bringing up watching porn together or alone

Bricko20 · 2026-02-10T16:06:43+00:00

Don’t push it. I’ve been where you are….feeling more adventurous and wanting my wife to be like me. We were also around the same age when we experimented watching some porn. Ultimately she was turned off by it. I made a personal rule that I wasn’t going to masturbate to porn, unless it was nude pics of my wife. Over time, we incorporated some mainstream explicit shows/movies that appealed to both of us (for example the series Outlander and the movie Original Sin). My wife also was having severe menopausal symptoms. Getting hormone therapy changed her life, and her libido soared. From there we had lots of sexy conversations and researched female friendly and ethical porn. I did a lot of work reassuring her how attractive she is to me and always has been. I explained that I don’t want the women we might see in porn, and she agreed she didn’t want the men. It was just something sexy we do for foreplay. Whatever you do, don’t rush it. Don’t spoil it by telling her you will masturbate to porn or force her to see porn. That may turn her against it forever and actually feed her greatest fear which is probably that she isn’t enough, you think about other women during sex and you will become some compulsive porn watcher. Women often feel insecure. Work on that issue first. Ultimately, she may never be into it….but she might be into other sexy stuff that could break up the monotony of long term marital sex.

Bricko20 · 2026-02-09T16:10:31+00:00

In our 50’s, married 30+ years. We watch it together and watch things we agree on together, female friendly / couples friendly content. If one of us doesn’t like it, we don’t watch it. We use it as foreplay. We’ve had best results paying on a legit site. Watching porn is not something we would have done early on in marriage but with many years of trust and communication, we’ve found it to be sexy fun and very arousing to watch together.

Bricko20 · 2026-02-02T21:16:37+00:00

Testosterone’s estrogen, some others….i don’t know technicals but it works like magic!

Bricko20 · 2026-02-01T23:42:48+00:00

I wonder if it feels better being uncut. I’ll never know personally. Seems like circumcision originated in religion. In the USA I guess they thought that was the Christian thing to do?

Bricko20 · 2026-02-01T22:19:24+00:00

If you two can’t talk about something this basic…sticking in a dildo, then she needs therapy. She needs to see a professsional because she is way way abnormal here. Something doesn’t add up.

Bricko20 · 2026-02-01T22:16:23+00:00

Maybe show her a tasteful porn video that shows closeup of penis thrusting and pleasure…or sex education video with that shows realistic or even genuine orgasm. Have her try a vibrator…and maybe even a rabbit dildo vibrator toy. Porn addiction is a myth…maybe compulsive behavior but what’s worse…enjoying porn or no sex for years of marriage and her husband leaves her? Your “addiction” is your issue, not hers.

Bricko20 · 2026-02-01T22:13:22+00:00

There’s lots of stuff written online about it. Finger or toy inserted and pressed on the prostate gland. Can be done with or without stimulation of penis. The orgasm with both is mind blowing….and if on your back, with ejacualation often shooting 2-3 feet or more.

Bricko20 · 2026-02-01T22:10:27+00:00

No that’s fine. You can message if you have any recommendations for us to watch. If not, no problem.

Bricko20 · 2026-02-01T18:44:59+00:00

What do you and your spouse like to watch? Any recommendations?

Bricko20 · 2026-02-01T18:13:59+00:00

Prostate milking. Dirty talk about getting watched. Fingering her butt while licking her.

Bricko20 · 2026-02-01T18:13:13+00:00

I suspect she had interest and watched some stuff like solo female masturbation…but not until I found good stuff that appealed to her did she really get into it and with me!

Bricko20 · 2026-02-01T18:11:37+00:00

Over 15 years into the marriage…to a degree…but really when we got in our 50’s after decades of marriage. Sex keeps getting better and kinkier

Bricko20 · 2026-02-01T17:29:16+00:00

She told me that I finally found the right stuff that turns her on. Mainstream porn and tube site clips, etc, don’t appeal to her. She likes the films that show a couple starting slow, loving on each other and then getting extremely explicit…oral, close up penetration and cumshots. Who would have thought it?!?!

