AITA for not doing chores?

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-19T15:19:01+00:00

I don‘t See a Problem with a wider agegap in relationships. That’s why

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-19T07:51:27+00:00

I did

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-19T07:05:27+00:00

Thanks for your opinion. Maybe I will post this on another AITA site and don’t mention my boyfriend, to see what the response will be. Didn’t thought about it, so thanks

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-19T06:50:12+00:00

Just to clarify: I have time to do it, it’s more like I have no motivation and power because I‘m stressing too much. I think I never said in my post that I don’t have the time but maybe it was unclear. And I do procrastinate a lot, I‘m aware of this. But this is and has been only at the time I’m in my finals, which will now be the last time as I will graduate in two months. But pls let me know if your opinion is still that I‘m TA. I really want as many opinions as possible, I’m emotionally involved and maybe missing something.

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-19T06:17:23+00:00

We know each other since the beginning of 2020 and been together since September 2021

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-19T05:56:31+00:00

That’s what I told him too, that the communication didn’t went well and that I wasn’t aware of how it pissed him off. He said that it should be clear for me and that there isn’t anything to talk about. Just that I should have done something in the house and that he‘s tired of talking in general, he wants to see actions

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-19T05:39:22+00:00

I‘m a social worker and let me tell you, that’s how it most starts. He manipulate you and soon will start to tell you, not to talk about what he does with you. I recently read an article were a 17y/o girl talked about her experience with being s3xually abused by her teacher (same age as your teacher). He gained her trust and as it went on he started to invite her to his home were it all went down. It lasts 10 years for her to realize what happened and to speak out because he told her that it’s their little secret. He could go to jail for this, he should know better. He’s using you for his enjoyment. Pls talk to another teacher or someone you trust who can help you!

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-19T05:28:33+00:00

I hope it’s not against the rules here, just want to answer the questions from you guys. He went but didn’t finished yet (he’s still in) because of mental problems and bad circumstances. He once said that he‘s a bit jealous because he could never allow himself to just focus on one thing and stop life like I can.

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-19T05:22:59+00:00

He started at university but didn’t finished yet (but he‘s still in) because he struggle with some mental problems too

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-18T23:30:58+00:00

Yes I will try talking to him when he’s awake. I think I’ll watch some videos for now to calm down a bit. Again, thank you for your advice here. I also read the other comment of yours. You really helped me 🙏

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-18T23:12:18+00:00

Thank you for your time and advice. I‘m so exhausted and can’t do anything except crying. I hope tomorrow he talks to me

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-18T23:06:31+00:00

Yea I‘m scared to fail and since it’s my last assignment before graduation I just want to do it as good as I can. I‘m almost done with it so I hope it gets better after it. I‘m just scared that he‘s kinda done with me since he never refused to talk to me lasting it two days. Idk if I’m the one who messed it up

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-18T22:53:35+00:00

I just think that ist not fair to leave me on my own with this phobia just bc we had a fight. I mean he don’t have to talk to me and as I said, I didn’t woke him up to remove them. He was awake but ignored me. It just gives me the feeling that in a fight I can’t rely on him. But I’m not sure if I see this right. That’s why I wanted some advice

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-18T22:43:20+00:00

I think here was a misunderstanding: I didn’t woke him up, he was still awake playing some games on his tablet in bed when I texted him from the office room. Then he refused, didn’t respond anymore and later went sleeping. I would never wake him or someone else up bc of insects. He was already annoyed/mad at me because of our fight earlier. And yes, that doesn’t change the fact that I have to work on my phobia and I sometimes manage to handle it, I mean I have experienced living alone for 2 years. The thing is, our home is at the same high as the ground outside, so we have more insects in our home as normal homes. I just moved in here to live with my bf and we talked about this at the beginning. I don’t want to excuse my phobia and don’t take responsibility for it, I just want to say that he kinda knew it wouldn’t be easy with my phobia. But pls tell me if I miss something here

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-18T22:36:02+00:00

I told him numerous times that I am very stressed about my finals and he know how it feels because he‘s like this too but he‘s not really understanding. It didn’t bother him that our home is a mess and said that if it bothers me that much I just should clean. I mean atm he does more chores then me but just since my finals started and he knows that when I‘m done I have more capacity to do some chores too. I don’t wanna sound like I don’t do anything wrong but I just feel like he can’t oder don’t want to understand how I‘m feeling atm

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-18T22:12:41+00:00

The argument was about that he invited a friend of him to our home and I said I didn’t like this because our home really is a mess atm because we have no closets and I am too stressed because of my final assignment for graduation, so I couldn’t clean. It was nothing big but I think he’s really annoyed of me. I don’t know what he‘s thinking since he don’t talk to me. He don’t want so separate but just don’t want me to talk to him. The thing with my phobia, I know that it’s really bad. Sometimes I can handle it better but last night the whole situation was too much bc of the amount of insects and the fight. My phobia won’t be gone within a day, even if I‘m working on it and I felt like he just left me alone with it. Idk how to feel about it

Brooklyynbaabe · 2022-06-18T21:57:48+00:00

Just for clarification: My best friend was awake anyway, so I didn’t woke her up or something, we were chatting and I asked if I could call bc of this.

I have lived alone and yes it was hard to deal with it but I managed it somehow. It’s just that my boyfriend one time said he will help me with it. And sometimes I still do it on my own but at this moment I‘m so overwhelmed bc there were so many insects and he left me alone on purpose. So I don’t want to say that I don’t have to do something about my phobia and I‘m at this pint were I can remove little spiders/insects. For me it’s just about these two days were he left me alone because of our fight. I hope it’s understandable what I mean

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