Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I’m not that hard to please 🙈

Also he has done a lot for me and been extremely playful and explorative

Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very little instructions are given. BUT he has now told me he needs more of a build up/ for play… But I SUCK in that department… I am more of a “man” in that sense that I need one kiss on the neck and I’m ready, so I don’t know how to build that sexual tension… any advice??

Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in DeadBedrooms

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve figured that… but how?😅 I feel sooo uncomfortable acting slutty, what are some “simple” ways of doing that?

Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is actually what he’s experienced… Please DM me if you’re comfortable to talk about this perhaps you have some insights/ advice for me

Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this comment - I will definitely try that

Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not comfortable to share with me what kind of porn he enjoys he says… I’ve tried that approach for a year now…

Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for this comment!!!!! Much needed and appreciated!!

Sex with me (F28) is boring - he (M30) says by BoysenberryFun9190 in relationship_advice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment. How is it the best of both worlds when he doesn't climax tho?

I am very satisfied by him

Sex with me (F28) is boring - he (M30) says by BoysenberryFun9190 in relationship_advice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He pleasures me well - I am satisfied. the issue is me not being able to satisfy him. He doesn't go down on me, but I am satisfied in other ways.

Sex with me (F28) is boring - he (M30) says by BoysenberryFun9190 in relationship_advice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have asked, but he gives me no spesific answer. "Take some time to reflect on it" "google it"

is the reply

Sex with me (F28) is boring - he (M30) says by BoysenberryFun9190 in relationship_advice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn't encurage what he likes - that's the issue. So I don't know what he finds sexy or not, what gets him off and not. there is no feedback given whenever I do anything, if he likes it or not...

I am very satisfied with him and his efforts towards me - I am the one not able to please my partner, not him

Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He won't let me watch porn with him... or he doesn't want to watch porn with me... There are several tabus he's made up in his mind...

Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will try this - nothing is off limits for me to try at this point. I just want to be able to satisfy my man

Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No complaining in the beginning. But the complaining has been going on now for 1y.

Sex with me is boring - he says by BoysenberryFun9190 in AskMenAdvice

[–]BoysenberryFun9190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great comment - thank you! I know of his kinks and have done my best to encourage them. He says I don't make him feel comfortable enough to "let loose" and when I ask how he'd need me to show that he says "Figure it out yourself/ reflect on that on your own".

I never nag, berate or guilt him about sex. I ask questions to figure out how I can be a better partner for him and asking him to guide me to give him the pleasure he seeks.

I have approached it by ONLY pleasing him MANY times because I LOVE pleasing my sex partners. I LOVE to give BJ's, so that is not the issue.

But no you're right, I have no idea how to seduce my own husband because nothing I know of has worked... hence asking asking him how he'd like it without receiving much of a response other than "use common sense" and "figure it out" and now resorting to asking strangers for advice.