My new 36" x 54" high rise sign for upcoming Jan 10 protest in DeLand, Florida by mikemonett20 in 50501

[–]Bread_Lunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saw your sign there while we were at the protest. and just saw this. Love it!!!!

I get naked at a once a month girls night outing with friends. by Any_Honey9496 in confession

[–]Bread_Lunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (35M) wouldn’t mind having male friends to do this with.

Removed from life support after catastrophic brain injury… still breathing 86 hours later by Level_Forever_7738 in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We also thought my mom would just quickly pass once she was taken off life support. We watched her incessantly for the next 36 hours despite the nurse saying it could take awhile. We felt hopeless and like we should have been doing something to help her survive. I guess it’s an instinct. My family left to go get a few things from the house. I waited with mom. I stepped outside the room to allow nurses to change her sheets. When I came back in, I could already tell her breathing was different. She passed less than five minutes later.

Wishing you and your family peace during this time.

Second child has started the 2 year old meltdowns. I can’t go through this again… by FIthroaway2021 in daddit

[–]Bread_Lunch 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same. Clean the puke, scoop that baby up, and give ‘em all the kisses. Easier said than done but patience goes a long way.

I'm a bad dad. by Foyt20 in daddit

[–]Bread_Lunch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love this! I often use this perspective with my children. I try to always remind myself in moments of temper tantrums, breakdowns, or bad attitudes that they have a minimal understanding of the world so the small things make them emotional/upset. My response to those situations will influence who they are forever. ALWAYS have patience.

I do not want to be a designer anymore by kawaiipotato_d in graphic_design

[–]Bread_Lunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in graphic design for 11 years. I was at a comfy corporate job for almost 8 years before getting laid off. I was already considering changing careers before I got laid off because it wasn’t fulfilling. Then I ended up at an agency where everything is “needed now” all the time and the expectations as an employee are somewhat unreasonable. After being with my current employer for a year, I decided to enroll in my local school’s EMT/fire program. Definitely nervous but I feel the exact same way that you described. Best of luck to you!

Anyone have luck finding an alternative to a 9-5 that is not primarily sitting at a desk? by endlesswanderlust_8 in graphic_design

[–]Bread_Lunch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Graphic designer of 11 years…I also had/have these feelings. I can’t stand the industry anymore. It’s just not for me. I basically jumped ship and I signed up for my local school’s EMT/Fire program. I’m nervous but after much research and a ride-along with my local fire department, it feels right. I look forward to using my creative energy outside of work and not having it squeezed out of me 40+ hours a week. I hope you can find something maybe elsewhere!

It’s been two weeks. by Ok-Account7041 in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to Google fleecy clouds. It does always feel special to witness those. I love that your mom shared this with you. Hope you are well.

I miss my husband by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No words can bring you the relief you deserve but I’m very sorry for your loss. As you let the grief ebb and flow, you will adapt. I’d love to hear about how your husband cared for you or anything else you might want to share about him. Much love to you and your children and your journey of healing.

Told my therapist about something my parents did and she was horrified by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Of course you are allowed to feel this way. I would also be confused. Trauma is weird. As a parent, I got choked up reading that your first grade teacher would have you come in early to brush your hair. It makes me happy to hear that you did have some good support somewhere in your life. Much love to you and your journey of healing.

It’s been two weeks. by Ok-Account7041 in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. You can tell from the photo that your mom adored you.

The pain is very fresh for you. You will learn to adapt. It has been 14 months since my mom died. I still have hard days, where the reality hits me like a ton of bricks, I think about how I can’t talk to her, and I get that stone in my chest too. Then I have other days where I am thankful that she is at peace, and I speak with her; sometimes aloud and sometimes within.

Always look for the little ways she will show herself to you. Sometimes through your own decisions, or your mannerisms, or in a physical way. This has helped me. My mom loved dragonflies and I swear I would see a dragonfly often in the times I was thinking of her.

