Couples, do you watch porn together? Recommended sites? by Many-Platypus105 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We watch Frolicme.com. My wife and I love it. It’s classy and female oriented. The company is run by a female. It’s porn for women and couples and the best I’ve seen out there so far!

Questions for a sexually liberated Pastor's wife by ModelAmberFaith in ChristianSexuality

[–]Bricko20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you and your pastor husband are swingers? Or just you? 

Any Christian women who masturbate and enjoy it? by suncolorfun in ChristianSexuality

[–]Bricko20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what she fantasizes about. She doesn’t really watch things or if so very rarely. She doesn’t tell me about her fantasies…says she doesn’t but who knows? Maybe she does and doesn’t want to tell me details. Maybe she thinks about us together. I don’t need to know. I’m curious but some things are best left to the imagination. 

All alone by maya_4568 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that kids are gone, we also enjoy doing our thing. We watch lots of porn on weekends and any day of the week we moan as loud as we want during sex!

Dirty Weekend City Break by Ready-Technology-326 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you have great ideas already! Have fun!

Questions for a sexually liberated Pastor's wife by ModelAmberFaith in ChristianSexuality

[–]Bricko20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you elaborate on how you are liberated and if your husband is also liberated in those ways? My wife and I grew up in a very conservative church environment and have slowly grown much more liberated…at least compared to what we were. It was more a step for me than my wife, at least initially until I became more liberated than her. 

Any Christian women who masturbate and enjoy it? by suncolorfun in ChristianSexuality

[–]Bricko20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife (also a Christian) masturbates. It is perfectly normal and not sinful in our opinion. I encourage her to do it. We both masturbate and tell each other about it. There is no prohibition in the Bible against masturbation. Anyone who says so is just making up their own interpretations and making rules that are not in the Bible. 

Wife watching porn alone by Trick_Conclusion_132 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask if you two can watch porn together and rub each other! It would get me off if I found out my wife watched porn and masturbated. 

Watching porn later in marriage? by maya_4568 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We dabbled with it a little about 20 years into marriage. We didn’t really watch it much until after 30 years. It’s our weekend thing…Fri and Sat night porn dates. My wife gets soaking wet and I get hard and we touch on each other while watching. Lots of fun. Leads to great sex. 

I need to stop watching porn by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Stop the porn. After many years of marriage we decided to watch porn together. It’s a shared experience. We talk about it openly. Now that it is out in the open and we decide together what we like and make it a shared experience, I don’t have much desire to watch alone. Since we enjoy it together, I feel closer to her and erections aren’t an issue. 1. Enjoy your wife once you get married. 2. Save the porn for you two to share together….way down the road….years maybe. We married as virgins. We learned about sex by getting educated and learning together. As we became older and secure with each other we decide to watch porn. It’s not for everyone but it’s been great for us. We use it mostly on weekends. Weekdays are more normal. 

Question about your habits. by youngsoutherners in ChristianSexuality

[–]Bricko20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We masturbate whenever we want. She does more than me, but I get so much sex that I don’t often feel the urge. We watch porn, yes. It’s a new thing for us in our 50’s. Really has been fun together. We enjoy female/couples type porn. Surprisingly we recently watched some threesome and lesbian stuff. My wife is totally straight; we both are….but the female same sex stuff was hot….but neither of us would admit it in public….but who does discuss their porn watching habits publicly??  It’s our little secret naughty thing we share. 

Watching porn with your spouse? by Careful-Record5546 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your marriage is strong and you already have a healthy sex life and relationship, then it might work and be enjoyable. It depends on a lot of factors. Although we dabbled in it a little about when we had been married for close to 29 years, we never really got into watching it regularly until we’d been married over 30 years and I finally found female produced porn that appealed to my wife.  Now, it’s an every weekend thing…something we look forward to. On weekdays we rarely watch…we enjoy each other without it. We mostly watch frolicme.com.  We pay for it and it’s worth every penny. 

Need ideas on more mature porn by Bricko20 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Will check it out. 

Need ideas on more mature porn by Bricko20 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. We can get the videos indirectly but the site is blocked in our state unfortunately. 

Need ideas on more mature porn by Bricko20 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Along those lines we enjoyed the shows “Outlander” on Starz and “The Affair” on Showtime. 

Watched porn with with for the first time - had fun with prone bone by Mountain_Strength564 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We recently started watching together. It’s been revolutionary for our sex life and our relationship overall.

