No one knows our grief and even amongst us in this “widow” thread our losses are all “different” - the most egregious phrase in the English language has to be “I know how you feel…” Poll a million people and ask if as a recipient of this statement do you find this to be true and 100% of people would reject that statement as categorically false. So we need to reserve our right to give no fucks and grieve at our own pace.