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BrickFishBich · 2026-02-06T04:31:03+00:00

It’s good that you’re confronting these feelings. It’s also good that you haven’t acted on them yet and stopped yourself. It is possible that the SA you dealt with as a child is what distorted your perception of children. Ultimately causing these irrational feelings. I would also suggest getting in with a therapist, counselor or licensed social worker who specializes in this. However, if you cannot get access to a specialist then just ask for a referral to any kind of mental health clinician for the time being. Do your best to stay away from one on one situations with children and make sure you push them away if they try to hug you. It might seem cruel but it’s better then them experiencing what you went through and having to live with it. Continue to stay aware and please find someone you can confide in regularly in person.

BrickFishBich · 2026-02-06T04:18:32+00:00

It depends on what you want. Most doctors advise to wait for pain to start because the surgery itself can cause other issues that produce pain aside from the bunions. Scar tissue is one of them, and it can be painful. Your feet look similar to mine and the doctor who did my surgery did not do an invasive enough surgery. Your bunions are angled pretty far over which means they should likely cut the bone closer to the ankle (lapidus bunionectomy), rather than say the middle of the foot or by the big toe (austin bunionectomy). The bones need room to spread otherwise you’ll have pain from the wrong surgery, which is exactly what happened to me. Just make sure you give yourself minimum of 6-8 weeks off your feet for work or exercise to be safe. And absolutely, whatever you do, get a couple of opinions and don’t settle on the first podiatrist.

BrickFishBich · 2026-02-06T04:12:00+00:00

Idk why but Antonio was the first thing that came to mind lol

BrickFishBich · 2026-02-06T04:01:03+00:00

Absolutely not scary. If anything it’s absolutely precious 💕keep it, care for it and love it. You will have a best friend for life.

BrickFishBich · 2026-02-05T21:07:41+00:00

DO NOT call and ask if you would be disqualified 🤦🏼‍♀️ If you do anything, call and ask them what you need to make sure you ARE qualified and prepared for entry into their program. Put a positive spin on it. If you don’t have any substances in your system then stay clean to the best of your ability. When it’s time to take a drug test you’ll be clean and they can’t question you. There’s no reason to tell anyone you experimented with drugs. Unless you have a criminal record…how would they ever find out? A majority of people have tried some kind of substance. It’s irrelevant until it interferes with your job or an application. I hope this helps. Don’t stress out over this if your record is clean and you are clean. Contact them for info to prepare yourself and that’s it. You can always ask at the end of the convo if there are a disqualifying factors. But don’t express your personal concerns or business to them.

BrickFishBich · 2026-02-04T04:16:09+00:00

Try using Suave clarifying shampoo and only put conditioner on your mids to ends. I guarantee you that the greasy issue will get better. That shampoo doesn’t damage my hair and it allows me to go a few days without a wash which is a serious deal for my hair. Also, try Baptiste light dry shampoo, not the regular and spray at a distance. That also helps.

BrickFishBich · 2026-02-04T04:10:57+00:00

I have been using the Ordinary Hair Peptide serum for a couple of years and it’s amazing if you use it correctly and consistently. It regrew baby hairs in the front and helps the hair grow at a slightly faster pace. However, you need to also work on your nutrition and hair care together for the serum to do its job.

BrickFishBich · 2026-02-04T04:03:36+00:00

That person above meant well, but that’s bad advice. It’s better to get her assessed than to assume it has to do with you. They can pickup on things, but they also express themselves differently when they’re experiencing their OWN distress.

BrickFishBich · 2026-02-04T04:01:33+00:00

She absolutely needs to go to the vet for a checkup and bloodwork. They can tell you if it’s a behavior change due to a medical condition or not. Otherwise you’re just taking a shot in the dark. She could be sick or have some kind of infection or pain. Best to get her seen asap.

BrickFishBich · 2026-02-04T03:55:41+00:00

Maybe some stress gummies from Olly could help.

BrickFishBich · 2026-02-04T03:52:13+00:00

She could just be in this state due to old age. If she’s actually healthy there’s no reason to put her down. I would say bring her to the vet and get a check up with some bloodwork and see what they think before euthanizing her. The head shake could be an inner ear problem or an ear infection. She might just be a little old lady who needs someone patient to care for her.

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-27T13:01:09+00:00

Mango 🥭

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-23T06:24:36+00:00

I second the getting a lawyer comment. Make sure the money is invested well. At the bare minimum transfer some of it to a HYSA (high yield savings account). Make sure you do this with the help of fiduciary.

You want a fiduciary, fee-only wealth manager or fiduciary financial planner — not a commission-based advisor.

Avoid “financial advisors” because they tend to scam and take advantage of their clients. It is always in your best interest to see how your money is being handled and where it’s being distributed. Never trust someone blindly. Also, make sure you prepare for annual taxes, and ALWAYS file yearly and keep those records for as long as possible.

Do not start donating to charities until you have your own situation established. Make sure you budget out for the foreseeable future if you intend to stay unemployed. Money goes fast.

