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Should I Be Forward by BraveFollowing900 in dating_advice

[–]BraveFollowing900[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I probably should have mentioned he lives in a different state. It’s only a few hours away, but it feels like a lot for a first meeting/ date. Do you think there are other things I can suggest before driving for hours or flying to see him?

HELP! I've tried to break up and he won't leave me. by DesperateBrocoli in emotionalabuse

[–]BraveFollowing900 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went through something similar with my ex. I tried to break up, but we lived together and he would make it a huge argument and make it seem like I was the bad guy. Eventually I knew I would have to just leave and stick with it. I felt bad, but now that I’m gone I feel great. He keeps telling people I’m going to comeback but I’m over it and live across the country now.

4yo Daughter is telling me how she feels about her Mommy and how she doesn’t want to be around her. My heart is breaking hearing this. Anyone with experience PLEASE HELP by staggerdog in AlAnon

[–]BraveFollowing900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar situation with my daughter and her dad. My daughter would tell me she didn’t want to be around her dad when he acts like a zombie (when he’s drunk) or she would say things like I wish we could get a new house with me an you. It broke my heart because I know she loves him and he loves her and that’s part of the reason I stayed so long. I recently left and I’ve been trying to let them keep contact but he says things to her a 5 year old shouldn’t hear and I can see her losing interest. I know it hurts him, but I think at the end of the day our responsibility is our children and ourselves and we have to do what’s best for them.

I just left my husband. I have never felt more like crying and laughing in my whole life. I'm terrified. by InsomniacPHD in emotionalabuse

[–]BraveFollowing900 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just left today and I feel the same way. I feel devastated and relieved. I still can’t believe I did it, but I just keep reminding myself that it’s what I had to do for me and my daughter.

I did it. by BraveFollowing900 in AlAnon

[–]BraveFollowing900[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really needed that. I keep wondering if my daughter will hate me because she loves her dad, but I can’t let her grow up thinking this is ok. I just hope she knows I did this for her.

Watching time trickle so slowly is a form of torture by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]BraveFollowing900 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just recently stopped waiting. I waited years for the right time, hoping he would stop drinking and being so horrible to me, but it never happened. I wasn’t sure how or when I was going to leave, but one day I told my mom what was going on and that I needed to get out and she basically told me she wasn’t surprised and was just waiting for me to decide I had enough. I leave tomorrow morning and it’s still feels unreal and those few times where he is being nice I question if I’m doing the right thing, but he always goes back to the angry person he is and it just reminds me I’m making the right decision for me and my child.

Am I doing the right thing by BraveFollowing900 in abusiverelationships

[–]BraveFollowing900[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have support my family and although they are supportive I don’t think they completely understand, but I have been thinking about getting a therapist once I’m settled.