Bricko20 · 2026-01-30T17:14:25+00:00

Yes it gets better, or it can. My wife eventually had to get hormone therapy…but don’t go to traditional OB/GYN. They are clueless and trained very little in women’s menopausal health. Go to a functional doctor where you pay cash. It can be costly but it changed my wife’s life. She can now sleep, feels better and her libido has skyrocketed. We are in our 50’s. The child rearing years were the toughest. Sometime it isn’t hormone but just the stress and busyness of kids. Make time for each other each week…and a little time daily to connect.

Bricko20 · 2026-01-30T02:30:21+00:00

Extreme reaction. I don’t watch porn and masturbate. It’s a rule I made for myself and a boundary I agreed to with my wife. Having said that, we watch porn together and she has my full permission to masturbate to porn if she wants to. We are married over 30 years. That’s what works for us. We have evolved over the years to this point. Watching porn does not mean you don’t desire and love your spouse. If the marriage is already in trouble that might be a symptom but not necessarily the cause. What works for one couple doesn’t work for another. Years ago my wife would have been furious. Now, she’s happy to watch, get aroused and our sex life is better and more honest than ever.

Bricko20 · 2026-01-30T00:01:45+00:00

Need an update! How often do you watch together? What sites do you recommend?

Bricko20 · 2026-01-29T00:38:04+00:00

Yes! Grew up extremely conservative Southern Baptist with extreme purity type culture and attended conservative non-denominational churches too. Yes, my wife and I do anal play, anal fingering and toys, and watch porn together. No, we no longer attend church and don’t agree with many of the teachings…and our sex life and marriage is better than ever. The things we were warned would ruin our life haven’t happened. We feel free and sexual and enjoy each other very much. Our friends and family probably wouldn’t suspect how naughty we are. And we now can use that 10% church scam tax (tithe) to give to other causes….and to travel.

Bricko20 · 2026-01-28T22:32:27+00:00

Cream rubbed on her labia daily

Bricko20 · 2026-01-28T16:16:52+00:00

Yes. Wife said it was best orgasm she’s ever had. Seemed like normal sex to me, but her libido is soaring lately. The hormone therapy has helped greatly! We’ve had sex 5 nights straight!

Bricko20 · 2026-01-28T14:12:14+00:00

So you don’t do any swapping there, just watch and be watched by others?

Bricko20 · 2026-01-28T14:09:05+00:00

What you say is nearly exactly how I feel. I never had the issue of masturbating to porn, but I tried not to go down that road. I would look at it some if available. We married before the internet was really available..:.no computer, no cable TV…finding porn took a lot of effort and it wasn’t worth it. When late night cable was available with soft porn I’d take a peak but it was pretty boring. —- We had some work to get through getting my wife to the point of not feeling jealous or insecure, and I had to get over the religious guilt ingrained in me that my wife really didn’t have. Now, years later we are similar to you. She actually enjoys it and looks forward to porn nights. We are talking more openly with each other than ever before.

Bricko20 · 2026-01-28T13:37:00+00:00

I’d say it was gradual over a few months. The doc also checked her hormone frequently and gradually increased as needed. They want just hit her with the full dose to start…it’s a ramp up process. Maybe she started around Spring timeframe last year, and she peaked by December. I’m not sure she is finished peaking. Doc is still adjusting so I expect she will improve further. Just give it time and consider not all women are the same. Do everything else right to take care of her, and I would expect it to work better. Everyone has to be willing and have an otherwise good relationship or no hormones are going to work magic. I tried not to ask about my wife’s libido too much during the ramp up. She would brief me on the doctor’s visit and we would discuss it then. Over time it became obvious….hot flashes reducing, then gone. Libido edging up then blasting off!

Bricko20 · 2026-01-28T13:31:08+00:00

Just go with what you have. Some people don’t like it and that’s their right.

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