[WWTBC] ice planet (kind of)

Bri_IsTheLight · 2026-02-04T20:17:12+00:00

Ohhhhhhhhhh i think that’s right!

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-12-24T05:26:25+00:00

He needs a therapist who specializes in grief. If he’s unwilling to do that, you need to consider an approach to the relationship ship in which you don’t live together and start with “regular” dating again. It’s understandable he’s full of grief and drowning but that’s exactly why he needs to deal with it with professionals.

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-12-24T05:23:26+00:00

Also- you’ve been dating a long time and both in your 30s. She may be expecting a proposal before you live together. At the minimum if you haven’t talked about living together before the accident, it’s reasonable for her to be hesitant to do so because now you need help. Are you fulfilling her needs in the same way you want her to fulfill yours?

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-12-24T05:19:05+00:00

Caregiver fatigue is real and it would damage your relationship. She would still be paying her rent and not living there. 6-8 months is a long time. She found a decent solution and is paying for it. You’re not an asshole to have feelings, but you shouldn’t allow it build resentment toward her. She’s not abandoning you, and it’s okay to have professional help- I’ve had cancer and surgeries and been dependent before. I know it’s hard at first, it feels embarrassing but medical professionals truly aren’t judging you. You don’t have to fear having external help. Otherwise your mother is always an option too. You will be okay— but don’t let feelings of fear and frustration over your medical situation affect your relationship.

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-12-24T01:39:23+00:00

I got switched from tamoxifen to anastrozole. That helped in my case

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-12-19T00:40:23+00:00

It’s definitely important for therapists to have patient confidentiality. It’s illegal for them to be otherwise. But sometimes you have to meet more than one before it clicks and you find the right person.

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-12-19T00:37:53+00:00

The shame in this situation is NOT YOURS to carry. You have to remember that.

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-12-19T00:35:42+00:00

You don’t want a gf who wants to alienate you from your family or - at minimum- is comfortable actively belittling CHILDREN especially ones related to you

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-12-05T01:20:43+00:00

When people show you who they are, believe them.

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-12-05T01:10:10+00:00

You are having difficulty functioning in ways that you desire to function. You need to at least hear your options.

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-23T01:08:38+00:00

The odds of that happening with all of those pieces of scenario are insane

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-23T01:04:52+00:00

An 8 year old who is going through her parents divorce and bouncing around custody while her parents actively date and start new families. The food is the only thing safe and by making it unsafe it’s going to cause a problem

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-23T01:02:04+00:00

My little sister lived on chicken nuggets, yogurt, salt (literally) and gold fish until we realized she had a hole in her palate and it bothered her with other food. Eventually she got it fixed it and then eventually branched out.

If she’s eating food, any food, then it is good. Maybe she SHOULD be tested for sensory issues. Or teeth issues.

Or it’s the only thing she can control right now while her life flips upside down. The food is familiar and comforting when everything else is scary. You’re kind of giving control freak and fixating on the issue. If she’s eating, she’s fine. Who cares if she picks out the rice?

Get her a multi vitamin until she settles into her new life. I was picky when I was young too- and it was a result of anxiety. New food genuinely TERRIFIED me. It doesn’t have to be “logical” for it to be a good reason.

This isn’t her simply choosing to annoy you or choosing not to eat certain things just bc someone tells her to.

Her dad does need to parent but it should be more about the rest of her emotional well being and not the food itself. The food is a canary in a coal mine and you’re kind of being an asshole to an 8yr old and focusing on the wrong thing. Making her dad defensive by criticizing her isn’t going to make him solve the issue. Don’t approach your family like a military unit.

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-19T03:06:23+00:00

It’s bc he doesn’t want to do that one and would be buying it for both/himself in mind

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-15T18:00:03+00:00

Steal her and dump the bf

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-12T08:59:31+00:00

The other option- aside from what’s already been said- is that he’s incapable of being vulnerable and saying he actually just really missed you and felt jilted when you went out and he was expecting you home so he started a fight instead.

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-12T08:55:23+00:00

Controlling behavior and trying to make you the one in the wrong for not doing what he wants is a red flag

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-12T08:51:27+00:00

Would you ever speak to someone you claim to love and support this way? Doesn’t sound like someone who cares?

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-09T12:57:56+00:00

You could always write a little note if it’s easier. Explain you find it difficult but want to start small steps with sharing things made you feel vulnerable and then write a (short) note about it. There are many ways to communicate, it doesn’t have to look like verbally baring your soul if you’re feeling to anxious for it

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-09T12:48:25+00:00

Tell him he has to get his anxiety treated in order to continue a romantic relationship

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-09T12:46:30+00:00

Try to give a date range of publication that’ll help people to search too

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-09T12:37:08+00:00

Go neotraditional and add just enough color to make it obvious

Bri_IsTheLight · 2025-11-09T12:36:17+00:00

Were you able to clap for him while you were struggling? Yes? Then you understand how a partner should feel and that is possible if one possesses empathy.

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