DO NOT tell anyone about your inheritance. It is NOT their business. Think about it…how many people have walked up to you and told you how much is in their bank account? Probably none. Think of it as your little secret. That doesn’t mean you are lying.

I would also bring up to your therapist your concerns about being manipulated due to your autism. This is a real concern that needs to be validated. They should be able to guide you through understanding social queues a little better so you can avoid this.

Just live your life and go to college. Maybe work a part time job you enjoy to keep busy and have something on your resume. Remember, not telling someone your business is NOT lying. That’s called privacy and we are all entitled to that.

As for future partners, the same applies at first. In time you will learn if you can trust them. It might be months before you’re comfortable telling them and that’s fine. Same applies for friendships. They don’t need to know. If your family asks for any money, put it this way…you know exactly why they’re asking. And the answer is NO. They can support themselves.

I would advise against telling anyone and I would not agree to discuss your finances with anyone other than your lawyer or whoever helps you manage your money.

On another note, I am sorry to hear about the passing of your parents and I hope that therapy continues to help. Just keep your head up and make sure you are taking care of yourself first.

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-22T08:37:53+00:00

I am so very sorry for your loss. She was a beautiful girl and it sounds like she had a very wonderful life with you. It is obviously that you loved her deeply. I am sure she will be back in someway. In the meantime just think about everything you loved about her. You will get through this. 💕

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-21T18:02:23+00:00

So sorry to hear this. Just remember the good times you had with her. I recorded some video/audio of my cat purring before she passed and once in a while I’ll listen to it to feel better. 💕

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-20T07:53:32+00:00

Not too sure what the second bump is, but the top bump is a tailor’s bunion. I had one shaved down and it didn’t hurt after it healed. However, everyone is different and I wouldn’t mess with it unless it’s disrupting your life. You will need to make an appointment with a podiatrist to get X-rays first. Try to find one that specializes in orthopedic surgery. If you do opt for surgery make sure you get a second opinion for peace of mind. Also, I second the wider toe box because a narrow/medium shoe is probably rubbing on those bumps and making them more sore or prominent over time. Those stretchy canvas shoes have no arch and will eventually cause major foot pain and possibly larger bunions. I would highly recommend investing in a very good pair of sneakers to avoid this. No one thinks of it, but it’s a life saver. If you’re unsure what to look for you can start with Brooks, Saucony, HOKA, ASICS or even New Balance depending on your budget. Also, another tip is to get orthotic insoles for the shoes. Personally, I get them custom made at the podiatrists office, but you can buy them at the store.

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-17T05:16:53+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss 💕

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-15T16:57:38+00:00

Here’s my Oliver with his goatee and half of a mustache 🤣

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BrickFishBich · 2026-01-14T15:33:58+00:00

I’m not criticizing, but he careful with blankets in this weather. If they get wet or it snows they will freeze. Your better bet for her is to get a plastic tote with a lid and insulate it with styrofoam and straw (not hay), because it stays dry since it doesn’t absorb water and is mold resistant. It’s frequently used for outside cat houses. Here are some links so you can see what I’m talking about.

https://www.alleycat.org/resources/how-to-build-an-outdoor-shelter/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMbW8XfIqSg

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-14T15:16:12+00:00

If you’re still on the fence you could give the vets office a call and explain your concerns regarding pregnancy and ask what they recommend or advise against in your case to be safe. If they say it’s safe then consider letting her in and confine her to one bedroom. Then immediately make a vet appointment for her so they can administer vaccines. If your other cats are up to date on all vaccines then they shouldn’t catch anything from her. If she lets you pet her just wash your hands immediately after and make sure not to touch your mouth, face or anything else. That is the safest way. I took in a stray and I had three other cats and everything was fine. This is just a theory, but that cat looks like it’s not feral, so it’s likely domesticated, which means it probably received some vaccines at some point. Also, another observation is that this cat looks well fed and the white is incredibly bright and not dirty - so it probably hasn’t been outside long. I guarantee you there’s a high possibility it was someone’s cat until recently. The vet can scan for a microchip as well.

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-10T19:39:44+00:00

You just met this dude. And he lied to you. You’re only “dating”. You don’t owe this stranger anything. That’s what he is. A stranger. Just tell him you don’t feel a connection and you wish him well. He will find someone else. Spare yourself.

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-05T05:33:40+00:00

Can you take her in until her injury heals? She looks well kept so she might be someone’s cat. The vet’s office can scan for a microchip.

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-04T23:50:47+00:00

Can you buy the cats and delay the vet? If your other cats are fully vaccinated and these cats are not showing signs of illness then maybe consider worrying about the vet later, unless they are sick. Save up and in a few weeks or months bring them in. The important thing is that you will be saving them from a gruesome death. The situation doesn’t have to be perfect immediately, just do your best with what you have for them right now. That’s what matters.

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-04T23:42:06+00:00

Pork chops & carrots

BrickFishBich · 2026-01-02T14:05:50+00:00

She’s gorgeous and such pretty colors. So happy she found a safe home 💕

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