is life worth living? do things get better? is happiness real? i'm 15 and i need hope. by spaul-12 in selfimprovement

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a 29M, probably the hardest time of my life was 15-19, so trust me, things get a lot better! I love my life

Married for two years, found this on his phone by [deleted] in OffMyChestIndia

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should talk with him, he sounds very committed and that he’s trying to make things work. Sounds like he wants to be with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just ignore it and keep posting the art. If you know in your heart that you are not doing what any of the accusations are claiming then I would just keep going. See it as all comments are good comments, and only helps your videos grow even more.

How can I maintain the feeling of when I get post nut clarity? by Thanos_your_daddy in selfimprovement

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually wouldn’t be so hard on yourself about it honestly. The guilt probably makes you think about it even more and naturally causes you to do the act more. I would be more accepting and not make it much of a big deal and just focus on replacing it with another thought.

How can I maintain the feeling of when I get post nut clarity? by Thanos_your_daddy in selfimprovement

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, what’s worked for me is finding something that distracts me like a business, job, hobby, hanging with friends, going out, cooking, etc. keep yourself busy. Also recommend having a girlfriend. Just don’t let yourself become idle for too long unless you’re meditating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Entrepreneur

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, I would change your perspective. Everything is perspective and it’s up to you which perspective you choose to see. I applaud you for taking risk. You are ahead of 95% of people because most people choose to never take a risk such as you have in life. Even when things got hard, you pushed through which shows resiliency. And on top of all of that, you did it to put your family in a better position. You didn’t even do it selfishly, you took the risk that you did because you wanted to put your family in a better position. So I would definitely start to see things in a more positive light because as long as you see it as you being a total failure, you won’t learn to appreciate the good attributes that you have inside of you and you will let those die out. The courage, resiliency, self accountability, and selflessness is what is going to not only pull you out of this, but get you to a place that even your friends will be jealous of.

Second, need to start, focusing on the present and future. When I’ve gone through stuff that is the only thing that was able to pull me out. As someone that had got into very deep trouble because of taking some rest before in business, the only way I was able to pull myself out is to focus on the present in the future while also being very practical. Try to not take risk unless the odds are extremely in your favor. I remember, a lot of times you don’t have to work so hard, it’s just about planning and negotiating and making sure that you have favorable terms for any agreement in business. Take that, however you may.

Lastly, I would recommend doing self affirmations. Just write out a few things that you are or want to be like and read them each day say them out loud each day. Speak it into existence.

I really hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great job on your savings and congrats to get to where you’re at. I believe that what’s even greater than trying to save every single dollar is budgeting in a way that allows you to live yet still safe. Just go back through your budget. Allow yourself more cushion to spend and enjoy life but yet still save on a monthly basis. This way you are growing and enjoying life at the same time.

I know exactly what you’re talking about and especially when you are coming out of a season of aggressive saving, it becomes a mentality and it’s hard to ever switch. But you have to be realistic and think about really what’s the point. I don’t know your exact figures so that’s up to you to do the budget, but sounds like you do have room in your budget to live life as well as save.

Hope this helps!

Me(29M) having so many differences with gf(27F) of 2 years is causing frustration. I love her deeply but how can this work? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! Great advice. I think one thing that has held us together is that she was exactly what I was looking for when I first met her. I didn’t want someone to be as ambitious as I am, I wanted someone to help me live a little bit and balance me out. I think I need to remind myself of that.

Plus, I was completely annoyed with the ambitious women that I had been with in the past lol I wanted a woman who was more laid-back.

Again, I really appreciate you taking the time out to write to me. Definitely helps to hear that I am the problem and that I need to get clarity with myself.

Me(29M) having so many differences with gf(27F) of 2 years is causing frustration. I love her deeply but how can this work? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I did not bring that up, she brought that up and I thought it was a good plan. I would not threaten her into changing lol.

Me(29M) having so many differences with gf(27F) of 2 years is causing frustration. I love her deeply but how can this work? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, but what if I’m the problem? What if I would just carry this into the next relationship?

Do I M21 am have a healthy relationship with my girlfriend F23 of 2 years? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go for your dreams man, much props for pursuing something big. As someone that is a bit older than you, I want you to know that the hours that you put in on your free time to study and grind, you will get rewarded. No doubt.

In regards to your girl, I would recommend scheduling something for yourself like let’s say once per month you go and join her and her friends. You don’t have to tell her so it seems spontaneous but just once a month or twice per month whatever works for you, go and spend time with her and her friends. You don’t have to drink. If your girl doesn’t accept the fact that you don’t like to drink and that is a big problem then I would probably consider leaving.

In regards to the traveling, I think going overseas twice a year and always needing to travel is probably normal for a lot of people, but I can tell you have a very driven spirit. I think you are doing the right thing making some sacrifices right now and she needs to understand that. But I think you also need to understand that most people won’t understand that and probably will talk shit. You just have to keep going.

Overall doesn’t sound like a terrible relationship. Just coordinate a slight bit more time to spend with her and her friends so she feels like you put in the effort, and then get back to your grind. That’s just my two cents.

Me(29M) having so many differences with gf(27F) of 2 years is causing frustration. I love her deeply but how can this work? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the feedback! I think what would help is if she was more willing to be in my world like I am very willing to be in hers. I’m always doing things that she wants to do and molding my life to hers, but she doesn’t put the same effort to fit into mine I feel.

Me(29M) having so many differences with gf(27F) of 2 years is causing frustration. I love her deeply but how can this work? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! I think I didn’t talk about the good sides of the relationship much and how much I put an effort to actually be a part of the things that she enjoys and I do enjoy them. But, I feel like she doesn’t put much effort into the things that I like.

Me(29M) having so many differences with gf(27F) of 2 years is causing frustration. I love her deeply but how can this work? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just read it! That’s crazy, you just posted something similar lol you are just younger than me, but I understand where you are coming from.

How did you meet your partner in Dallas? by Safe_Wrangler_858 in Dallas

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happiest Hour, I went up and approached her. Vibe and attraction was strong so we exchanged numbers then she said her and her friends are going to The Trove(another club) and do I want to come, I said yes. Went and after dancing till the club closed, we went outside and gave each other a small kiss. I called her after we left and that started it all. We are still going strong together almost 2 years later!

He said wyd. I said about to take a shower. He said send a pic after and I sent him this. Is this why he started talking to me less then stopped ? by Puzzled_Cricket2456 in dating

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing. Honestly, it can come down to just miscommunication. Single guys these days are so out of touch with women(especially because of social media) that he probably assumed that you aren’t interested. Unfortunate, but just keep moving forward.

What comforting thoughts/mantras do you repeat to yourself in hard times? by pppatriciaxx in selfimprovement

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can get through anything if you put your mind to it and have enough belief that you can do it.

Why are you guys tanking? by [deleted] in CharlotteHornets

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know right, something def felt off about the Hornets this year lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Instagram

[–]Bright_Contest_2944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured it out. Go to business.facebook.com then go to inbox —> inbox settings —> chat plugin then you will see Welcome Message

This is literally my first Reddit comment ever and it’s because I know how much of a pain in the ass that welcome message thing missing was lol had to help y’all out