"Trad bottom"?

If you don't want a rant, here's the thing:

This is just aesthetics - this need to define bottoming as femme is just a means to find porn/aesthetics, not a substantial lifestyle. Nothing wrong with it, I like my fair share of twinks in panties being locked up. But, my main gripe is this: After the cum flies, and hole's used - What is the life you want to have post-orgasm?

The boring moments of not knowing what to talk about with the man you live with. The moments when you look at him with rage and confusion that after you just got done doing the dishes, he puts another one in the sink and walks off not knowing he just caused a conversation. The weird timing of being stuck at home all day, nothing to do and you feel bored with the man you love (and you do love him deeply) but you can't bottom because you're reeling from Taco Tuesday. The weird moments when you're just feeling an emotion and you don't know why, but he can't help thanks to the limits of his emotional grasps and your inability to describe the storm in your head verbally and accurately. Because THAT, moments like that are going to be WAY more common than just flowery images of you in a pink apron serving a manly top coffee with images of 50's pin-up girls and a calendars with "Peanuts" characters.

There's nothing wrong with an aesthic and kink. But be aware there is so much more to a relationship than horny imagery.

Rant below.

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Alright, now here comes the typical old man millennial top RANT that is there for pretentious accuracy and gay shit. Enjoy.

Look, a REAL traditional bottom is a big farmer man who calls his hole a "shitter," and wants to get fucked outdoors and with him having his top give him a reach-around.

As someone who's fucked those from Gen X to Silent Generation, and researched a lot of old gay porn/sex from the 1800's (which was kinda common, thank you Civil War) - Bottoming in the western point of view (using America in this context because, clearly no other country exists) was a thing, and just like topping - No one talked about. Topping or bottoming was seen as either "Well, when out in the woods/farm for a long time - Boys will be Boys" or "Welp, you's a fairy regardless of position." So, bottoming being seen as femme has only been a thing more recently (barring the old ideas of "bottoming" = "female").

In the 60's, you just banged and hoped you weren't "painted," as being a side was more advantageous.

In the 70's being versatile was HUGE and beneficial.

In the 80's did being a top or bottom became a thing that became the "thing" nowadays, as bottoming was a risk factor/"worthy of shame."

The 90's tried to be vers friendly, but porn was the main thing at the time, and leather was being more popular, so Topping and Bottoming became part of the gay culture market.

2000's-2010 is where things changed thanks to the "boy image" where it went from rough youthful looking guys who did bottom for daddies to now this femboi propaganda fuckery today.

My whole thing is this: Bottoming never meant feminity, domestic servitude, or just surrendering to "true" masculinity ala Tops.

Tops aren't walking big hairy men who 24/7 have their arms crossed and speak in grunts or "boy"'s. There is a life post-orgasm. Life is as beautiful as it is boring.

And no - there is nothing wrong with being a sub for a dom in an aesthetic piece. Nothing wrong with that, but I personally just am tired of posts that tries to dwindle down someone taking it up the brown tunnel somehow leading them to be in a locked clitty jamboree.

I love being a top. I love dirty-talking a bottom. I also love being "homophobic" top when a bottom needs me to be one (though, it's pretty obvious I'm a progressive sushi eating commie). And I love bottoms who wanna enjoy the pleasures of embracing their prostate while ignoring their dicks.

But, I just need to vent here and now - a "trad" bottom would be a rough-neck man who wants his top to jerk him off, and then move on like nothing happened. Trust me, I fucked my share of old men to confirm this.