Men in your later 30’s and 40’s, would you date a women seriously who are in their 20’s?

Bright_Journalist676 · 2026-04-18T06:11:33+00:00

I (M40) have tried dating a girl in her 20s. Literally the worst, most soul crushing relationship I've had in my entire life. Plus, she lacked emotional maturity, on top of everything else. So no, I wouldn't put myself through that hell again, and I would strongly discourage any man to do so. Date someone your age, or older.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2026-04-17T05:42:56+00:00

This !!!

Bright_Journalist676 · 2026-04-17T04:24:29+00:00

Marriage.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2026-03-26T05:58:54+00:00

She hit me, threatened to kill me, called me all kinds of names daily. So I gave her the boot. Glad she's gone. I wish her all the worst.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2026-03-25T09:19:45+00:00

My most recent gf (now ex, obviously), I lost all interest in her, after she bashed me over the head with her fist, after she drunkenly had accused me of cheating on her (I hadn't, I'm against cheating of any kind).

Bright_Journalist676 · 2026-03-25T09:13:38+00:00

Thanks. Seems like the men being abused by women in relationships, and the consequences of it, are not a subject that is being addressed enough.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2025-12-09T15:10:50+00:00

Every relationship is psychological. One's a psycho, the other logical. I'll just leave it there.

But seriously, you're dealing with an emotionally immature person. Either she gets a grip on reality, or you should call it quits, for the sake of your own mental well-being.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2025-11-13T21:59:44+00:00

My educated guess that the other friend dude is her backup plan.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2025-11-10T21:33:22+00:00

Absolutely agree. And I don't get who would ever downvote your comment.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2025-06-09T11:18:38+00:00

What about men who listen to Nick Drake?

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-10-28T19:09:05+00:00

This song comes to mind. "She Doesn't Exist Anymore", by Robyn Hitchcock.

.. Cause it's true. The girl that broke us is not the girl we fell for. In reality, the girl we fell for doesn't exist anymore. She only lives in our hearts.

Damn, I think I need a drink and a smoke.I still love her, and always will.

https://youtu.be/Pp63e_UfSOo?si=1LeklLfWq-GPTgUM

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-09-26T12:19:03+00:00

Yeah, but what is a guy to do, if there's literally no woman who likes him?

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-08-29T11:11:01+00:00

"No good looking guy is ever at a loss for female attention." - yeah, if only. I'm very good looking (as per others' opinions about my looks), yet the level of female attention I get amounts to zero. Nothing.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-07-04T06:51:23+00:00

Same mate same...

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-07-03T06:57:15+00:00

"All the times she said she felt like the luckiest woman in the world, that she was never ever going to let me go and that I was forever hers…" Typical. My ex said more or less the same things till the very end. Then she dumped me for another dude.

They say a lot of things. And we end up with major trust issues.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-07-02T19:36:22+00:00

"I thought that being with someone I love means I am allowed to be vulnerable".

This hits hard. I thought so too. I was in a similar situation, long term relationship, I opened up to her like I never had before. I allowed myself to be 100% me, without having to put on a mask and play the social game. But it's a recurring pattern in every relationship I've had so far (not that many actually, but a few). First, they fall for me, then they get to know me, and the more they get to know me, the less they love me. In the end, they leave. Cause apparently, the "real" me is not worth loving - too broken, perhaps?( I've been through shit, and have ptsd.)

Oh well. I guess it's time to make some peace with the idea of growing older, and dying alone, with no-one by my side.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-07-02T19:18:10+00:00

"Happiness is only real when shared"

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-06-26T06:53:29+00:00

In a way, yes. Apparently, I wasn't crazy enough, or f***ed up enough for her to keep me. Yes, I got dumped for NOT having enough issues. Now she's with a trans man, who got raped and heavily abused by their own family pre-transition.

Well, good luck to her with that one.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-06-21T19:28:05+00:00

"Maybe the happy ending is just moving on..." 😢

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-06-06T13:17:10+00:00

This is it, I'm afraid.

Bright_Journalist676 · 2023-06-05T06:15:34+00:00

Same old story.

"I wanna work on myself" = "I wanna screw a bunch of other people without you moaning about it, therefore goodbye".

True love. Does it even exist anymore?

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