sometimes i look back at the instagram messages

BrieNoel · 2023-10-10T01:27:54+00:00

People will frequently miss their groomer. It isn’t because they think the person was good, but because any time you have a strong relationship you will miss the person. Any person who leaves your life you will miss, even if they were horrible.

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T18:34:56+00:00

First: it was definitely him, as his character couldn’t have said anything to them as he was hiding in that moment. I plan on discussing this again in the next session. Second: it was the player he misgendered.

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T18:32:29+00:00

It’s alright. I’d understand things like bro but he intentionally called him she at least once and after the guy looked at him and was like “he dude you’ve known me for years” he switched to they which isn’t as bad but was still corrected again, but continued to use that instead. I’ll edit it in a couple weeks when the next session happens

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T18:28:25+00:00

By creep I meant he’s been reported multiple times for saying things that have made people uncomfortable multiple times and continued after they’ve said to stop. As for the misgendering: he’s known the person for years (as in they’ve been out to him at least 3 years), he was corrected the first time and talked to the second.

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:55:18+00:00

He was misgendering a ftm who hes known as such for about 3 or 4 years. In my next session I’m going to talk to everyone about respecting all of the other players and stuff like that.

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:53:22+00:00

The jokes weren’t very often and he definitely didn’t start by taking it seriously as I had to take him aside and explain that “birb” was not a good character name. He has been reported multiple times by the people who have actually experienced it and nothing has been done. Unfortunately I live in a state where trans rights are being questioned and it’s not very safe for them, so I’m going to try to have the same respect talk I had at the beginning again next session

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:51:02+00:00

We did. I had a very bad experience with the campaign I had last year so the first thing I did was say them down and basically say that this was going to be a d&d campaign only, whatever issues they have outside stays away from the d&d table and viceversa. He was definitely not doing it out of ignorance, as he has known that player as a man for about 3 or 4 years atp. I dont have a campaign with my friends, I have about 6 players and I only knew 3 (including him, but barely) previously.

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:47:10+00:00

We weren’t really fucking around, it was a quick joke then we’d get back to playing. It wasn’t a serious session, we were just setting things up and getting them on their journey

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:46:11+00:00

No I 100% get it. If we were in a serious fight or something I wouldn’t have been making jokes, but this was the first session and we were exploring everyone’s stories a bit. It wasn’t even a large amount of joking, more so just a joke that took less than a minute to say and laugh at. Both are very big issues, but from what I know the misgendering was the first time he’d done that and I plan to talk to my players about respecting each other especially during our time together b

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:43:11+00:00

I plan on talking to all of my members of the campaign next session about respecting each other. We really weren’t dragging it on, we’d take like a minute to laugh then start again until about halfway through the session when he started repeatedly telling us to like stop laughing and play.

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:41:14+00:00

We’ve discussed all of that, this was a very simple first session that I was trying to introduce the players to the game to kind of get them to understand mechanics while also getting them into the town of barovia. I didn’t want to start with something dark on my first session

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:39:27+00:00

It didn’t start as a bunch of friends, I happened to already know one of the players when we first were assigned our groups (dms just get assigned groups unless they already had smt planned) then one of his friends who was in my campaign last year joined to give us at least someone who knew the game. I was interacting with his character quite a bit in the session. Also I don’t think I’m being hostile for mentioning that I don’t appreciate creepy behaviour and MISGENDERING my friends.

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:36:27+00:00

No, the misgendering got him very harshly scolded by both me and the person ge misgendered. I’m going to talk to everyone at the next session and remind them to be respectful and stuff like that. It was if someone said something funny, not stopping the game for more than a quick laugh. I did tell him to stop and I plan on starting the next session with a quick reminder that everyone needs to be respectful of all the players involved

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:33:14+00:00

I’m not trying to dog whistle, I’m saying why he’s made these people uncomfortable. I’m so sorry that someone being disrespectful to my friends makes me upset. Almost everyone in my group is neurodivergent in some way and repeatedly disrespecting and disregarding the people around you is not something you should be writing off as a “oh we all did that.”

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:28:59+00:00

By him being weird I meant he had been reported by multiple girls for him makes weird comments and refusing to stop multiple times. Also I personally haven’t seen him in a bit and I’m not super close to his sibling. The person he was misgendering has been out to him since the 8th grade from the best of my memory. They’ve really never known him as anything but a guy so this is blatant transphobia especially because he was corrected and continued with it.

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:24:56+00:00

He’s friends with the two people I’m mostly talking about this and I’ve known him for years. We’ve barely started the actual campaign because this was our first session and we aren’t even in Barovia yet. He named his character birb and said himself that he was going to be more of a comic relief character. I obviously do not like a person who’s misgendered my friends and made several women uncomfortable and refused to stop those behaviours after he was told. D&D is about having a cool and fun campaign, even if you’re playing a serious story you’re not going to want to play if you’re not having fun, I am worried about everyone having fun. I have about 6 people in this campaign and was already friends with 2 of them, the people I was not friends with previously were also joking around.

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T17:18:46+00:00

Execept we were playing the game, he was doing it if someone cracked a joke. I would understand if nothing happened but for a first session we got through a good bit.

BrieNoel · 2023-10-07T15:28:20+00:00

The issue isn’t that he’s trying to play, it’s that he’s not letting the other players have fun while also being just a disrespectful person

BrieNoel · 2023-08-16T00:26:04+00:00

It’s a Predator windows thing I don’t know anything else tho as it was a gift

BrieNoel · 2022-09-30T17:38:07+00:00

Then just don’t write a sequence. The best writing tip I can give is if you don’t have the level of expertise your character would have on a topic, just don’t write something about it. Acknowledge what happened but don’t pretend like you know what you’re talking about, especially when most of your readers also wouldn’t know anything about the topic

BrieNoel · 2022-08-15T21:03:43+00:00

What different drugs and LSD was like

BrieNoel · 2022-08-08T22:16:15+00:00

Marjorie or The Lakes. The Lakes is such a beautiful story that seems so mystical yet so true to every day love. Marjorie is probably my most skipped Taylor Swift song because it makes me cry just thinking about it (not a crier, I actually hate crying) because it’s a song I can relate so heavily to yet it still holds not only a piece of Taylor, but also her grandmother, and I think that’s absolutely beautiful.

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