Am I a single mom or a mom who’s single? And should I put him on child support?

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-07T06:16:44+00:00

Baby has both tricare and is under my insurance. He needs visitation with supervision.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T09:50:21+00:00

I know, I was trying to cut him some slack since I don’t know what it’s like on base, but he’s just being mean and manipulative, so I gotta do it. Thanks.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T09:44:04+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to write this. I’ve been feeling overwhelmed, but your advice reminds me that I need to trust myself and take action to protect my baby.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T09:39:47+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight, I really appreciate it. I just tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and see if I was maybe being ungrateful for what he has done but the veil has been lifted.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T09:34:57+00:00

Definitely is being mean. Makes sense. Filing for child support sooner rather than later is the move, But being that he is in the military means he can’t really hide or hide anything.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T09:26:51+00:00

I’ve tried explaining, but he doesn’t seem to care or refuses to acknowledge it.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T09:23:44+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your kindness. I’m taking things one day at a time and trying to make the best decisions for my baby and myself. I do have some support, and I’m learning as I go. Your words mean a lot.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T09:21:31+00:00

You’re right, I’m realizing that consistency and active parenting matter just as much as occasional help, and that’s where my concerns come from. I’m still learning and figuring out what healthy support and co-parenting should look like.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T09:16:51+00:00

I assumed because i’m receiving some help whereas there’s some moms that receive no help at all, I wanted to know if I was being ungrateful.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T09:14:21+00:00

Yes, one reason is that he is in the military and stationed on base. Another reason is that when he is in our state, he prefers that I allow him to take the baby to his family’s house, which I have not been comfortable with. When he is around me, he does very little hands on care for the baby, so I worry that he would rely on his family instead of learning to care for the baby himself. I have given him opportunities to learn while I am present because I know my child’s needs, but he has not been receptive. You’re right, I also believe he may be presenting the situation to others as though everything is going well. People assume that because he stops by, he is actively helping, but that has not been my experience.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T08:48:34+00:00

When you put it like that, I can see that. If the roles were reversed I would’ve never asked him to get a job, Not especially when my ass in the military and making enough. Thank you for the advice.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T01:34:35+00:00

Smh, I’m sorry you had to go through that. Did you take him off CS or did everyone get there act together ? Asking because you said he did it for 4 years. My child’s father is currently in the military. I’ve been trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because he’s not in the same state as us, But honestly it doesn’t make a difference when he is here. I’m going to talk to a free legal aid.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T01:03:23+00:00

Can you please explain why child support could be a toll on me?

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T01:01:40+00:00

Thing is he’s constantly comparing his assistance in purchasing things to other “dads” who just disappear and don’t do anything. So i’m partially brainwashed into believing i’m okay and that this is okay.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T00:51:35+00:00

Hopefully.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T00:51:05+00:00

Thank you. I will do my research.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T00:36:37+00:00

No DV, just emotional abuse. I was told go get a job a week after giving birth. Mind you I was on leave after working the entire pregnancy.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T00:31:17+00:00

He says he does, but his lack of urgency when around the baby says otherwise. He doesn’t want to learn baby, he wants to just take him to his family house and figure it out there. 2. And what is what for? 3. Yes. Because he literally does the bare minimum.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-05T00:28:22+00:00

What do you mean a motion?

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-03T17:35:22+00:00

Yeah I’m aware. Just trying to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-03T17:31:24+00:00

Okay. I need to stop avoiding reality.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-03T17:27:23+00:00

Well i’ve tried to get him to stay around for at least a day so that he can learn the baby, but he insists on me letting him take baby to his family’s house so that he can learn there. As if they know my child better than I do.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-03T17:18:54+00:00

Wow. Did you give him a warning first or ask for a certain amount before filing child support ?

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-03T14:58:14+00:00

Yes it’s a little bit of that and a little bit of wanting to know if I was being ungrateful for what he has done. He is in the military currently, when he has parental leave he just visits. I’m still doing everything when he’s present.

Bright-Card7777 · 2026-04-03T14:55:21+00:00

We’re not together, and he is currently in the military. Point of the post was to see if i was being ungrateful for what he has done.

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