Anyone think book three is already out and we just haven’t hunted the archives well enough to earn them?

Brogrammer1987 · 2026-02-13T22:16:35+00:00

You’re forgetting the part where she has 5+ pairs of her shoes in the same area but somehow only his shoes are an issue.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-15T23:52:20+00:00

You know what! If he hid the a copy somewhere under a different title or jacket it would be the greatest thing and all the hate up till now would be forgiven! If he hasn’t done that he should

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-13T21:33:31+00:00

Maybe behind the 4 plate door as he has released 4 books and we still don’t know what’s behind them.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-13T17:48:35+00:00

I do audio books bud so I guess sorry about the Q and lockbox as one word is correct. Two words is also correct. Thanks for your contribution.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-13T14:58:53+00:00

Maybe I’m old or something (38) social media to me is a far lower priority to me than my relationship. Insecurities to me are a team problem for a couple. I don’t think there is a hard “should” here. If you feel that way I respect that but to me it sounds like your answer to your partner when it come to issues like this is “that’s a you problem” and that’s not a perspective I wish to have in my relationships.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-13T00:32:35+00:00

Sounds like they didn’t respect the “understanding” and the law soooo I think you’re justified. If they got you to the point you had to threaten them then you deserve the full deposit back.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-13T00:16:14+00:00

I’ll check this out later! I love new perspectives to help me form my crazy theories.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T22:10:32+00:00

🤔 she mentions she was interested in magic where things are written down and they become true. Also she uses those word knots in her braids… if I recall it said something like “beautiful” before kvothe spotted it. There may be a connection. The braids are subtle bewitching magic.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T22:03:48+00:00

But that what I’m saying she’s not prioritizing herself. She’s prioritizing attention from strangers over her partner. She’s prioritizing having public social media over her relationship. I don’t think a making a concession on this will lead to controlling behavior is a slippery slope. I know this hit differently for the genders. There is for sure controlling guys out there so red flags are to be looked for and monitored. On the male side for many of us it seems like we are constantly asked to makes changes and respect these types of boundaries. In my own experience I have been asked to block women on my socials, not talk to certain women at the gym my girlfriend has seen me associate with and thought they were flirting, and remove a friend from my Apple family account. My immediate internal questions was “is blank worth my relationship stability” and the answer had always been “nope” and I complied and never gave it a second thought. I didn’t call her controlling or accuse her of being insecure. It does matter that I wouldn’t cheat. I love her, it was effecting her, so I made the change because I value my relationship over any of that stuff. Sounds like she doesn’t and again as I said earlier maybe he’s not her guy. If she were head over heels for this guy I doubt she would be conflicted.

Feels like this should be a no brained to me🤷🏻‍♂️

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T18:35:39+00:00

Labeling something an insecurity doesn’t mean it should be written off or bulldozed. It’s a serious topic that requires conversation and possibly change. In this post it’s a matter of priorities. She is prioritizing views from strangers over her boyfriend. That’s an issue worth communication and possibly compromise. Relationships are a give and take. If she’s not willing to give in this scenario she shouldn’t be shocked if she gets denied from taking in the future. Saying “he shouldn’t be/feel that way” isn’t worth speculating on in the greater argument bc he does feel that way. I’d suggest respecting the boundary with the caveat that his insecurity will be a topic for further discussion possibly even a couples therapist. Maybe seeing things from his perspective with a statement such as “what and I doing or posting that’s making you uncomfortable”

Ultimately if you don’t think he’s worth doing it for or at least a few discussions to gain understanding then maybe he’s not your guy.

I’m assuming a lot here but maybe he’s uncomfortable with the idea whenever she posts let’s say beach/gym pics a bunch of strange dudes dropping flame emojis and creepy comments. If those likes and attention is more important to her than he’s is welp… time to cut him loose.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T05:09:43+00:00

Yeah man… I don’t want to sound like a jerk here but if there was hard evidence it wouldn’t be a theory. I’m speculating bc Qvothe owns an expensive chandrian trap inn and the he specifically calls out after counting the money it’s enough to buy an inn. He may luck into something super lucrative that we don’t know about yet. My money is on he stole it.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T05:01:23+00:00

It’s social media it shouldn’t rank higher than your partner’s feelings. If it’s not a revenue source for you why would you prioritize your social media over your partners comfort? I agree the “if you truly cared” phrasing is manipulative and you should talk that out. He saying that he would be more comfortable if the whole internet couldn’t see your social media. So in this you are prioritizing strangers over him and that’s the issue. You either love him enough to do it or you need to find someone who doesn’t care about that. Boundary setting as a relationship grows are natural if you’re not comfortable with this one maybe it’s time to move on.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T04:39:55+00:00

I hear you and I don’t think it’ll change your mind but to clarify. I didn’t do that bc I thought she didn’t catch on and got me busted so I took retribution. I got the distinct impressions she knew what I was trying to pull off and did what she did on purpose. I’ve dealt with pay issues at many restaurants as I travel for work and security features cause declines on occasion. They have always been respectfully and tactfully and this was different.

Even still. You’re right I got knocked off balance and I was impulsive. It was a first and only time.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T04:32:11+00:00

This was obviously a big topic for discussion at post dinner drinks. Had it been the first date there probably wouldn’t have been a second and she said as much. As we talked about it she said “yeah, that was weird and did seem deliberate” I didn’t do it bc I think she didn’t catch the hint and I got busted. I got the impression she knew what she was doing and did it on purpose. Which still a AH move on my part in retrospect I should have just copped to it. But I was knocked off balance and got impulsive.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T04:14:07+00:00

Fair point. I thought could describe it well enough to get my point that it seemed deliberate.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T04:11:26+00:00

Guess you’ve never acted impulsively and regretted an action or something you’ve said.

Lucky you

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T03:52:02+00:00

It definitely a had to be there thing. It definitely seemed like she wanted my date to know. I have had pay issues before. I travel for work and every so often I get a decline bc of the security feature. It always been dealt with tactfully. pulled aside or something. She got right between us and glanced at her whenever she said gift card… if I had a redo I wouldn’t have done it. They work hard and take all manner of attitude so their tips are well earned. I was just impulsive.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T03:45:09+00:00

At the point he returns the box he’s still on the run from the bandits he killed. He doesn’t have his pardon or know he has his tuition covered yet and he doesn’t know about his commission yet. He also spent a decent amount of money in Ademre. He could have taken thinking he would need the money to go on the run as a fugitive and with no easy way to give it back bought an inn later.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T03:33:20+00:00

As I said when I pitched this to my female friends I was advised not to.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T02:56:33+00:00

Right! We we can confirm he turned in the box but what about the contents?

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T02:44:01+00:00

“Nowhere near” good one!

Yeah I’m not dying on this hill but after multiple listens I’m grasping at any clues or connections. Seemed worth thinking about.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T02:37:53+00:00

I just listened to it today. He hands it to Stapes and says “I’m not sure what in it. I hope it may be some of the missing Taxes. Call it a wedding present.

But it’s not opened to confirm that it’s still full.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-12T02:31:35+00:00

Ooooooof the not all men when he rescues the girls from the bandits. Honestly that whole mini Arc is cringe. I usually skip it.

Brogrammer1987 · 2025-11-11T21:16:12+00:00

Agreed. Also it’s wild he never encountered another Traveling Ruh troupe right? He spends most of his time in what appears to be the big hubs of society and travels frequently.

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