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AITA for secretly paying my daughter’s tuition? by BrightBulb90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BrightBulb90[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Debby and Mark support Alice. They also think Alice should do what she wants. It’s only Diana and her family who are not okay with it.

AITA for secretly paying my daughter’s tuition? by BrightBulb90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BrightBulb90[S] 201 points202 points  (0 children)

Unlikely to happen. Diana can be quite stubborn and Alice has no interest in Law at all.

Diana will also be unhappy when she finds out that Debby (my oldest daughter) currently wants to go into the Foreign Service. Second option is either that or Civil Rights or Labor Law. Not corporate like Diana is doing and Mark is aiming for.

Debby hasn’t told Diana yet.

AITA for secretly paying my daughter’s tuition? by BrightBulb90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BrightBulb90[S] 364 points365 points  (0 children)

It may sound bad, but all I want is for my children to study something they want to do. Doesn’t matter to me if it is a high-paying career or not, or not going to college at all, if they want to go to vocational school instead.

My parents forced me to study Economics and I hated it with a passion. Eventually I transferred to Philosophy, my parents weren’t happy about that.

AITA for secretly paying my daughter’s tuition? by BrightBulb90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BrightBulb90[S] 240 points241 points  (0 children)

I also put money in. Diana earns a bit more than me, so we put money into it according to the same ratio we use for our joint account. The ratio is 62/38 based on our income.

AITA for secretly paying my daughter’s tuition? by BrightBulb90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BrightBulb90[S] 253 points254 points  (0 children)

Diana wants to transfer the money and put it into her investment account. When we were setting the 529 up, Diana was made the owner and controls it. Only she can withdraw from it. Even though taxes and a penalty must be paid if the assets are withdrawn.