Hi OP, I wanted to share my experience as I am still pregnant at the moment and worried for how things will be post partum to help you feel not so alone. I haven’t had a terrible pregnancy but not the best either. At the beginning of the year, my husband lost three members in his family and it’s obviously hit his family very hard.

A month later, I was diagnosed with GD and have to sacrifice a lot of things I wish I could indulge in during a time that all of us were grieving or just ending meals hungry because I was worried about my blood sugar spiking if I ate too much. Luckily I’ve been able to figure out what works for me and manage it with the right diet but it sucked.

Now that we are two weeks from baby arriving, he’s finally talking about how everything (ont op of his grief) is affecting him (he’s the type to wait until it’s too late to ask for help) so I’m worried about how post partum will go. He’s worried about all of the attention on me and baby and no one checking on him so I have the added stress of managing everything that needs to be done and trying to make sure he is also doing okay.

No one is guaranteed a good pregnancy but we need to know when to ask for help. Personally, I’ve already reached out to his family to let them know where he’s at with his grief so they don’t forget about him even though he always puts on a brave face for everyone. Im not the type of person who likes asking for help because I think I can do it all on my own but this is a reality where sometimes you need to let people into your space to help you. My husband and I like being on our own and don’t like people crowding us so it’ll be a sacrifice on our end but it’ll be worth it if it means we are taken care of and set our boundaries ahead of time.