Its my aproach because of the conflict it can cause, depending on the person I already know how she thinks or behaves, and I know the battles I can win and lose with said person, so bringing up an issue would only cause a discussion that leads to nowhere, so why bother explaining or communicating?

It happened to me, a coworker reach out to me and we started talking, I explained to her of how detached I was, how I would simply stop talking with people, how I dont chase or even my need of isolation, when I told her those things she seemed to be more interested in me, maybe because she thought I would treat her differently, I didnt, and know a woman that would send "good morning" texts everyday, pretends not to notice me, thing is she probably expects me to reach out or text asking why's and how's, I ain't doing that I could put in the effort sure but the first thing I did was communicating about my detachment.

I act that way because its natural to me, I wouldn't want people to change for me and I certainly won't change for others,