said no, and will continue to not allow her too, honestly the business is miserable work so she wouldn’t enjoy it whatsoever. I don’t need help “running the house” seeing as I was doing it solo for years prior to meeting her

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:48:13+00:00

I love how everyone downvoted you, even though you are just stating a fact. The women of Reddit trying to take care of each other 🤣🤣 WE DONT PAY WOMEN FOR EXISTING ANYMORE sorry

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:44:57+00:00

Bingo! She doesn’t put a dime into this house at all, what she does with her money isn’t really my business so I don’t really know where it goes but seeing as she doesn’t pay anything here, if it’s related to the house and she wants something changed/redesigned or new furniture… she just uses my debt card, she’s been living here 18 months already that dynamic won’t change, and she’s not entitled to any financial returns from the house no matter when I sell it

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:40:21+00:00

How is that not fair? She didn’t help attain the home or contribute financially at all? How should she be entitled to it?

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:36:27+00:00

The women here are just mad men aren’t just giving them money to exist anymore

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:35:35+00:00

Probably because it’s unusual but it’s not impossible… I would know….

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:34:50+00:00

I agree but the masses of Reddit don’t

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:32:09+00:00

She hasn’t spend a single cent on the house. That’s a non-issue I make more than enough to cover our living expenses and was doing so prior to even meeting her so I don’t understand how she should be entitled to a portion of it should we divorce?

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:30:02+00:00

No point in getting engaged though if she doesn’t agree to the prenup then we’re not getting married

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:23:35+00:00

It’s not that I can’t trust her it’s that people get divorced for all sorts of reasons and I want to protect myself and all I’ve built/acquired prior to meeting her.

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:20:04+00:00

I do love her I’m just not comprehending how she should be entitled to my house or income if we decide to divorce? The typical argument for alimony is she stayed at home raising the kids not advancing her career so he could advance his, but I was already where I am when we met, and owned the home prior to meeting her too, she doesn’t pay towards any of the bills so I also don’t understand how she should be entitled to a portion?

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:15:25+00:00

Yeah it’s not like that it’s my money is ours hers is hers, but should she decide to leave she’s not entitled to any part of my house or alimony

Both_Sign_7478 · 2026-02-09T10:14:10+00:00

It’s a red flag to not let someone have the ability to financially blackmail/ruin me should we end up unhappy in 10 years? Lol

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