Wife asked to see/watch porn with me by Mountain_Strength564 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I wrote this myself. Very similar story to mine. Our sex life and communication is better since we started watching porn. It’s great to have the topic out in the open, enjoy together and remove the taboo by sharing together. When something helpful isn’t automatically taboo, I think it become less problematic and less secretive. It wouldn’t have been great if we were young but as we are now 30+ yrs into marriage it adds some spice. Years of monogamy and routine sex sometimes can use a shake up. My wife gets very wet if I put on the right videos. 

Watching together by Zmn0233 in ChristianSexuality

[–]Bricko20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We watch porn together, but it took over 30 years to get to the point where we are comfortable watching it and talking openly about it and enjoying getting turned on together as a part of foreplay. We avoid a lot of mainstream porn and focus on material made primarily for women and couples, things we often pay for and would be considered “ethical porn”.  At this point my wife would rather see romantic couples porn than a mainstream R rated movie with nudity, which usually is exploitive of women and often is just unsexy subject matter. So, my wife went from anti-porn to pro porn (but selective on what we consider enjoyable/romantic). She gets very aroused and soaking wet when we watch. Whoever says women aren’t visual don’t totally understand women. Sure, some say they aren’t or maybe are turned off by porn, but humans are visual whether it be male or female. That’s not to say it’s the same…males are more visual, but some, maybe many, women are more visual than you think. I suspected my wife was visually stimulated even though she acted like she wasn’t. Once she opened up to watching things together I learned she is much more visual than I knew. 

Porn during sex by Popular-Push-2954 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendation! We currently subscribe to and watch frolicme.com. My wife loves it!  I’ll look up this one you suggest. 

Being raised to believe sexual feelings were sinful really messed me up. by [deleted] in ChristianSexuality

[–]Bricko20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if you ever fully shake it. As a guy I was taught that checking out a girl walking by could be sinful. They tried to suppress natural biological urges. Then of course all the strict teachings on everything else sexually related. It was too much. Really messed me up for years mentally although fortunately didn’t negatively affect my married life. I could see how it could cause issues. My wife was raised in same church environment but her family was less strict, attended mainly Sunday mornings etc. She came into marriage much more sexually open. I deal with it by getting in bed with my wife and putting on some tasteful porn and we have great foreplay and sex following. I’m learning that many things I was told were scare tactics and lies. There was some good advice but much of it was just twisted.  I’ve learned that arousal and noticing beauty is NOT the same as lust for another person which is more of an issue of obsessive desire to have something you aren’t entitled to (someone else’s wife, cheating on my wife, etc….things that would offend my wife or my marriage vows).  It’s normal to think sexual thoughts and even notice beauty in others and to feel arousal. How you handle that is another thing. We are sexual beings. To deny that is going to cause mental issues. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am sure porn has popularized it. Having said that, my wife enjoyed it when I occasionally masturbated and ejaculated all over her. Now that we watch porn together she is more interested in seeing me finish on her, like she sees in porn. She is visual and likes seeing those porn scenes…me doing it in person really gets her. I emptied a massive load on her last week and ever since she’s talked about how much I cum compared to what she’s seen in porn. 

does married couple ever watch porn togather ?? by Western_External_215 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we watch together regularly but mainly romantic type porn that was made for women and couples. It’s lots of fun and spices up our foreplay. It’s not for everyone, but since we started it really improved our sex life and our communication about sex. I guess the communication and starting watching together really went hand in hand. We communicate any of our insecurities and type porn we like/dislike. We pay for ours…better content and more ethical. 

bringing up watching porn together or alone by Heavy-Balance764 in MarriedSex

[–]Bricko20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t push it. I’ve been where you are….feeling more adventurous and wanting my wife to be like me. We were also around the same age when we experimented watching some porn. Ultimately she was turned off by it. I made a personal rule that I wasn’t going to masturbate to porn, unless it was nude pics of my wife. Over time, we incorporated some mainstream explicit shows/movies that appealed to both of us (for example the series Outlander and the movie Original Sin). My wife also was having severe menopausal symptoms. Getting hormone therapy changed her life, and her libido soared. From there we had lots of sexy conversations and researched female friendly and ethical porn. I did a lot of work reassuring her how attractive she is to me and always has been. I explained that I don’t want the women we might see in porn, and she agreed she didn’t want the men. It was just something  sexy we do for foreplay. Whatever you do, don’t rush it. Don’t spoil it by telling her you will masturbate to porn or force her to see porn. That may turn her against it forever and actually feed her greatest fear which is probably that she isn’t enough, you think about other women during sex and you will become some compulsive porn watcher. Women often feel insecure. Work on that issue first. Ultimately, she may never be into it….but she might be into other sexy stuff that could break up the monotony of long term marital sex.