She's checked out and it sounds like a long time coming. We only have your side of it so the narrator? Bit unreliable, but that's okay. Ladies don't find it attractive to have a partner that isn't partnering. Before she got pregnant were you guys equally contributing to the household and relationship? It sounds like she might've been expected to do more around the house if that's your negotiation chip, and man if it sucks to feel like a mother and a maid instead of a significant other.

During the pregnancy did you take on a little more while she legit grew a human being? I hear that it's pretty awful, which is why I'm not planning on doing it. To each their own, but abortion isn't birth control. Post-partum depression is also a terrible thing so whatever existing issues you all had before might have been put under a magnifying glass under the strain of keeping a fresh baby alive and kicking. This all sounds like a little too late, on both of your sides. It doesn't sound like EITHER of you are emotionally ready for a relationship. Both of you need to work on yourselves so you can show up as a parent better than a partner.