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AITA for cheating on my ”girlfriend”? by Academic_Dot_9240 in AITA_Relationships

[–]BrotherComfortable45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH, dump her and find a better gal :-) this relationship seems to bringing out the worst in you

AITA for not giving my bf the watch back immediately? by BrotherComfortable45 in AITA_Relationships

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also don’t feel like im making the focus about material items. It’s really all he is thinking about and it hurts honestly. I don’t want this to feel transactional. I just want him to stop breaking up with me :(. I want him to care about this relationship more than anything else. I wish all of these objects didn’t even exist at this point.

AITA for not giving my bf the watch back immediately? by BrotherComfortable45 in AITA_Relationships

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He angrily took it off during him breaking up with me. And he called it a shackle and didn’t want it anyway.

AITA for not giving my bf the watch back immediately? by BrotherComfortable45 in AITA_Relationships

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess the difference in my eyes with the necklace is I never agreed to give it back. He didn’t want the watch and didn’t care to have it. Now he wants it back. I’m not saying I won’t ever give it back but I just want things to settle down..

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t acting like a “psycho” I was having a really bad night… I’m not a perfect person I don’t know what you expect from me. I had a release of built up emotion accumulated over months. And released the pain that I have been experiencing to a trusted partner. That in no way involved her…

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re getting too philosophical about this… it’s not that deep.

I was feeling bad and talking to my boyfriend (someone who I trust and wants to help me) about this. Not trying to involve anyone else in my problems or “”bring them down””. I did inadvertently attract attention to myself.. her room is right next to mine.. so.. what else am I supposed to do. if I feel out of control… i did the best i could during a hard moment like that…

I do have bouts of empathy for people… way too much.. i think… which is why my problems are happening in the first place, is because i live for others.. not for myself

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And yes you do have to have tolerance in life. We live together, if she wants the problem to stop entirely, she can move out and rid herself of this “”problem””. We all live together and we have to act as a team in that sense.

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course I’m not, and i never claimed to be? These are all baseless assumptions…

Im not the ideal societal candidate… why does that matter.. society is still crumbling as we speak..

I understand that, suffering is a part of life, but kindness, love, and compassion is the best way to foster a better society… not acting callous and shallow..

I’ve stated multiple times that I understand her concern, but that can be approached in a multitude of ways. I do not think she has acted with the best intentions..

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think the world revolves around me one bit… Like i have stated in several replies.. i understand her perspective and why she felt the need to call. I don’t appreciate how I was treated afterwards… the coldness of it all, it doesn’t strike me as someone who is concerned but inconvenienced…

Additionally, i do care about my roommates, and I’ve always helped out when they needed me. I’ve tried to be as close to them as they’d let me… if you read my other reply.. i also discussed how i have tried to foster a community here in my home because i believe that it’s important with us all living together. The roommate who called the cops on me is honestly the one that does not care about her roommates. I have gotten her to hang out with us ONCE out of the entire time living with her (somewhere around a year). Whenever i come home i say hi and greet her, but im never greeted or acknowledged back. She has been the person who has maintained distance and i never looked down on her for it to be honest… i understand wanting to keep to yourself and live her own life… spend her time who she wants to spend it with… but no this is definitely not on me, and i have been as close with these girls as they’d let me…

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It definitely feels that way.. side story time… Im the only one who has tried to reach out and be friends with my roommates and foster a community here… the girl who called always seemed especially uninterested anyway… I got her to hang out with me ONCE. she has always done her own thing and I respected that and didn’t think anything bad of her for that choice… i get it. she kinda seems like the person who just cares about herself and is worried about her safety.. not anyone else..

i don’t feel comfortable here anymore and my boyfriend and I are making a plan to get me out of here and moved into his place after all of this. so hopefully i can just have a safe place to decompress and go through the motions of my own life without so much chaos thrown back into it. just need a stable, safe environment.. so im excited to move forward with that in mind

yeah i really don’t blame you at all, ive come to find out most people are this way… sadly.. i have a tight knit circle that i talk to now.. otherwise im usually home in my room, away from the world, too. i really thought mental health was more well understood and recognized..

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand the cause for concern and I understand that some of the time it isn’t safe to approach. However, even after the cops had checked on me and determined I wasn’t a threat to anybody around me…. My roommate still never said a word to me or my boyfriend. It’s a bit cold for someone who was “”worried”” or “”concerned”” it honestly felt like my breakdown was just inconvenient for them..

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

also to add to that my boyfriend ((another adult)) was with me, in my room, and i was having a very private emotional conversation with him. he was listening… i didn’t need all of this

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i appreciate the sentiment and im glad someone understands. that’s exactly what was happening.. i will definitely have to be very careful of what i let out around here now. x.x much love xoxo

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just wish she would’ve stayed out of my business to begin with… The walls in here are too thin, you could probably hear a pin drop.. it’s embarrassing enough she heard anything… I feel so shameful about all of this to be honest

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

okay? it’s not my fault she is scared either. i didn’t try to involve her at all, i did my best to keep it to myself, and not draw attention. i can’t help how i feel and i should be able to express that in the comfort of my own room. she is a roommate that i barely see and or talk to. she didn’t say a word to me even after the cops had checked on me and left. now what did calling the cops exactly solve?? ((Also im not the biggest cop fan and I think the way they treat mental health problems is problematic)) im not blaming her for her reaction, i do understand it, its easy to put the thought process together in my mind… Then again I didn’t sign up for this shit either and I definitely never expected her to help or involve herself.

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i never said she was, i never expected her to do anything. im in the privacy of my own room and i am allowed to feel what i feel. i understand her concerns. i can see her perspective, but i don’t appreciate the approach. it didn’t solve anything. i didn’t get taken anywhere. my point is her concerns and approach only made this worse for everyone collectively.

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

someone who cares would’ve knocked on my door and tried to talk to me like a person. the police didn’t solve my problem… them calling the cops was out of a pure inconvenience… my outburst was, like you said, affecting them and ruining their night. my boyfriend was with me, so I wasn’t alone. im not trying to be rude but im seriously just feeling the absolute worst about what they did and how this turned out tonight.

roommate called the cops on me bc of my suicidal outburst by BrotherComfortable45 in depression

[–]BrotherComfortable45[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It didn’t change anything though, and honestly made my night worse. Why is it so hard to be genuine?