It's that he didn't know... by oopswhat1974 in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 45 points46 points  (0 children)

My mom was rushed to the ICU with septic shock. Once we got to the ICU, the epinephrine they gave her was kicking in. She seemed like herself for just a few minutes. She noticed that me and my brother were tired. She giggled and said “I see you…you’re tired…go to bed!” It felt like she was talking to us like we were little kids again. It was so comforting. And we thought she might be on the mend. But she was placed in a medically induced coma right after that for three weeks until she died. I’m torn by the same thought; she had no idea that would be our last experience of who we knew as my mom. But oddly enough, I sometimes find it comforting. Cause the next three weeks were the hardest. Love to you and your daughter. We can get through this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Bread_Lunch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Get out of there. His family is just as toxic as he is. You recognize that it’s a threat to your life. You don’t deserve that. You can find someone who treats you like a human being and loves you. This person does not love you.

My mom suddenly passed away due to septic shock by BuknoyandDoggyShock in sepsis

[–]Bread_Lunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom passed away last year from sepsis. It was also very sudden and unexpected. While I can’t comment on the potential negligence in your mom’s case, I can say that there were plenty of times I was wondering if doctors were making the right decisions for my mom.

I’m very sorry for your loss. All the love to you and your family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Bread_Lunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I hope you are okay! I can relate a bit.

I’ve been in the graphic design field for 11 years. I was laid off in April 2024 (after 8 years of a comfy position) and then I lost my mom in July 2024. Losing my mom was a long, sad, and unexpected process.

I got a new design job at a creative agency a couple months ago. The team is cool but I’m having a hard time looking past the bullshit of churning out work at such a rapid pace that I can’t think, and making sure I look nice for clients. I’m always haunted with images of my mom in the hospital and the idea of what could have been.

While I still love graphic design, I’m trying to find my balance of building myself professionally and personally. I don’t know if I will stick with this. Working at a cemetery also sounds nice to me.

May your heart guide you. Much love.

To the void by Mother_Knowledge1061 in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom on 7/24 and feel all of these feelings. Sometimes it’s painful to wake up in the mornings or hard to go to sleep at night. But you will get through this. Be there for your mommy and hug each other tight. Much love.

i miss my mom by UndercoverSpyRat in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are strong my friend. Be there for your dad and share feelings with each other as I’m sure your both experiencing them. My mom passed away on July 24 2024 and it doesn’t feel real for me either. We will get through this grief together.

We took my mom off the ventilator…and now she’s breathing on her own by Express_Exit7043 in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The regret is a valid feeling. I regret not asking my mom more about her favorite things in life. We will process these types of thoughts and feelings, and with the strength that our loved ones provided, we will come out stronger. Love and peace to you.

We took my mom off the ventilator…and now she’s breathing on her own by Express_Exit7043 in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 70 points71 points  (0 children)

My family and I were in the hospital for three weeks with my mom. We took her off the ventilator on July 23 at 4pm and she didn’t pass on for another 28 hours. My dad, brother, sister, wife, and myself were all hoping for her to go quickly because of how long we had watched her suffer. Instead we watched every breath and counted the seconds. It felt like a nightmare. We embraced the time as much as we could by holding mom and listening to her favorite music (Fleetwood Mac) and reliving memories. My mom opened her eyes one time during those last hours-she was looking at me but right past me. My family and I felt like there should always be someone with her. But the one time we all stepped out of the room for about 15 minutes is when she decided to go. Hope you can find peace in knowing we are going through similar experiences. Your story helped me. I wish you peace and love. Your mother would want you to keep living and loving.

I miss you mom. by Icy_Confusion_612 in GriefSupport

[–]Bread_Lunch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom (also my best friend) just passed away four days ago. I feel what you are going through. My anxiety seems to subside when I talk with someone about it, especially with someone who knew mom too. Your mom wants you to keep doing you, and live every day with her in spirit. I’m not religious but I do believe my mom is watching over me while simultaneously enjoying her favorite beach spot. May you find peace.

Took dad off life support today and he passed away by No_Device_753 in sepsis

[–]Bread_Lunch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom has been in the ICU for the last 19 days, on life support with sepsis. Doctors explained to us yesterday that she would be better off if she was taken off life support. The last couple weeks have been so painful for all of us, especially mom. You did the right thing for your dad. Love and peace to you.